Forgiveness In The Seventh Man

The seventh man should forgive himself for not saving K. because he did his best to save him, he gave him a good friendship, and K. was distracted. In “The Seventh Man” he loses his best friend to large wave during a storm. When the wave comes,

As I was reading the chapter on forgiveness in Psychology, Theology, and Spirituality in Christian Counseling by McMinn (2011), the personal life experience that jumped out to me was when I had to make the decision to truly forgive my ex-boyfriend and his parents for the emotional pain they caused me. After living in New Jersey for a month and spending time with my boyfriend and his family, working, and taking care of an elderly lady with dementia my world came crashing down on me. My ex-boyfriend’s parents discovered sin in his life and told me I could no longer pursue a relationship with him because of the sins he had committed. After finding out the sinful things my ex-boyfriend had done, I chose to forgive him. I also chose to give him a second chance at a relationship with me, but my effort to salvage our relationship was futile.

Forgiveness have important medicinal effect on health. Researchers and study have shown that people who forgive have less chances of health issues like heart attack and brain tumor. “People who hold tolerance views of human nature and don’t seem to nurse grieveness unduly tend to have blood pressures in the normal range” (Callwood, J. 2007, p. 153). Writer in the above findings tells her readers the medicinal effect of tolerance. She beautifully explains the positive effect of forgiveness in contrast with unforgiveness where her contrasting finding says “Unforgiving people, some studies show, are three times more likely to have heart diseases as people who don’t carry grudges”(Callwood, J. 2007, p.153). Writer here is addressed to people who cannot or do not forgive and tells them how harmful holding grudges are to their health. She beautifully explains the finding by telling first the negative effect of not forgiving in comparison to

Survivors guilt.... An emotion brought on by a traumatic experience. Thing like watching a fellow soldier or close friend die. In the story, “ The Seventh man” The narrator Goes through watching the death of his best friend K. This experience bring on survivor's guilt talked about in the story “The Moral logic of survivor's guilt.” Even though the narrator of the story had watched K die, he should have been able to forgive himself. Although there is a cost to surviving, no matter what he told himself it was not his fault that K had died so tragically.

It is also vital to look at Wilson’s view on the practice of forgiveness and how if an individual decides to ignore it, it can place a road block in their process of change. She believes that God speaks about forgiveness for the following reasons:” (1) we are all sinners with whom to relate so we’ll need to become skillful forgivers (2) God makes forgiveness a centerpiece of our healing process because living in un-forgiveness is so much worse (Wilson, 2001).

The Seventh Man was unsuccessful in saving his childhood friend, K. In spite of his lack of success, he should not have to live with guilt about this for his entire life. In Sherman’s editorial, she states that, “Subjective guilt, associated with this sense of responsibility, is thought to be irrational because one feels guilty despite the fact that he knows he has done nothing wrong.” (Sherman 154). The Seventh Man did not do anything wrong, therefore, if he were to feel guilt, it would be subjective. The failure to fulfil a task due to fear or another overpowering feeling is not the same as doing something incorrectly. The Seventh Man says, “What made me do this, I’m sure, was fear, a fear so overpowering it took my voice away and set my legs to running on their own.” (Murakami 138). This statement illustrates how he desperately wanted to do the right thing and run to his friend, but his feelings and subconscious thoughts drove him to do the opposite. This is something a person cannot be blamed for. Therefore, it would only be reasonable for the Seventh Man to forgive himself for what occurred.

Sometimes things are better off forgotten so one does not get too caught up in hatred. When the time comes to forgive someone or even oneself, one might find it very hard. The word forgiveness may have different meanings to some people. For example, some people may refer forgiveness as a way to lose weight off their backs. In Into The Wild, Jon Krakauer highlights the importance of forgiving the mistakes one has made, and the actions people around us make. Life’s experiences are not always easy to forget, nevertheless to move on from those experiences

The seventh man was so traumatised by what happened to k he had to move “ I couldn't go on living in the sight of the beach where k had been swept away”. This quote reveals that the wave altered his life in many ways. He says that “I stayed away from my home town for over forty years”. The seventh man was scared for forty years of his life because of something that happened to him as a child. Though many people claim that he was better of leaving because he meet new people.

“ ‘It just barely missed me, but in my place it swallowed everything that mattered most to me and swept it off to another world. It took years to find it again and to recover from the experience-precious years that can never be replaced.’ ”(Murakami 133) In the story, “The Seventh Man”, the narrator feels prodigious amounts of guilt for the loss of his friend K.. As a result, he spends his entire life remorsing about the loss of K., rather than living. The Seventh Man did not live… he existed. He existed for countless years, and did not learn to move on and live till many years later. What had happened was not his fault.

The narrator of “The Seventh Man,” by Haruki Murakami, struggles with the guilt of not being able to save his best friend from a horrendous wave for most of his life. His sleep is ridden with nightmares, and he chooses to never find love, so his future partner wouldn’t have to deal the constant burden of the Seventh Man’s fears. Although the Seventh Man feels strongly at fault for the death of his best friend, K, he should not blame himself for the tragic events that occured, because there was no way to prevent what happened.

Should the narrator of “The Seventh Man’ forgive himself for his failure of saving K?

The seventh man should forgive himself because if K was alive he wouldn't want the seventh man to be mad and hate himself. K would want the Seventh Man to forgive himself for his mistake. The Seventh Man did yell for K to move but K did not hear him and as a result he was eaten by a wave. Perhaps the seventh man should have tried to grab K, but he was really far out at the beach and he was probably worried that he would end up getting eaten by the wave just like K was another reason the Seventh Man should forgive himself is because he didn't create the wave to get K.

“agent regret”(Sherman page 155). This is when you think you are responsable for the death of someone but, there was nothing you could have done still, you feel responsable for that person death. “Just down to the beach”(Murakami page 136). He took his friend to the beach during a typhoon, which led to the death of his friend. He was the one who was responsable for the death of his friend.”Hurry, K! Get out of there”( Murakami page 138). He had yelled to his friend to try and help him but, there was no response.”I was frozen in fear”(Murakami page 138). He new a wave was coming and faild to act to save his friend , which is what got his best friend K

In general, self-forgiveness is identified by a common ability to exhibit self-respect in spite of the acceptance of wrong-doing (Hall, J., Fincham, D., 2005). I never considered the distinction between interpersonal forgiveness and intrapersonal forgiveness. While they share many similarities, there is even greater evidence of the differences between the two. One significant difference involves the consequences of withholding forgiveness from self. It is likely that intrapersonal unforgiveness can be much more detrimental than interpersonal. Hall & Fincham state “ Self-forgiveness often entails a resolution to change” (2005). It is this process of acceptance of one’s own imperfections and sinful nature that catapults a desire for self-improvement and growth. This is a critical component of healing the soul and beginning the journey to spiritual and mental health. Also enlightening was the declaration that one can experience pseudo self forgiveness by failing to acknowledge any wrong doing and convincing him/herself that they are without fault. Finally, I was struck by the notion that self-forgiveness will typically

Damian’s comparison and contrast of LTL’s case regarding forgiveness and Scripture, centered on transcendent, or servant, leadership and the beneficial by-products of forgiveness. Servant leadership not only lends itself to increased trust, as explained by Damian, but also enhanced performance. For example, one study identified that an outcome of servant leadership is a “climate of procedural justice” (Liden, Wayne, Liao, & Meuser, 2014, p. 1435), which is dependent on leaders who consistently demonstrate and promote forgiveness (2014). When employees perceive leaders as having a balance of fairness and forgiveness, job attitudes are also enhanced (2014). Further, as leaders ascribe to servant leadership, they are essentially satisfying