Fear As A Marriage Counselor

God created people for connection. The first thing that God deems “not good” is Adam’s aloneness. Our Creator built humans to relate to other people in our lives, as an echo of the perfect relationship of the Trinity Although God designed us for unity, sin corrupted everything when it entered our world, relationships included. According to Dr. Gary Smalley, all people struggle with a “core fear” (19-20). These core fears cause us to engage in a “Fear Dance” that keeps our relationships in constant conflict. Throughout the book, Smalley examines new ways to look at conflict and steps to start a “new dance” to replace our dysfunctional fear dances.

Kate said this entry's quote when she was fearfully climbing a mountain on the adventure reality television show, Running Wild with Bear Grylls. These words of wisdom talk about how it's a good thing when a person feels fear if it involves going after something he or she really wants. It means that person is facing that fear and when a fear is faced, it's being challenged. Fear will not go away permanently until we keep challenging it and getting past it. Although it may seem like it goes away when you decide to not take a risk, it's only temporary. It's still locked in your core waiting to come out again the second you encounter another risk that you really want to take. If we're not feeling fearful, we're not doing something that is worth the risk.

Fear is a feeling we’ve all felt before and it’s completely humane to feel that way from time to time. Mainly, people have great fears that interfere with their daily life and it becomes a problem. The issue with fears is

Fear is one of the most basic and vital aspects of human behavior. To our ancestors, it was often the only thing that kept them alive, but today, with less and less things in the natural world people have to be afraid of, it usually just keeps them from working towards their goals. Fear can prevent one from pursuing their dream in that it forces us to be afraid of the future and can act as a catalyst for people giving up.

Do you want to know how to face and conquer your fear or phobia? According to Fears

“Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.”-Karl Augustus Menninger.

The idea of fear is a fairly simple concept, yet it carries the power to consume and control lives. Fears have stemmed from an inadvertent psychological response to situations deemed threating to one’s personal safety, but have evolved into a complex web of often illogical misconceptions which are able to cloud a person’s judgment and result in situations often worse than originally intended. Fears can be hard to quell, but it has been shown the best way to overcome fears is often to face them, as author James Baldwin asserted when he wrote, “To defend oneself against fear is simply to insure that one will, one day, be conquered by it; fears must be faced.” Baldwin makes strongly qualified statement, and his idea fears must be faced to

Fear can change people in many ways. Three of them are by making people afraid of change, by making them avoid possible death, and also by staying away from what they fear.

In this TED talk video, the necessity of it is because in general public it is told to ignore fear instead of using it as a tool in life, which prompts us for not being well prepared with having something going on all around us. Additionally, our disposition to accept control and we compose more clear however nonsensical worries as opposed to the more honest yet sensible ones. Karen Thompson Walker uses cases of fear to portray this from standard society today, including critical instances of affairs the world appearances, for instance, moderate ecological change and coronary ailment, getting her point across to her group that she has identified as her audience, which is 21st century Americans.

Fear is a worldwide, fundamental problem. Everyone has it, just maybe different levels than others. There are some people who can repress it more than others, or can be more afraid of different things. Fear is what drives us to do certain things. For example failure, we’re afraid to fail. We have an instinct because we are afraid to die, or afraid to get hurt, or afraid someone we love might get hurt. So fear can drive us to save the people we love, if they are close to dying, even if saving them could kill us as well. We can be afraid of failure in life so we keep going and keep pushing through the work. But there is the down side to fear, just as everything else. Fear can make us back down from a situation that could be good for us because we could be afraid of the unknown, which, in that situation, we would not want the fear with us. In Cry, the Beloved Country there’s this quote, “and now the fear is back again, the fear of the unknown,” (pg.44) and the first thing that popped into my head when I read that quote was, “when did the fear ever leave?” Because the thing is there is always fear no matter how hard you try to push it to the back of your

cannot kill your fears like your battle enemies, all you can do is learning how to deal with

Fear is something that large amounts of people have encountered at least once at some point in their lives. It has been said to have caused a variety of outcomes, many of them being largely negative. Therefore, it is a common human response to react to fear by counteracting it with positivity and/or success. The idea people have of what fear is depends on the person. In the article “How Fear Works”, for example, fear is defined as a “chain reaction in the brain that starts with a stressful stimulus and ends with the release of chemicals” (Layton 1). The website “Psychology Today” defines fear another way, calling it “a vital response to physical and emotional danger” ("Fear Paranoia”). There are several other definitions people have on the

A funny thing happened when I got dumped, no one felt sorry for me. Everyone knows that misery loves company, but that’s only when something truly bad happens equally to both people. Why is it that the most miserable people I know always profess that they are happy, buy look as if all the windows on the upper floors are locked and the roof should be off limits to them? If I hear another person use the negative for a positive as an example, I may actually believe upping their medication might not be the answer. But then and again, it definitely wouldn’t hurt. Relationships are strange enough inherently without adding that pesky thing called happiness.

**3rd Transition** Now that we are aware of the amount of fear, and why there is so much of it, lets turn our attention to some methods of prevention.

Fear is the number one obstacle everyone must overcome at some point in their life. When the word fear is brought up I like to think of past situations that I experienced. There are many different methods used to conquer and learn from our fears such and exposure therapy, having a growth mindset, and thinking positive. For example, when I was younger fear was my worst enemy, School was the main reason that caused my fear. My fear of failure was my biggest obstacle growing up so I used that as a method to learn from my fears.