Going Through My Family's Divorce

Throughout my childhood, my environment consisted of switching between my mother's and father's house every week. Since I was an infant, my parents have been divorced and I believe that being a child of divorce has shaped my life tremendous ways. Through the hardships that came with living in two houses for 16 years of my life, I had the time to mature and learn a lot about myself and who I wanted to be as a person. Watching my parents for many years, I realized what I did and did not want to be when I grew up. From my father, I wanted to have the dedication and perseverance that he exhibited. From my mother, I wanted to be friendly and beautiful like her. However, there was many qualities that my parents carried that I did not want to take

It is almost impossible to have a successful relationship when beginning with hardship. “She [has] refused him as himself. – And this [has] been her life, and his life.” With the short amount of time humans have to live, there is no time to live in pity and regret. Elizabeth has the idea that her husband is staying out at bars while she is home taking care of the kids miserable and worried. This is not how a healthy marriage works. Elizabeth realizes she never even loved her husband and was only attracted to the lust when D.H. Lawrence says, “There had been nothing between them, and yet they had come together, exchanging their nakedness repeatedly.” She comes to the realization that the only reason she has stuck around is for her family and social acceptance.

There is one loss in my life that affected many aspects of my life for many years, the divorce of my parents. I was in barley entering the first grade and the tender age of five, soon to turn six, when my parents spent their last night as a married couple. I do not have many memories of my parents as a couple but I do remember the day my Daddy left. He was a policeman and I watched as his cruiser drove away from our family home. I remember my mom crying and not being willing to console me or explain to me what was happening. All I knew is there was a fight, my dad left, it seemed different than other times when he left, and my mom was crying. Everything about my life changed in the blink of a five year old’s eyes which is what makes this loss so significant in my life.

These characters grow as they suffer through marriage problems. When the woman leaves the man, which lets him learn his mistakes and to be grateful for the things they had. He writes, “Things to tell her. That I’m sorry. That I miss her. That all I want-all I ever wanted-is for her to be happy” (Dooley and Holzman 3). The man has learned and developed into a greater human being.

Their parents both worked together, and were meeting up for a catch up. “I was very young when I got married, only 21.” She said the time when she met Roy was the most important part of her life. “My life would be so different if I didn’t meet him.”

“Your mother and I are getting divorced. This does not change how much we each love the two of you. Things around here will be changing but our love for you both does not.” Immediately after I heard those first seven words, I ran down the hallway to my room and slammed the door behind me. I had no idea how the two people I loved

7th grade was the year I woke up. My mom called me into her bedroom late one afternoon and was still sitting on her bed, wearing her pajamas. The bright and cheerful sunshine that lit up the room gave a false ambiance of the tension that clouded the air. I already knew what she was going to say, but I did not want to believe it as the truth. I had noticed that my mom and dad's relationship with one another was growing apart just by the way they acted around each other. The conversations between them became shorter and their affection for one another began to fade. My dad spent his nights falling asleep watching TV on the couch, while my mom slowly disappeared back into her bedroom, alone. This had been happening for a while now, so I do not know why I was even surprised when my mom said to me that, “Your dad and I are getting a divorce”. I should have seen it coming. The clues were all in front of me, but I was too afraid to put them together. I was scared because, for the first time in my life, the image of my "perfect" family was crumbling before me. I knew inside that my family was falling apart, but I was desperately holding onto the fibers that I thought were keeping us together. It is hard to believe that one encounter can change the course of one's life forever. In this instance, I was awoken from the dream that I had been living in for so long.

I was born from a family, in which it was just my sister and I. At a tender age

However, if you have been involved in a divorce and are still struggling, you are not alone.  Most divorced families reach closure and stability years after the divorce.  It is a process that takes time.  Do not get angry at yourself for processing through your feelings.  They are valid.  There are some psychological tasks to help you through this process of reaching a point of closure.

Precious Patterson tearfully signed the divorce papers that had been on her desk for several weeks. She was only a month past nineteen when they had gotten married. She often remembered back to her wedding day just over three years ago. The church had been filled with friends and family. After the reception, they had retired to the bridal suite. There, in the soft glow of the bedside lamp, they made love for hours. She had really felt that they would be together forever.

What is most intriguing about the family dynamics that occur is that time does not heal everything. Madeline had been divorced for many years and yet she still spitefully rejects the new wife. What Madeleine expresses is a real aspect of life. Her reaction to the failed marriage and absence of her teenage daughter is relatable. This vulnerability makes the viewer want to help her, to let her know it will all work out.

that their marriage was never happy and that eventually they choose to leave separate because

Many parents that I know of have divorce in their marriage. Some had good communication and still was able to hold the family together. In my essay, I will be explaining the differences and similarities of two families going through a divorce. I will show the effects that divorce have on children and the parents as a

Whenever I hear people talking about divorce, or hear phrases such as “broken family” I want to either comfort or correct the person. I am able to set aside the sliver of pain that resides in the back of my head and realize all the wonderful things that have come out of my parent’s separation. I was pretty young when my parents started to have constant arguments but never really put the pieces together on my own. My worst childhood memories are not of scraped knees or broken bones but a broken heart. What had happened? What had I done? I can now confidently say that all the difficult times my parents’ divorce put me through have helped to bring my family together, separately. It left me with countless life lessons and the realization that things can always be worse. My parents’ divorce not only brought me severe pain but strength. It’s helped me to grow as an individual and I want to always remember that this is how things were meant to be.

Many children no longer believe in the feasibility of starting a family after the divorce of their parents. A very small number of divorcing couples do not have common claims and explain divorce that just do not get along. Most dislike to each other, often bordering on hatred. Over time, these feelings subside in most cases, but we are interested in, after a period of divorcement this hatred is the apogee. Since in most cases after divorce the child stays with the mother, and the mother has more opportunities to influence it. There is a phenomenon of psychic protection when denigration and accusation abuser mother protects itself from loss or reduction of self-esteem, feelings of insecurity, anxiety. This behavior leads to the mother of one of the two possible reactions of the child: the adoption of the position of the mother and hatred against the father or mother 's rejection, which leads to the corresponding negative emotions towards husband or father of a mother and a child.