Friends or Enemies

"Are you okay?" He questioned,his voice was filled with compassion towards me and I smiled from where I lay.

Charlie walked up and opened the door. I sat there looking up at him and wiping at my tears.

Bigelow and La Gaipa (1975) observed children’s friendships by asking a number of children to write an essay about their best friend using the approach called “content analysis”. William Corsaro however dictates that in order to study children you must study them in the context of their own peer culture, he used the “ethnographic approach”. In this essay I shall attempt to compare and contrast the approach used by Bigelow and La Gaipa (1975) and that taken by William Corsaro (2006).

He looked up at me as I tried to reassure him that he was going to be okay. “Help is on the way.” I could feel the fear in his eyes.

“I understand but it really hurt my feelings and I would liek if you guys did not say it again and you guys were more nice to me. Can you guys do that please. I would really appreciate it.” Ashley said back

“It’s not a big deal. I’ve had worse.” I shrugged. I was trying to play it cool. Not a great talent of mine, but with cute guys like him I had to at least try.

"Daniel, what is this? What is even going on and why are we stopping at a cave" He knew I was about to start going into a histaria so he gently grabbed me and pulled me into a tight hug.

The next thing I remember is us sitting at the local pub getting a beer and talking about everything between the sky and ocean. That's how it all started and eventually we fell in love. After being a couple for three years he decided to join the army, but that wasn't the only surprise. He proposed. Never have I've been so happy and sad at the same time before. Because even though he officially was mine now, I had already lost him. Well at least for six months, but I was afraid it was going to be more than that. What if I lost him

“Again, Phil?” He said, knowing exactly what the issue was. I shrugged, not wanting to talk about it, again. Every time I brought it up to Dan, he blew it off as if it wasn’t a big deal, as if he knew how it felt.

I sat there, numb, unmoving, my breathing shallow. I just sat there thinking about the time I was able to spend with him. The way his little fingers would grasp my larger hand. I sat there remembering how his sad little smile could warm my heart, even on my worst day. Then I remembered my reluctance to get close to him, knowing he wouldn’t be able to stay with us long. I remembered how I would never volunteer to hold him, not wanting to bond with the sweet boy that would leave before he had the chance to walk or even utter his first syllable. I felt a cold regret slowly seep into my body, regret for not loving on him more than I did, more than I should have.

Friendship is universal. It can bridge societal gaps of gender, race, social class, and differences in abilities. College is a time of personal growth, and friendships have a tremendous impact on the development and experiences of an individual. Through Best Buddies, college students and adults in the community with disabilities have the opportunity to share friendships. These relationships bring people of all abilities, interests, and talents together, as equals and as friends. I chose to look at these friendships

“I know. Come here.” he said as he walked over and hugged me. We rarely hugged but when we did I felt like a child

“Then what does it matter to you what I told him?” Everleigh's eyes widen a little as she realized that I had thought of something she hadn't.

"Nonsense. There enough room for about ten more people. The two of us are not going to take up that much room." said Tygra.

Many people in the world has had the problem with "friends". The person that you are friends with want to be more than "friends", but unfortunately, you like the status that you are currently at. So for those people that are going through this situation now I am here to advise you on how to let them down gently without being very harsh.