Female Masochism

Sexual sadism and fantasies Sexually motivated thrill and lust serial killers use sadism as an expression of their hate for the world. These serial killers are particularly distasteful as they kill not only for pleasure but also to sexually humiliate their victims. The prime reason that they sexually torture and kill is to obtain sexual satisfaction and orgasm which they are unable to attain in any other way. The sexualized component of the sadism is not always apparent, but when it is explicit, it is especially heinous and often involves stabbing, beating, ripping, cutting and mutilation. The aggressive attacks on the victim may be understood as symbolic expressions of the killer’s hate for the world.

Consciously, the woman communicates that she yearns for her lover, yearns to engage in sexual intercourse with him. Subconsciously, however, the need to “bear” her partner’s “weight” indicates that there is a burden attached to her expectations surrounding this engagement. This specific word choice takes the passion out of the erotic, so much so that the psychoanalytic interpreter is left to wonder why this woman is actively pursuing something that she clearly does not enjoy. To draw upon the developing thesis, the answer is that she does so in order to avoid acknowledging her repressed sexuality. In this way, the lover is not a ‘lover’ in the romantic sense of the word, but rather a sexual object. He is an objectified prop manipulated in order to fulfill

Not surprisingly for quite a few people, there seems to be a cloudy undertone in their consciousnesses that something exists amiss; as if a component within them became ill-informed or altered. Perhaps wondering why one’s Creator would be extremely generous to grant a person the incredible gift of their sexual beings, giving to them a desire for the warmth of love that longs for intimate closeness, sexual contact, and the romancing of their beings. Yet sadly, a great deal of the time, “this exact matter” dispenses a devastating amount of ungodly pain, causing misery and heartache. Undoubtedly, this perplexity transpires into confusion; for within this paradox dwells the sexual ‘bondage’ of humanity. From the elite superstar, to the down and out

Pain, being something that most humans would try to get away from at all costs is something that is sought out and even craved by the masochist. The pain fantasy seems to be the one that has the widest range of practices. According to Baumeister, some people enjoy "an old fashioned, bare bottomed, over the knee spanking," (Psychology Today 47) where others would prefer having hot candle wax dripped on them. Still others enjoy needles and being whipped.

Upon deeper examination, if this truly were a repressed sexual desire, this interaction could be an example of Freud’s Oedipus complex. However, in this scenario, it is

His student, Helene Deutsch, especially argued that female sexuality was rooted in the vagina, and that a normal, proper woman neither had sex too much or too little, and was subordinate, passive, dependent, and maternal- a female sexuality rooted in the clitoris, she argued, is associated with improper sexuality and improper femininity in general (455-457). A woman, she argued, could adapt to any sexual practice, and enjoy it- even rape (456). Certainly, no effort should be made to please her. Hirschman and Berger agreed, connecting vaginal orgasm not only to proper femininity, but heterosexuality as well (459). Thus, when Koedt and other feminists attacked the “vaginal orgasm”, they were arguing against not only the idea that orgasms in women were mostly vaginal, but also the expectations for femininity associated with

Sexual drives are the basis of human behaviour because the goal of most humans is to find a sexual partner for comfort and reproduction. When the narrator visits his lover’s grave, he reminisces about the times with his lover and is overwhelmed by grief. The narrator longs to be loved as he says, “Then I saw it was getting dark, and a strange, mad wish, the wish of a despairing lover, seized me” (Maupassant 151). The loss of his lover penetrates his mental anguish as it is human nature to desire to be loved. Thus, he is greatly affected by the loss of his sexual partner, as sexual drives often dictate behaviour.

