Good For Her, Not Me, By Amy Poehler

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“Good for her, not me. That is the motto women should constantly repeat over and over again. Good for her, not me,” (Poehler 32). This line from Amy Poehler’s new memoir, Yes Please, is reminding women to take a step back from the so called “Mommy Wars” and remember that not everything is a competition-- one style of parenting may be good for “her”, but not for “me”. The idea that women need to be reminded of this is a little ridiculous, but then again the concept of mother-versus-mother warfare is even more ridiculous. With the influence of the media, society has been forced into the debate of who is the better mother. Mother-blaming has become the cultural norm and is fueled by the media’s depiction of motherhood. Dividing women into two categories, the stay-at-home mom vs the working mother, results in the dimming of women’s power: mothers being pinned against one another are unable to band together and insist on social changes that would benefit all parents. This cultural emphasis on Mommy Wars is yet another way our patriarchal-society continues to oppresses women today. For example, look at motherhood according to TV throughout the decades. You’ll be able to find a plethora of examples of how the media idolizes the “perfect mother” and depicts motherhood to society in a way that has negatively affected mothers throughout the ages. In the 50s and 60s the TV showed June Cleaver, on the sitcom Leave It To Beaver, puttering around the
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