Friends And Influence People By Dale Carnegie

In Abraham Lincoln, by George McGovern, McGovern summarizes and gives insight on one of the United States’ most well-known and highly praised presidents, Abraham Lincoln. McGovern thoroughly outlines Lincoln’s life, his struggles and how he became the great president that he was. One point McGovern continues to mention is how no matter how bad a situation was or even when people doubted Lincoln, he would take his defeats and preserve. In the beginning of the book, McGovern recounts Lincoln’s life as a kid and a young adult. He describes how no matter how bad Lincoln failed or how sad he was, “Lincoln would not resign himself to failure and loss; instead he learned from each experience and carried on” . In addition, McGovern continues to mention how Lincoln never stopped learning. From a young age, Lincoln loved to learn, read and expand his knowledge so he could fully analyze any situation. According to McGovern, this personality trait allowed Lincoln to work and rise up from a farmer’s son to the President of the United States. This trait, also, allowed Lincoln “to take a far more active role in managing military affairs” . Lincoln was able to come up with a new strategy for the Union to win the Civil War.

The presidency of Abraham Lincoln came during a highly radical and chaotic period of American history. For historians such as James McPherson, they see Lincoln as the greatest leader in American history. For McPherson, Lincoln succeeded in combining military pragmatism with the political ideologies of the North, as well as Lincoln’s own idealism, thus assuring Northern victory. However, not all historians agree that Lincoln was a masterful tactician. Chester Hearn, believes that although Abraham Lincoln was one of America’s most venerable statesmen, his presidency was marked by flaws and a general misunderstanding of how war is waged. McPherson’s Tried by War and Hearn’s Lincoln, The Cabinet and the Generals, make the argument for each of

I learned that connecting with people is need and a personal fulfillment. I am, and have always been, genuinely interested in people. In William Cronon’s, Only Connect, he quotes a friend’s father advising his son, that whenever he had a conversation, “his job was to figure out what’s so neat about what the other person does” (Cronon, 1998).

Williams shows that Lincoln's patience does wear thin when there are no early victories and the lack of aggressiveness on the Union side. Williams shows a gradual transformation on Lincoln's selection process. Initially each general was selected on characteristics such as battle experience and political backing. As the enemy holds out and there is inaction, Lincoln starts to doubt the ability of his generals and starts to seek generals who can win without excuses.

With high hope for the future, no prediction in regard to it is ventured.? The amplification and sugar-coating of this passage accentuates the statement he is trying to reason with the addressees. Once the attention is drawn, and all eyes are on him, he proceeds by exposing the tragedies that caused this mishap, and the catastrophic disaster they are enduring. ?Both parties deprecated war, but one of them would make war rather than let the nation survive, and the other would accept war rather than let it perish, and the war came.? Sympathetic toward both the north and south motives, he logically accepts that neither want to let their shield down, and lose everything they believe in. By delivering this compassion, Lincoln obtained listeners, as well as followers, and suddenly his compelling approach became effective.

Carnegie claims, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” (p.52). Smiling and remembering people’s name is a simple way to show interest in people, “…But forget… and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.” (p.73). Carnegie encourages us to be an active listener, “If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener,” (p.88) and to, “let the other person do most of the talking.”

Abraham Lincoln Abraham Lincoln is considered to be one of our greatest presidents in American history. During the Civil War, Lincoln was put under a great deal of pressure. As 16th president, he was faced with one of the hardest war Americans had to face, to fight within each other. Not only did he save the nation, he also freed thousands of slaves. He supported the idea of abolitionism, which is the freeing of slaves, and didn't want slavery to extend westward.

The reason for writing this book from McPherson’s point of view was because out of all the material out there about President Lincoln the vast majority of it is about other topics besides his role as Commander in Chief. McPherson believes that this is surely unthinkable due to the sheer amount of time and energy Lincoln had to put into being the commander of our army throughout the four long years the Civil War reigned. This book, in the eyes of James McPherson, is a long overdue explanation of Lincoln in his main role as Commander in Chief. He tells of numerous occasions when Lincoln must make important decisions that could make or break the union army. These

Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People gives several proven methods and examples on how to succeed in the business world. The book's chapters are comprised of how to handle people, how to be a successful leader, and how to win people to your way of thinking. The preface provides several ideas and suggestions that will help the reader get the most out of the book. The author suggests that the reader keep an open mind, and also suggest some other reading materials that will also help.

“The more you get out of this book, the more you’ll get out of life.” This is the claim that Dale Carnegie makes in reference to his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Carnegie proposes that there are four main ideas that one should use when dealing with people: 1) Know how to handle people, 2) Make people like you, 3) Win people to their way of thinking, and 4) Be a leader. These skills are essential not only in being a good manager, but also in dealing with people in day to day life.

In illustrating the first way to make people like you, Carnegie states that fact that the most used word in telephone conversations is “I”. He says this because the best way to win people over is to become genuinely interested in them and what they have to say. Using this method will work in professional settings just as much, if not more, than it will in personal settings. People want to talk to, buy from, do favors for, etc. for someone that they believe is genuinely interested in them.

Going off of this idea of criticism, I like how Carnegie touched upon it later in the book. Another principle of his is: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. This is such a key principle because, as stated above, criticism is necessary in some cases. The hard part about criticism is that it can invoke feelings of resentment. Therefore, in order to provide criticism in

Carnegie’s final point draws on a lot of previous points and really defines the tone of his philosophy. Positivity and optimism are driving factors throughout the book, exemplified in chapters surrounding giving appreciation, beginning with praise in conversation, generally praising improvements, and encouraging others. This point really connects well with Theme 1, as encouraging individuals and being genuinely interested in one another go hand in hand. By supporting another individual, you are demonstrating that you care about them, and are interested in their interests. In turn, they receive a lot of the aforementioned benefits of feeling a sense of importance and believing that they matter. It is difficult to argue against the favorable effects of being a positive person to others, so this section will overarch a few major supportive conclusions in the field.

Dale Carnegie’s works have long been studied to understand the intricacies of human nature and how applying this knowledge of human nature can be utilized by individuals to achieve a more successful and fulfilled life. One of his most read books, How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie, outlines how to become a better communicator, negotiator, leader, and “people person.” While this book can seem antiquated at certain points, the majority of the ideas Carnegie presents are just as applicable today as they were 80 years ago when the book was written. Furthermore, large portions of these ideas carry over extremely well to the construction industry.

He often would walk from his office to the Secretary of War’s office to discuss strategies to win the war. David T. Phillips stated in his book Lincoln on Leadership that, “Lincoln spent most of his time among the troops” (p.13). Lincoln rode his horse most of the time to the camp of the Union soldiers and cheered them up. He also motivated them by letting them know the importance of winning the war. The Core Lesson under Individual Consideration states that, “The leader empathizes with and supports each follower and keeps channels of communication open” [BCEE] (2014a, p.13). We have discussed Lincoln as Visionary Leader now let’s move on to Lincoln as Ethical Leader.