She may accept this at first but as the night progresses she realises this is not what she truly
Fourth Reason: Paying housewives not only not only will it raise their financial status but also it’s one of the most powerful reasons that will make women feel more empowered in the society which will decrease gender discrimination and stereotypes, as well as economically empowering them and conforming that yes, their effort
In the article, “Sex Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?” author Deborah Tannen, argues that the culture differences in males and females communication, both expect differences in their partners communication which cause damaged marriages. First Tannen mentions, communication in marriage is difficult due to the fact that males and females have come from different cultures. Then Tannen argues, that women expect more intimacy by way of conversation and men share activities in order to gain in their same sex friendships. Tannen also argues that men tend to switch topics often, not concentrating so much on depth as on breadth, not taking turns on same topic; women establish intimacy by diving deeper on a few topics. The author states, male relationships are “agonistic” (Tannen), trying to one up; female relationships are not that way, as they seek equality instead. Finally Tannen, suggests that there are solutions: awareness is key in a cross-cultured communication. (Tannen) While there are some elements to her argument that may generalize too much, in the end, I do find myself convinced by Tannen’s case.
even in her writing. Although her husband seems to love her, he doesn’t understand what
In “Sex, Lies and Conversation” Deborah Tannen argues that the problems of men and women in marriage are caused by a misunderstanding rather than lack of communication. Throughout the passage she discusses theses misunderstandings and reveals the solution to the problem.
In addition to women becoming a housewife there has been a “direct denunciation”(Doc B Sheg) because they are becoming disrespectful towards their husbands. This is because with them learning about earning their rights they tend to fight for themselves, which just ruins the mindset of how good it is to be a housewife. When the “more fortunate women”(Doc B Sheg) help with the “round of toil”(Doc B Sheg) women they feel as though it will bring them “respect and consideration which form the basis upon, which we more fortunate women build our lives.” (Doc B Sheg) Within this need to become grateful for having such an easy life to the point that they become lazy, all of the other women that need to actually work to make a living can clearly see that it is not as luxurious to have certain rights because then that requires harder
Careers in nursing, entertainment, etc. has this essence of the housewife in them. Whether it is tending to another human being regardless if it is their family or not to pleasuring and fulfilling a man's lustful desires. The practices of a housewife is carried over into other careers which make escaping that lifestyle, that stereotypical image of a woman that much more difficult.
think that she is cheating and revels in this victory by saying “in his own
In fact, John Gray believes that if a woman does not use the typical register, she will only make the situation worse, and cause the husband to withdraw more. Rivers and Barnet explain how inauthentic communication between the married couple only creates misunderstandings between them, and helps to drive them apart. This lack of emotional and deep communication with men could cause a break in the relationship, and a lack of an emotional connection to his children. If men are already do so little housework and childcare, and spends the majority of his time working (Wade et. al 2015), how will he ever manage to develop a meaningful relationship with his family, especially if he does not communicate with them? Women are not exempt from the problems that come with gendered communication. Because women are inclined to use indirect forms of speech (Disch 2009), they can often cause misunderstandings in their relationships. An example from Ohio State University shows this type of complication due to indirect language:
and tries to be as much of a sweetheart as possible, whie not revealing her
This article by Deborah Tannen, written in 1990, addresses the differences between the communication styles of men and women and some of the ensuing problems that arise from these divergent behaviors. The article asserts "that although men tend to talk more than women in public situations, they often talk less at home. And this pattern is wreaking havoc with marriage" (p. 474). Research indicates that a majority of women state a lack of communication as the reason for seeking divorce as compared to only a few of the men. With the divorce rate at 50 percent the author says there is a "virtual epidemic of failed conversation" (p. 474) in America.
feelings. One of the reasons why she feels the need to make him happy lies in
Fewer men have the support of a full-time homemaker wife who can both shield them from family-related work, and enable them to direct energies exclusively toward a career.
According to Gray, men also need to be aware that women like to share and talk things through in a non-solution-oriented way (35). Man need to also understand that when their spouse is troubled, depressed or upset, he needs to make her feel loved even when she can not love herself (Gray 35).