Helicopter Parents

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

Being too strict to a child can result in distant relationship between a parent and a child, and being uninvolved can also have the same effect or worse. Having a healthy relationship with the child asks parents to develop an amiable nature and an open mind when it comes to parenting. Get involved with children’s lives enough to help and guide when needed. Helicopter parenting would benefit in ample ways, in a child’s upbringing, perspective, outlook, social behavior, and it will help developing a healthy and friendly relationship between the parents and the child. It is better for children to run to their parents every time they need a piece of advice rather than going to a stranger looking for help, because no matter what, parents will always want the best for their children and would guide them appropriately. Even though some believe that helicopter parenting is detrimental, it has proven to be

There are many different types of parents with diverse parenting styles in the world. Some are efficient in their ways, while others struggle to wonder why their child did not turn out to be everything they hoped. The controversial topic of whether the parent knows what is best for their child hangs over the reader’s head in Amy Chua’s article.

“Helicopter Parenting College Students”, Schiffrin Holly H and colleagues argue that “when parents solve problems for their children, then children may not develop the confidence and competence to solve their own problems” (Holly H et al .554). Holly H claims that if parents keep managing their childrens’ lives, they will be unable to manage their lives on their own. In short, helicopter parenting is causing children to be fearful of independence.

Throughout my whole life all I could really remember is playing sports and always playing them very competitively, and having my parents very involved. There was a lot of pressure put on me from a young age, all the way up into even now playing college football. I was raised with “helicopter” parents rather than the “laid back” parents. The best moments I can remember is just throwing the football around and playing small games in the neighborhood, no pressure just simply playing because I want to. Unnecessary pressure on sport from parents and what style of parenting is something I have put a lot of time and effort into studying. Putting to much pressure on your kids in sport could lead to; physiological affects, bad relationship with the parents, eating disorders, burnout of sports all together, kid not reaching his/her full potential, being a “helicopter parent” leads to children being afraid to voice their opinion, or afraid to fail, or even act as who they are and not what there parents want them to be. While there is know perfect way to be a parent while your child is playing youth sports, the majority of parents in my generation are putting to much pressure on their children and being “helicopter” parents, which could lead to many negative consequences. There are many interpretations of what a helicopter parent is, one of my favorites comes from authors Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay from their book Parenting With

In the 1980’s women in the workforce became much more the “norm” than the exception. With the choice to enter the workforce, mothers also made the conscience choice to allow their children less parental attention, but also proving that their parenting skills were just as effective. The now independent woman, has begun to helicopter the children. Validation by the “stay at home mothers” to prove that the benefits to the children of a full time stay at home mother, out-weighed the need for self-fulfillment, with both parenting styles, and the helicopter parent was born. The description of an overprotective parent as a “Helicopter Parent” appeared in the best-selling book “Between Parent & Teenager” by Dr. Haim Ginott, staying

I now know what I am capable of in life. Using my own eyes allowed me to see the world and live it. Moving out of my parents’ house at the age of 18 was the biggest and best decision I ever made.

In the late 1960’s, Diana Baumrind, a psychologist, administered a set of experiments to help understand and recognize the dissimilar reactions parents had to their own children. Through Baumrind’s observation and examination, four principle styles of parenting were presented, including neglectful parenting (Miller 2). Kendra Cherry defines neglectful parenting as the failure of the parents to provide for their children’s necessities. Some people believe labeling a parent as neglectful depends on their actions or behavior, whereas others believe it

When reading the shadow, the first thought that came to my mind was that this poem seemed pointless and held little or no meaning to it, but when I reexamined the shadow, being more mindful to the details this time, I finally recognized the genius of this piece and my opinion of the shadow drastically changed.but undoubtedly, what made this poem change my perspective to such an extent, was it’s ability to portray our human nature and display them so vividly and unlike any other, I was given a new outlook on our emotions, actions, and desire's as something we have to keep under control, but sometimes we have to let our suppressed emotions manifest us in order to keep things balanced and to let loose some steam and be yourself.

The recent studies being done have shown that students who have helicopter parents are shown to have a lower sense of self-confidence and capability, while also being more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression. Colleges campuses across the nation are reporting the relationships they have with helicopter parent's bothersome interference with their kid's lives. Everyone is calling for a stop to helicopter parenting since it’s proving to show negative long-term effects. This generation of young adults is not alone when they say they’re scared to imagine a life without the aid of their parents meanwhile, everyone else is just as scared to live in a world with uncappable adults.

This literary review looks at the long term effects of helicopter parenting. While parental involvement is clearly linked to positive traits in children, can over parenting produce negative outcomes? Issues that have been related to helicopter parenting include a lack of autonomy and satisfaction with life, increased stress, anxiety and depression and overall poor coping skills (Schiffrin et al., 2013). Perhaps if a link between the issues listed above and helicopter parenting can be proven, then a way to correct or reverse the issue can also be identified.

The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to

Helicopter parenting is one of the severest parenting styles. Helicopter parenting was first mentioned in Cline and Fay’s parenting book at 1990 (as cited in Odenweller, Booth-Butterfield, & Weber, 2014, p. 408) ,which means this problem has occurred over decades, but not many scholars pay attention or research on this topic. Today, according to LeMoyne and Buchanan’s study, they found more and more population of children reported that their parents have helicopter parenting behavior and children increase the usage of prescription drugs(as cited in Schiffrin et al.,2014,p.554) , this draw scholars’ attention. Helicopter parenting become a serious problem that influenced children’s life, and we should find a way to avoid helicopter

Helicopter parenting, first introduced by Cline and Fay in their 1990 parenting book series, refers to overly protective and involved parents, who overly involve themselves in their children’s lives with behaviours including constant communication, intervention into children’s affairs, taking control of decision making, personally investing themselves in their children’s goals and the removal of any obstacles that their children may encounter. Studies have shown that this parenting style is most prevalent amongst the millennial generation, with approximately 60-70% of college students reporting that their parents exhibit at least some of the hovering tendencies (Odenweller, Booth-Butterfield & Weber, 2014).