Horney’s Neuroses Present in My Family

For example, Lorraine's mother always tells her “you’re not a pretty girl Lorraine.”, she also always calls Lorraine fat and ugly. Lorraine’s mother does not set a good example for Lorraine because she bullies her. Another example is John’s father likes to lie which rubbed off on John, one time John’s father went around bragging how he phonied up a car insurance claim to get a hundred dollars to replace a piece of aluminum on their new car, which he had really replaced himself. John’s father taught John that lying was not bad without even knowing. John’s family also had other issues because John’s father was an alcoholic and did not care if John drank beer. John was not old enough to drink beer but his father did not care because he was an alcoholic. Both families show that they have bad family values because they are mean and

Interestingly enough my brother is very similar, personality-wise, to my grandfather who was our father figure growing up, while I am very similar to our mother. Both my grandfather and my brother can be partially described as type B personality, except in the cases of negative emotion as they both refrain from expressing it. On the other hand, my mother and I, or really most of the women in my family, are of a type A personality. Our tempers are not the best, and we never seem to stop working in some way or another. This shows that my brother and I have both inherited and learned our temperaments from our family, or more specifically family members of the

Secondly, temperaments are behavioral profiles that are measureable and testable in a child’s early childhood as children are born with their natural style of interacting and reacting to people and the environment. However, it is not something that a child chooses from birth, it is rather shaped by a child’s experiences and responses. Often parents need to accept their child’s traits and adjust themselves to educate them. There are three constellations of temperament characteristic which are “easy”, children that are typically adaptable, “difficult”, children that tend to be intense and “slow-to-warm-up”, and children that are easily upset by change (Thomas & Chess, 1950). Children with different temperament .By identifying the proper discipline techniques, traits that are present from birth can be molded to continue to influence growth in essential ways throughout life.

Bragg’s grandfather learned to find out the young man ways “he lived long enough to see the true nature of his son-in-law’s character emerge, saw the cruelty, and his first inclination was to hunt him down and kill him” (35). Bragg’s mother felt that her husband would change for the better the more chances she gave him. Every time Bragg’s father would come back for his wife he would leave her in the end without any money and to expect another child on the way (66). Bragg’s mother and the children knew that the father could become dangerous at any time “he would strike out at whoever was near, but again it always seemed that she was between him and us, absorbing his cruelty, accepting it” (66). Bragg knew that his mother was not trying to bring the family in harm, only his mother wanted the family life and for her boys to grow up with a father.

For example, Bailey, the father of the family, shows that he does not care too much about anything and he treats his mother with much disrespect,

Richard believes that he was made to be the person he became because of his parents as both continuously beat him his entire childhood. Many neighbourhood children abused and harmed him as well, for many reasons such as being Polish, scrawny and weak. Neither parent ever helped Richard either mentally of physically throughout the time he was bullied. “Richard often wondered why his mother and father didn’t like him, what he had done to deserve their indifference and violence” (p.22). Richard’s mother, Anna would not only verbally assault him, but would also routinely abuse him beginning at a young age, with household items such as broomsticks. She thought of this as stern discipline, which was supposedly required when brought up in a religious upbringing. Richard’s father, Stanley, abused his wife, as well as all three of his sons; one of which died from one of the

His older brother found out he was just like him which he wanted him to be nothing like. A drug dealer up to no good.

Robert Smith became a chameleon out of the need to survive, shaped by his neglectful environment and a lifetime of extreme experiences, most which happened during the early formative years. His father, intelligent but limited by his own damaged childhood, managed to hurt everyone within his sphere of existence over the alcoholics lifetime; the man failed as a husband, father, business entrepreneur, country singer, and horse rancher. Much of Robert’s Father’s dysfunctional behavior could be blamed on Robert’s grandfather, who brutally taught the child the wrong life lessons during the rare occasions he was in the area; lessons which had little to do with good family values. Smith’s mother, though she loved all four of her children greatly, was consumed by the simple need to do both parental jobs and keep the family fed.

how much of a man he was. After he hit his father, he felt a sense of pride as if he won a prize of some sort. The act was more selfish than selfless being that he was not thanked for it. After the incident, he looks at his sisters for validation for his actions but he has never seen the difference between them or separate the roles of them from their mother. His misogynistic views are passed down from his father and this is due to his immaturity and lack of exposure to the independent world.

First, for my brother’s job this summer, he chose to work at a nursing home. Jacob is strange because for some reason he likes talking to elderly people, and it takes a patient and gentle person to like that. Next, in Celina Middle School kids used to call him a “Gentle Giant.” He got this name because he was scared of hurting someone, in any way. Lastly, it is hard for my brother to say no to many people when they ask him to do something. I remember someone at our church asked him to be in a play he didn’t want to be in. Even though he didn’t want to be in play, he did it anyway. This quality my brother has makes me want to be like

betrayal, and violence. His father abandoned him seeking to find a life less confrontational to a

Every person reaches a point in their lives when they must define themselves in relation to their parents. We all come through this experience differently, depending on our parents and the situation that we are in. For some people the experience comes very early in their lives, and can be a significant life changing experience. In William Faulkner’s “Barn Burning” Colonel Sartoris Snopes must decide either to stand with his father and compromise his integrity, or embrace honesty and morality and condemn his family. This is a difficult decision to make, especially for a ten year old boy that has nothing outside of what his father provides. Sarty’s decision to ultimately betray his father is dependent on his observation of Abner’s character

Rich's family life at those times was very strenuous. His father with all the stresses of the common world, plus the new ones added by his child prodigy would often lead to physical confrontations in the household. Rich was often abused as a result of this (as were his brothers). This ultimately would help to contribute to his arrogance as an adult (Torme 2)

For instance, within the primary dysfunctional family, many relationships are developed, which include two unbearable children, a power hungry dad, a hectic wife tending to her baby, and an unendurable grandmother. These relationships bring out other dynamics within the characters and the family (Lambert 2009). For instance, although both the father and grandmother are strict in ensuring that the children be respectful, on their part, they do not set an example that can be emulated within the family. First, the grandmother advises her grandchildren to be respectful, and then she goes ahead, making a profane racially prejudiced remark almost immediately (McCann, Jr 2011). At the same time, the head of the family—the father of the children, Bailey, requests the children to conduct themselves accordingly. However, confronted by a tense situation, Bailey loses his temper and threatens the family telling them that if they did not shut up, they would not go anywhere (Katharina 4).

Personally, I liked multiple theorists but I didn’t really like everything they spoke about. In the beginning, Karen Horney’s views on the three different neurotic trends and how she perceived basic anxiety. Yet, I also liked the way Raymond Cattell brokedown and organized personality traits and the way Carl Rogers broke down actualization into becoming a fully functioning person. I see that all of their theories had valid point of views on the mind and personality. Those three were the ones that stuck with me while learning about them. Although some of the theories may not be directly compatible, I think what they believed made sense.