Helicopter Parenting Is Wrong

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

Individual children are significantly impacted by the parenting style and behaviours of their caregivers as it influences the way they perceive the world and life skills they acquire. All parents aim to shield their children from danger, illness and other harm, although there are some that protect their offspring excessively. Despite the best intentions of mothers and fathers, overprotective parenting or ‘helicopter’ parenting can have adverse effects of the long term wellbeing, growth and development of children.

This effect of helicopter parenting dominates the others, because it has been studied most recently, and is a common issue that colleges are having to act upon on a regular basis. Parents, helicopter or not, should be addressed of the matter, because it is a parenting style that is becoming more and more popular, yet parents often struggle to understand the serious effects it could have on their children, or even themselves. In terms of future research, scholars should consider completing more scientific studies on the effects of helicopter parenting, because many college level sources base their data off of previous investigation results. Specifically, more scientific data should be collected to prove the effects of helicopter parents on college students during the transition from high school to college. The concept of helicopter parenting will most likely continue for many generations, and it is imperative that parents recognize the effects of it, both positive and

Over the course of an individual’s life span, one is seen forming relationships with several people in whom they find their presence an important aspect to their life. However, among these relationships, parent-child relationships are the most valuable, but also very complex. These relationships are built from a foundation of interaction starting from the birth of the child to their adulthood. Unfortunately, if this involvement is not present within a child’s life, it can ultimately cause them to feel neglected causing outrageous conflicts, behavior issues and emotional disputes. Parental involvement within a child’s life allows them to gain a sense of security ultimately increasing new learning of the child

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

Being a child of a helicopter parent, I don’t believe that having a helicopter parent made me dependent on my mom, if anything I’ve distanced myself so that I can have more independence. My mom means well she just wants to protect my sisters and I, but how does she expect us to learn if we never get hurt or fail? The effects of helicopter parenting, in my experience, is distancing so that we can do what we want. Rebelling from parents is another effect, again because of the need for independence. I do think that if parents are willing to do their child’s homework and projects then they might as well let them live at home for the rest of their lives because once someone experiences that kind of “sheltering” they aren’t going to want to do work for themselves if they know their parents are willing to do everything for them. In some cases this type of parenting will not have bad effects on the children. It’s natural for parents to want to protect their children, but there comes a point where parents have to let their children fail in order for them to learn what to do and what not to

Over parenting or helicopter parenting is when the parents do what their children can do for themselves and they try to protect them from the outside world. Parents will protect their children from the consequences of their action which will results in a young adult that cannot differentiate right from wrong. Over parenting have many negative outcomes on the children such as being less independent and some of these students were experiencing stress, anxiety, difficulty managing their lives. Children with overly involved parents will have decrease ability to adapt to stress, new environment, they will also have reduced life skills and inadequate sense of responsibility as well as decreased self-efficacy in their adulthood. Moreover children with helicopter parents are less satisfied with their family life and have lower levels of psychological well-being. To avoid over parenting it is recommended that parents take parenting classes and read books on how to parents.

To begin, both Phares and Bowes illustrate that parents can help their children develop their own individuality by allowing them to have a sense of value and independence. First, Phares claims that as children grow up, their parents become less involved in assisting with their care. Thus, children start to explore and gain their independence outside of their home. Similarly, Bowes asserts that parents who make children do housework at a younger age are self-sufficient and learn the value of being an individual earlier. However, parents who wait until their children are older to partake in housework are restricted from learning to become independent and rely on a group rather than

Even though, helicopter parenting style has its advantages, many kids would go through life not knowing how to figure out everyday problems. If parents do not let their children solve their problems on their own, then how will he or she make it in the real world? Parents are often scared to let their children take risks and fail at something they like to do. They need to learn how to sometimes fail at something so they can solve their problems on their own. Every child no matter what age you are needs to fail at some point of time in life. Children make mistakes all the time, but some are quick to rush to their parents instead of figuring out what’s wrong with themselves and solving the problem like an adult. If the child is in college and

Anyone thinking about having children has obviously thought about how they wanted to raise their child. From letting them have fun with no restrictions, to having every restriction possible, we have seen it all. Remember in the horror movie Carrie by Kimberly Pierce, where the girl is helicoptered by her mother and ends up terrorizing the people who angered her? Or most of the movies from the 80’s and 90’s where the kids were raised by free range parents. Personally, my argument is that helicopter parenting can be a bit much and that if you are afraid of being a Blackhawk helicopter parent, just stick to free range parenting.

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Parents take on a helicopter parent role for a number of different reasons that include environmental factors and the want for their own achievements to be carried out vicariously through their child. A crippled chance of a successful adulthood is also an effect of over parenting. When parents strip their children of essential psychological and coping skills, they struggle to get through life. This leads to an increase in anxiety, narcissism, and depression in young adults. Parents need to decrease their involvement in their child’s life and allow room for autonomy where children are free to make their own decisions and face the consequences for their

The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to

A parent’s biggest dream is that one day their child will achieve a bright and successful future. Hoping that one day that child will move up in society and make something out of their life, a parent will sacrifice anything to see that happen. Not every kid understands how much a parent must give up to ensure their happiness and security. Although they might have a vision for their child’s future, a parent cannot control the path they will ultimately take, and the choices they will make on their own.

It's hard to say why adults don't always act like grown-ups. "Sometimes good parents simply make mistakes," Ward says. For these moms and dads, a conversation or a carefully worded letter might be enough to do the trick. But others never got the parenting they needed and, Brown explains, "failed to make strides past adolescence" toward a healthy, mature level of empathy. For them, she adds, "everything centers around what they want," and selfish conduct is an inherent part of their pattern of behaviors and attitudes. In these cases, no amount of talking will change them, so instead of trying to improve communication, Brown suggests self-protection. "If your parent is hurting you with his or her behavior and won't change, you have no choice but to set up emotional barriers to protect yourself."