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For Better Or For Worse: The Effects Of Divorce On Children

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Imagine that you are a child again. The world is bright, open, and full of possibilities. In your family you have two parents, a sibling, and maybe a dog. You even got an A on your last spelling test. Life is consistent, and things are pretty good. One day, your mom sits you down and explains that she and your dad are getting a divorce. Suddenly, everything is different. You have two Christmases, two separate birthday celebrations, and two bedrooms. But as you get older and learn more about the effects of divorce, you start to analyze your own situation and wonder whether your parents separation brought more good or bad. Some argue that divorce is a detrimental, life-altering situation that changes children, while others believe that it can …show more content…

Scholars of the Dartmouth Undergraduate Journal of Science and E. Mavis Hetherington, author of For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, agree that “approximately 75-80 percent of children develop into well-adjusted adults with no lasting psychological or behavioral problems” (Dartmouth Undergraduate Journal of Science). The Dartmouth Undergraduate Journal of Science openly criticizes studies performed on children of divorce, claiming that “one cannot generalize from these studies, because [scientists] often used non-representative samples such as clinical samples with pre-existing psychological problems and failed to employ standardized measures to produce reliable and valid data” (Dartmouth Undergraduate Journal of Science). Therefore, children of divorce must be examined carefully, in order to avoid biased data, but, “nevertheless, the vast majority of children possess great resilience and the ability to” to adjust accordingly to their new situation and thrive as intellectual and creative …show more content…

On one hand, the struggles of divorce cause stress in children's’ lives, and leave them to form mature, adult relationships without a strong marriage to look to for advice. Children must not be treated as though they are the cause of a separation because that kind of psychological damage is extremely intolerable On the other hand, the end of relationships is part of the natural progression in life, and children can potentially benefit from learning that truth early on. Children of divorce may also become more resilient than their peers, making them stronger students and employees later on in life. Undoubtedly, people who happily get married do not dream of divorce, however it is an unfortunate reality of many families. Furthermore, in these families all have different experiences, so it is extremely difficult to draw one conclusion for all these children. This issue focuses on whether or not divorce is harmful to children, and whether it causes irreversible psychological damage. Parents do their best to prevent separations from happening, however life moves quickly and sometimes people grow apart. Regardless, divorce is an extremely prevalent social issue in the United States, and it is important to impress upon children that no matter how divorce may affect them, it is under no circumstances ever their

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