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Friend Zone: Dating and Romance

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Dating and romance are nebulous, universal concepts, and are therefore very common subjects for dialogue. This makes them perfect themes for comedy, as they provide the opportunity to highlight humorous differences apparent in men and women. In recent years, however, one popular attitude towards relationships has emerged, namely the “the friend zone.” This refers to the situation a person (typically male) finds himself in when a friend rebuffs his attempts at sex or romance. The label of “the friend zone” is a frame for this predicament, which is only humorous from the perspective of the “friend-zoned,” when it is actually a very narrow-minded and demeaning concept. When a television show, film, or comedian presents a similar …show more content…

His main claim is that men are unable to have female friends without wanting to have sex with them. This also paints men as the sexual aggressor, and women’s choices as constant obstacles to sex. He places all of the blame for an unhappy friendship on the women, for denying sex, and putting men in the “friend zone.” It’s the same position that Richard Pryor took twenty years earlier, and it’s been proven over and over to be a funny and successful topic for stand-up. It has been said that all comedy is based in truth, or just a distortion of truth, and there is a degree of merit to the claims Rock, Pryor, and others are making. Speaking in terms of evolutionary psychology, it may be true that men expect sex more often from a friendship than women do. According to one study, men rate sexual attraction and a desire for sex as more important than women do when initiating an opposite-sex friendship. This makes a “friend zone” situation very likely, as the two people have differing interests. But to portray this difference in interest as a woman’s refusal to “give it up” characterizes women as obligated to provide sexually. It teaches men to perceive women as nothing more than a person to have sex with, negating any other aspect of her identity or personality. Therein lies the issue: the media which identifies a cultural trend and responds to it may

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