Hector And The Search For Happiness By Francois Lelord: An Analysis

Self esteem is how an individual evaluates their worth as a person. It is not a person’s talents or abilities or how they are seen by others It is seen as the feeling of not being good enough. However, that does not mean people with high self esteem view themselves as

Eventually every person will have to realize that being envious of one another makes you ignorant, and that everyone has imperfections and no one is perfect but everyone at one point must stop comparing themselves to everyone and accept themselves for who they are.

For most people though, I do feel this to be true for the reason that everyone wants to succeed. Without intention, we sometimes feel better just from the failures of others because we want to know that other people are struggling right along with ourselves at the attempt at success. This is why you catch magazines lying or manipulating certain things with those who are famous or very well-known for the fact that they want to make them look worse. They will physically pick them apart or mentally try and break them down just to see them fall. In this sense i think the most appropriate word we could use would be jealousy. Jealousy can be a very evil thing and it comes into effect when you feel as though someone is doing better or has things that you envy and want. This word though is the most accurate reasoning as to why we feel that those that succeed around us stand a greater threat. To physically watch someone succeeding when you are at a place of struggle would be extremely hard to do, which leads to a sense of resentment for that particular individual. I think it is instilled in the mind of most of the people in this world that they want to be the best at whatever it is they do: sports, their job, their hobbies, etc. I do agree completely with Margaret Mead's statement that says we

What is the key to happiness? Think about it for a moment, really absorb it, and apply it to your life. Is it having what you want? Having what you need? Doing what you like? There are many possible answers to this question. People are always searching for the best ways to make them happy. In A Man Called Ove, Fredrick Backman shows that there are many keys to happiness. Backman looks at how purpose is needed to be able to achieve happiness, how acceptance is a key to happiness in many of the characters’ lives, how it can be difficult to achieve happiness by only one person, and how flow is needed in a persons’ life. In Happy, psychologists examine what makes up happiness based off studies. Most people tend to think that happiness is only the result of things such as social status, but there are many different keys that determine a person’s happiness.

Personally, I feel like that at times I may be crushed by the metaphorical weight of other’s views on me. I am expected to be smart, and to become an amazing actress and author. I am expected to live up to these standards that sometimes I cannot

Throughout life I have been judged, but I was highly judged and criticized in Middle school because I was quiet and to myself. In middle school I had friends but I still felt like I was by myself. People were around me constantly but when you’re observant you can feel the energy of a fake person. So moral of the story watch your back. Now I know the kind of person I want to be and the type of people I want to surround myself with. As well as personally being cateogorized, status continues to play a role in the larger

Moreover parents have an influence on their children I the color scheme they follow when they find out the sex of their baby. When a women is expecting the first question people ask id what are you having? A boy? Or a girl? Parets cannot help but to find out so they can start planning a tutu and tiara baby shower or a sports themed baby shower. Parnets canot help but start planning what options they will have for their kids, whether it has to do with dress code, colors, toys: two very different themes that divide the sexes. Moreover, in the article. “The Precession of Simulacra” by Jean Baudrillard reflects the idea of simulacra which is an image or representation

After reading your article Happiness and Its Discontents, I have decided to define my own personal happiness and what it means to live a robust life. Living a robust life means something different to every individual as no one person can define happiness or success as a single entity. However, I do think individuals are able to determine their own meaning of contentment by analyzing the different components of their lives. When reading your published work, I could not help but notice how you spent a majority of time discussing the negative effects of happiness. Generally, when an individual thinks of jubilation they correlate it to positive events, but you seemed to gloomily depict happiness as an emotion that yields despair, thinking happiness is a forced emotion which must keep societal standards. You mention if people have mental health concerns, such as anxiety, in order for them to live a robust life they must create and display a pseudo personality to

There are many things in life which are beyond our control. People tend to think our personal thoughts are things we cant control but they are wrong. I think this is what Eleanor Roosevelt meant to get through when she said “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent” I definatley agree with this quote because if someone tries to make you feel inferior , they are only successful if you actually allow yourself to be made inferior. Through my own experience I know this quote to be true. Facing Bullies, helping my friend turn there around and being judged by others.These experiences have helped me personally realize how much control everyone has over themselves.

The ‘better-than-average’ (or BTAE) effect states that certain individuals would evaluate themselves more positively than the average person. Within this, there is argument to suggest that there are both positive and negative implications linked to this theory. The concept of ‘self’ plays a large role in discovering whether these factors affect the individual, whereas social comparison is also a great aspect in understanding how the better-than-average effect can include itself into everyday society, therefore creating an unrealistic divide between different groups.

Why would one wish to be comparing themselves to others? First thought that comes to mind when answering this question is that it is human nature to. Throughout the world humanity has encouraged the comparison of others. Rather it’s at home, school, work, or among your peers, comparison exists. Even though comparison can have good intentions, its practice can be unhealthy and harmful. I profess that one shouldn’t compare themselves to others.

Envy can also derive from a sense of low self-esteem that results from an upward social comparison

comparison is not good if one is just trying to gain a sense of superiority or avoiding challenging himself to do better. In order to be at a comfortable level of self-esteem one must be able to uplift himself without the influence of others. Also, one’s reaction to social comparison can vary depending if the person feels inferior or superior to the other person. Ergo, depending on one’s own perception of self-worth is more reliable because it is always consistent.

In the myth of Arachne by Olivia Coolidge the moral thought is don’t compare yourself with other people, because she compared herself to Athena and got punished.” If Athena herself were to come down and compete with me, she could do no better than I.”( Olivia Coolidge 74) Normally, people don’t compare themselves with other people just because you think you're better than them, but in this myth Arachne compared herself to Athena, because she thought she was better than

Upward social comparison- I participated in a panel discussing the benefits of advanced placement classes. In my discussion of my personal experiences, I talked about comparing myself to my more intelligent classmates. In high school I felt like I was not as mart as my classmates. I discussed how it made me work harder, I wanted to be at what I perceived was a higher level. The example in the book mentioned studies of people using upward social comparison to motivate themselves to success (pg. 86). As mentioned by the text upwards social comparison can be a positive tool for motivation. The textbook also spoke about the dangers of comparing yourself with others if a person does not believe they can reach what they are aspiring to be. I recognize what the danger in upward social comparison could be, it would be hard to process failure if you lived your entire life comparing yourself to others. I do not know if I thought I could reach what I was comparing myself to, but I believe I benefited from the push. Eventually, I no longer relied the comparison.