Good Things Don 't Last Forever

Life is beautiful because of the complex nature that it is. There are moments of pure bliss and happiness that one doesn’t want to go away. However, there are also problems and challenges that lay in the journey and it takes great courage to keep. It is a concept that is not easily explained if symbols and metaphors are not used for it. These examples of figurative language often help make the concepts of transitions, positions, and experiences seem clearer.

Paul Newman once said, “People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked” (74). There is no such thing as the perfect relationship, however, being involved in a healthy relationship is essential for a person to feel valued, safe, and happy. Unfortunately, in the situation of Kelly Sundberg’s personal essay “It Will Look Like a Sunset,” and Kate Chopin’s short story “The Story of An Hour,” include extreme examples of unhealthy relationships. The essay “It Will Look Like a Sunset,” shares painful experiences of Sundberg’s physical and emotional abusive relationship with her husband Caleb, while “The Story of an Hour,” shares a rare reaction of a married woman, Louise Mallard, who explores her emotions cautiously when hearing about the death of her husband. Each woman faces their own prison created by their husbands. The two marriages represent the figurative meaning of doors being locked in a marriage. Both pieces of literature convey the theme of confinement by using the literary devices of foreshadowing, imagery, and conflict.

Some relationship end abruptly; a person moves or die or simply quits calling without explanation. Most relationship that have reach the level of commitment; however, no relationship is perfect. Without a good strong foundation relationship, can easily deteriorated; when a relationship starts to deterioration it goes a complex process: intrapsychic phases it goes a five-part stage: dyadic process, social support, grave-dressing process, social support, and lastly resurrection process. Each stage influences negative destructive behavior; hopefully by studying and analyzing each different stage we can be prepare ourselves more effective within life challenges.

About 17% of divorces are caused by infidelity (“Cheating”)! Infidelity is one of the leading causes of divorce. Unfortunately, lack of communication can be a lead cause to infidelity. Couples who lack communication or common interests act out to other people. He or she find someone that is easier to talk to or someone who is more attractive. Sometimes these acts only happen once because the gilt gets to them, or they continue to see this other person until their spouse finds out. Children with cheating parents either follow in their footsteps or become the better person.

Fairy tales tell us that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to become more acquainted with each other, include themselves in each others’ worlds and eventually develop further connections. However, a relationship can come to an end point and therefore one will try to come back in the other’s life. This type of relationship is remarked in Fran Kimmel’s short story “Laundry Day”. The author suggests that getting rid of unhealthy relationship leads to happiness, the author uses the protagonist’s transformation, contrasting characters and symbols.

Each character travels through life maintaining relationships which exist on a very shallow and superficial level. There are of course an exception here and there, but the majority of the relationships drastically lack substance.

Authors across time have used various relationship models in their works of writing in order to communicate their beliefs about love. By examining the relationship between two unlike brothers in his short story, “Sonny’s Blues,” James Baldwin communicates his belief that the idea of love can save people. Jhumpa Lahiri, in her short story “Hell-Heaven” also shows that the idea of love can save people, but by the end the characters are only truly happy where there is acceptance. Both Baldwin’s short story “Sonny’s Blues” and Lahiri short story “Hell- Heaven” while culturally different, use the trials and tribulations of their characters to prove that the idea of love is a saving force.

The last doomed relationship in the novel, is the relationship between Rabbi Smolinsky’s daughters and their husbands. Relationships require a stable foundation in which to grow. If that foundation is weak at

In their life, at one point or another, people deny to themselves and others what they really feel and what really happened. Some people go on living their entire lives denying their true emotions. In Toni Morrison’s novel Sula, characters constantly denied their feelings and their actions. Sula Peace, her best friend Nel Wright, and Nel’s mother do not listen to their feelings and hide from their true emotions.

What is a good relationship? Many people get asked this question every day and there are many different answers. Throughout history love and lust has been a very interesting topic to write about or in portraying in writings. Two stories that portray love in a different light, that are intriguing, is “The Boarding House” by James Joyce and "Women Hollering Creek" by Sandra Cisneros. These so-called love stories’ main theme is disillusionment. “The Boarding House” and “Women Hollering Creek” both have a conflict, thematic development, and the epiphanies.

In the story “Happy Endings” the author Margaret Atwood gives 6 scenarios in alphabetical order from A to F of how a couples life could play out over the span of their lives. In these six scenarios Atwood uses satire to emphasize how interchangeable and simple each couples life is. In this story Atwood uses character, style, and point of view to chastise the desire for the everyday common life and the concern for only the “whats” in life and not “how or why”.

Every relationship is not the best relationship because sometimes it is like your trapped and isolated so that makes it harder to adjust and bond. In the story “ The Story Of An Hour” Mrs. Mallard was in an overbearing relationship to where she felt trapped. However, her luck would soon change when she gets terrible news about her husband’s death. Meanwhile, the freedom that she thinks she has at that moment will soon be no more because her husband will not be dead. Furthermore, she will soon lose it once the news is broken to her about Mr. Mallard’s status of health. However, just from that, she will begin losing her sanity and herself all at once. And in the end, will die of a joy that kills or sadness that kills. This relationship can be good or bad because it is not always what the spouse wants (Chopin 720) “The Story Of An Hour” relationships are not for everyone simply because it is a commitment until death and some people aren’t as committed.

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed undefined, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous - Hebrews 23:4" is the most important principle humans must follow when entering marriage. "Infidelity is commonly understood as a violation of the marital disagreement, a betrayal of one's heart, and a threat to the marital bond." (Mao & Raguram, 2009). Infidelity is an act of disobedience to remain faithful to your partner. Although infidelity can be a source of personal satisfaction, it may also lead to marital disruption and divorce which will eventually destroy marriages and families.

The third cause for divorce is when there is infidelity in the marriage. In the past men were known for being unfaithful but now it is both men and women. Roughly, about sixty percent of men are unfaithful and forty percent of women are unfaithful. These numbers are outrages. Many men and women say they are unfaithful because there is no communication in the marriage. Their spouse does not know what is going on in their lives. Therefore, they turn to a coworker or friend for support and that became the gateway to their infidelity. Infidelity is one of the hardest things to cope with in a marriage. Because it makes the spouse feel insecure, self conscious, disgusted with their spouse, and embarrassed about him or herself, especially if the family finds out. Some spouses are not able to deal with the infidelity and they will end up getting a divorce.

Marriage declares a legal and socially recognized monogamous relationship between two individuals that is binding for the duration of their life together. While the expectation for marriage is that the spouse will remain faithful to only their partner, relationships (whether romantic or sexual) which develop outside the bounds of marriage constitutes infidelity and are actually not uncommon. Extramarital affairs are not considered illegal in Australia, but the actions of the infidel spouse often has detrimental impacts on the relationships and wellbeing of those around them, while also causing moral problems for society. Marital relationships and occurrences of