G's Day: A Narrative Fiction

     Breakfast was usually eaten around 10 A.M. It might have consisted of cornbread with butter, cold meat, cider or beer, or maybe coffee or tea. The main meal was eaten around 4:00 P.M. This would be the lavish meal. When it was time to eat the man and his older sons would take their places at the table. The wife would sit next to her husband while the oldest daughter would serve the meal. Any young children would stand, not sit at a separate table and were not allowed to speak. (John F. Warner – pg.50-54)

No matter how busy or hectic the day, the final meal is not optional. Just like David and Reuven Malter, we use it to catch up on the day’s events and to look ahead for the rest of the week. Fast food or takeout never suffices; my dad cooks each and every night. My family and I never stop talking, often ignoring all other responsibilities and commitments. I worked at a grocery store and closed up for the night several times a week, but dinner would wait to begin until I pulled into the driveway, no matter how late. Compared to my house, Abby’s mimics an abandoned ghost town. Weeks would pass without all of the Darmofal clan sitting together. We took dinners at each other’s houses as learning experiments: at mine, Abby would learn why sometimes, family dinner became too much for every night, with my parents’ incessant questioning. At her house, I learned the magic of microwavable meals and becoming self-sufficient, a skill I call upon most days here at USD. Everyone needs to eat, so why not use it as a learning experience?

Mealtimes are important for our children and they are usually excited to eat. There is just something about coming to the table sitting with our friends, being able to pass the food, and choose how much food they want to take that makes mealtime exciting. When meals are served family style and the children and adults sit together to eat, children improve their social skills, build self-esteem and confidence, and learn table manners. Children improve their language skills by having conversations with

At these lunches, we would discuss our weeks. Even though we were not in school during the time, it was a good opportunity to say what was on our minds, which we all enjoyed. Sitty would sit in her spot playing Candy Crush on the iPad and we would discuss the pros and cons of the game followed by explaining something about the iPhone to Giddy. We had great times at the lunches and will continue to have them as long as the grandkids are still around. It was commonly known that the adults were welcomed to join us for Thursday Lunch but due to working conditions, only one or two of my aunts were able to make it. They would also talk about what was going on during the week. Having the adults was great because there was a sense of having no barriers between the different generations, that there was a time for us to just… talk. Often times we would come over to their house for dinner or for another lunch during the week and we would still do the same things as we did at Thursday Lunch, but it was nice to always look forward to an invite every Thursday morning.

| For the first time, Ginny has an epiphany as to why family meals tend to be painfully agonizing; because they do not even try to enjoy the time they are spending together. Instead, they all just try to finish the food quickly and quietly in order to leave the table as fast as possible.

particular year, they, of course, had plans to skip school. They planned to go to a baseball

The best place to begin the discussion regarding the family meal and how it has changed is to discuss where the idea of dinner originated. A fairly new concept, dinner came about roughly 150 years ago. While many people consider family mealtime to be a “natural phenomenon; it is a social construction.” (Carroll, xvi) During colonial times the family functioned as one unit, with everyone in the family having a

Kimora’s mother commented, “I cook dinner for them, but I allow them to eat by themselves or together and sometimes I do take my meal to room and there is no particular reason why.”

The significance of family commensality within the household is that it is the foundation of the socialisation process. Family meal times are therefore, most significant and beneficiary for the children involved. It acts as one of the events in which parents acculturate their children to everyday norms and values. Meal times are often where

The main meal is almost always in the evening, because most people do not have time to prepare a midday meal and children normally eat at school. Some families eat together, but television has increasingly replaced conversation at the dinner table. The exception to this rule is Sunday, when tradition

The essential part to a good family meal in my family is my mom grossing my brother out by talking about bugs at the dinner table or my sister and I fighting. If that does not happen at the dinner table it is a dinner not well spent. While it is a different story in Pride and Prejudice written by Jane Austen, there are severally meals I could have chosen from for this assignment but one that particularly stood out me was, when Elizabeth the main protagonist character has an uncomfortable dinner at Lady Catherine’s

Time is not the same for everyone and that includes the lost boys. When they moved to America their time zones were different making them wake up at different times then they would normally. In the movie “ God Grew Tired Of Us” the lost boys use to wake up whenever they wanted too but now they had jobs at 5:00 to 7:00 am so they'd set their alarm clocks to wake up then which they were not used too. They would use the sun to find out what the time was, their was no specific time to do a job you would just do it around the time. The lost boys

In my family, when we eat at the dinner table, we talk about our day and build better bonds through our interactions. My mother cooks the meal, my sisters and I set up the table with utensils and place mats and my father is ready to eat. We all sit at the table, no technology, elbows off the table and we give grace. While we eat, we talk about our day or anything exciting has happened and we argue and laugh with each other.

Some of my earliest memories with my family take place around a dinner table. Back then, I sat in a booster seat, because the table towered over me like a skyscraper. One night, as I picked through my vegetables in hopes of identifying anything unworthy of eating, I couldn’t help but get distracted by my parents’ voices as they discussed adult things. For me, dinnertime was the part of the day that I spent scrutinizing every piece of food on my plate. For my parents, however, it was so much more; every night, they would sift through the details of their days, discussing and debating every topic in the world. I watched as they listened to each other intently, accepted each other’s ideas, and grew closer together. I desperately tried to understand their

A close examination of the food diary allowed people to see that our family tended to have large meals to together only on Sundays and sporadic, smaller meals on other days. This was partially due to culture and the socialization of food. Keeping up with the fast pace lifestyle created a different schedule types for the family members, hence, different eating patterns. Many people of the North American society still try to enforce family time where they eat together. They cling to the ideal that families eating together fixes personal and societal ills (smoking, obesity, children's vulnerability to drugs, etc.) and that it is a way to kindle children's success in school (Ochs, Elinor, and Beck 2013:49). During the week, snack items and small meals made up my diet. This was quick and easy food preparation was one of the issues, apart from schedules, that stopped our family from eating together. When families are at home other reasons stop them from eating together. Reasons such as convenient snacks in home creating individualized meals or snacks for family members and family dinnertime giving way to