Davon Miller Dr. Patterson EN 112 13 14 February 2013 The Good Ole Days
A father is one who can be pictured as the male provider of an offspring. He is someone who is there for the child when things are going rough, such as when the child gets sick. The father is also there to teach the child right from wrong and also to teach the child how to survive in life. On the other hand, a dad is someone who just helps a woman to produce an offspring. He’s never there in the child’s life unless he has to be or is forced to be. In Raymond Carver’s “Photograph of My Father in his Twenty-Second Year” there is a son and a guy who is supposedly the kid’s father. Although the father wanted to be viewed as a good role
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Although they are two in one think of how hard it was for God to send his son to die for a people who were unworthy of the blood his son shed on Calvary. ( John 3: 16 & 17) The bible says “See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don't recognize that we are God's children because they don't know him”. (New Living Translation, 2007) Can you imagine a world where God or Joseph was missing from Jesus’ life? Where would we be? Would Jesus grow up with an identity issue? Would he be like the young man in the poem (Photograph of My Father in His Twenty-Second Year, Raymond Carver 1983) that merely posses a photo but cannot recollect a memory or moment he spent with his father? As we see how important it is to have that father/dad, the one who is suppose to be provider and protector in our lives, affected this child can you say that having a father or not having a father didn’t or still doesn’t affect you?
Works Cited Page
Carver, Raymond (1938-1988). Photograph of My Father in His Twenty-Second Year. (1983)
Lamb, Michael E. The Role of the Father in Child Development. New York: Wiley (2010)
The Holy
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