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Bone Black Essay

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It was not until recently that those who identified as gender nonconforming or homosexual could feel comfortable coming out to the public without facing being ostracized. bell hooks describes her family’s struggle as they believed that she may be homosexual and their actions to attempt to counteract this outcome in her autobiography Bone Black. Her parents tactics remind me of those my friend’s parents adopted when they found out their child was not “normal.” hooks’ parents kept a close eye on everything she did because of her apparent lack of interest in the opposite sex. When she was seen hugging her white female friend in the car for what seemed to be too long, her parents immediately banned her from ever seeing her friend again (159). Similarly, in the ninth grade, my friend, Brytnie, came out first as lesbian, then as transgender, changing his name to Cody. He had been struggling with his identity ever since being placed in the foster care system after living with his abusive bipolar mother for years. Upon coming out to his foster parents, they did not react kindly. Cody’s guardians …show more content…

Although it is not explained what her parents’ intentions were by making her dress that way other than to make her appear younger, their actions may be linked to their desire to make sure she does not appeal to the same sex; by making her dress in light colors, they are making her look innocent while simultaneously attempting to taking away her appeal to other females. Cody’s foster parents used the same approach when they found out he wanted to be a male. They ceremoniously burned all his pants and allowed him to only wear dresses and skirts, taking away his way of identifying as male. In the minds of their parents, taking away a method of gender expression and identification was a logical way to prevent their child from “becoming

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