Getting Out of the Box

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BSAD 157 Getting Out of the Box Paper November 9, 2005 The Box, Getting Out of the Box, and What it Means to Me In the book, Leadership and Self-Deception, the author shows us how leadership is affected negatively by something called Self-Deception. Self-Deception is a concept where one blames everyone else for the problems that are going on, where you can only see things from your perspective, you see through these rose-colored glasses that you don’t know are on. In the book they use the example of Ignaz Semmelweis, he was a doctor in the mid-1800s in Austria who couldn’t figure out why so many patients in his ward were dying. He tried everything he could think of to change the situation. He set the standard regulations…show more content…
This elderly woman viewed this couple as people who just wanted to sit next to each other, she didn’t know them, didn’t owe them anything, however she offered her seat because she held the needs and desires of the couple at or above her own. This brings us back to self-deception, the way we get into the box is by deceiving ourselves, by looking through our glasses and determining that we are more important than others, that we are worth more, that we work harder, etc. Once we deceive ourselves is when we stop viewing people as people with compassion and start looking at people as objects, pests, as means to an end. In the book self-betrayal is explained as: 1. An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another, 2. When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal, 3. When I see a self-justifying world, my view of reality becomes distorted, 4. When I betray myself, I enter the box, 5. Over time, certain boxes become characteristic of me, and I carry them with me, 6. By being in the box, I provoke others to be in the box, 7. In the box, we invite mutual mistreatment and obtain mutual justification. We collude in giving each other reason to stay in the box. There are a couple stories in the book concerning this: a man is awoken by his infant child crying. It was 1:00 in the morning and his immediate reaction was to get up and tend to the baby so that his wife could sleep. However he did no such thing, instead he lay in
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