Known as the Two Sex theory, devised by historian Thomas Laqueur, female sexuality would be characterized purely by a woman’s reproductive potential, where the concept of an innate maternal instinct would become the new prioritized ideal. The female orgasm was renounced by a new essence of masculine superiority. This notion can be asserted with the Phallocentric inclination of the late 18th century, examined by historian Tim Hitchcock, as period characterized by penetration and precedence of the phallus. This “both encouraged and made possible the denigration of female sexuality and perceived passivity.” Consequently this caused the de-emphasis of female sexual pleasure and desire. However, female sexual identity would reemerge with potency, attributed to social flux, the emerging field of sexology and disposition of the interwar years.

Sexual fetishes are a form of intense arousal due to a fixation of an inanimate object or a specific human characteristic. Types of fetishes can be viewed as acceptable and others can be seen as abnormal based on societal standards. However, the unknown factor of these fetishes is whether they are innate or adapted throughout the course of life. The factors that make up the defining line between normal and abnormal fetishes are somewhat undetermined, however, it is interesting to study whether the causes of both share similarities in their development. These fetishes can create changes in social behavior, thinking and overall function.

Sexuality is very diverse, in some instances normality is based on the cultural context of the individual's society. In "The other side of desire" by Daniel Bergner, the author goes in depth into the lives of four individual's whose lust and longing have led them far down the realms of desire. The current paper addresses the four individual's Jacob, the Baroness, Roy, and Ron each exhibits a paraphilia that may or may not meet the full criteria in the DSM-5. Furthermore, each's specific paraphilia is conceptualized and explained in depth. Also, countertransferential issues anticipated before working with these individual's is analyzed and clarified. Also, the apprehension of sexual arousal and sexual behaviors is conceptualized into normality

Freud describes child development as a series of psychosexual stages whereby the pleasure seeking ID becomes focused on certain erogenous zones and this psychosexual energy or libido is the sole force behind human behaviour. He examines how if at any

“A human being is essentially a sexual being”(Novak, 271). As David Novak above states, all humans are born with a natural inclination to fulfill his or her sexual right. Each person has needs that they yearn to have someone satisfy for them. The issue that isn’t so clear is how people satisfy these burning urges within them. We have discussed in class the many viewpoints that authors have presented us, some more liberal, others conservative, and some in between. In this paper, I will present David Novak’s idea of what good sex is, according to the values of traditional Orthodox-Conservative Judaism, as well as cover his view point on the morality of homosexual sex. To get a better understanding of Novak’s and others views, I will also discuss how a conversation may go between Novak and Yoel Kahn, another author who writes about Jewish ideas.

Julia Kristeva is a Bulgarian-French philosopher, psychoanalyst and feminist writer. Her work on abjection gives an engaging insight into human culture in terms of it’s relationship to larger overarching power structures. In Powers of Horror, Kristeva argues that the oppression of woman in patriarchal societies is constructed through fear of the abject. “The tremendous forcing that consists in subordinating maternal power (whether historical of phantasmic, natural or reproductive.)” (Kristeva, 1982, p.91) The abject refers to the human reaction of revulsion to the threat of breakdown between the subject and object, the self and other. The border which separates nature and culture, between human and non human. “The abject confronts us, on one

“In men, in general, sexual desire is inherent and spontaneous” whereas “in the other sex, the desire is dormant, if not non-existent, till excited” (457). Greg’s terminology is extremely power-laden. “Spontaneous” has the connotation of energy and activity, whereas “dormant” and “victim” imply inactivity. An important concept is the assumption that men, the “coarser sex,” act on women, the “weaker sex” (457).

BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism and is a type of sexual act that is considered “deviant” in our society since these acts violate social norms we have towards how sexual acts should be performed. BDSM is often performed by a dominatrix which is described as “a woman who takes the dominant or sadistic role in sado-masochistic sexual activities” while the man is subjected to the submissive role (Oxford English Press). This project seeks to understand the views on where BDSM stems from and the health benefits and drawbacks of BDSM. Two of the articles viewed BDSM as a healthy relationship while the other two articles argued that this act was unhealthy. In addition, two of the articles viewed BDSM as conforming to societal roles while the other two viewed it as being a social deviation.