Exceptional hardships, challenges, or opportunities make me think of about a million things that have happened throughout my short twenty-one years of life. In today’s society, it is very common for a child to grow up in a home where one of the parents is absent. In most cases, it is usually the father that is not present, particularly in African American homes. “In the United States today, 16,334,000 children under age 18 live in single mother homes,” (Fluty 4). Single parent homes affect children psychology producing negative effects on the child’s esteem, behavior, as well as education. Fatherless homes also take a greater toile particularly on boys, rather than girls.
Consequences Of Single Parenthood Single parenthood has consequences on African-American families. In fact, statistics have shown that kids of unwed mothers of any race are more exposed to poverty, to go to prison, to perform poorly in school, use drugs, and have their own children out of wedlock (Washington, 2014). Single parenthood has also consequences for families’ health.
Black males is a major reason why 70% of black children are born to single mothers compared to the national average of 40%. Studies show that the main reason why black fathers fail their kids is because they don’t get married, or don’t stay married with their original spouse. The black community are the least likely to marry any other race in the United States. Another reason why black father fail their kids is because a lot of the time their relationship with the child well depend on the relationship they have with their mother, if that relationship fails than more likely than not the relationship with the child will fail as well. From personal experience and in the community I live in. In Prince Georges County Maryland, the majority race
Families who have dealt with being a single parent typically see themselves being judged by other parents. For example, Jamie Rush a teen mom said "If he acts up, or if he falls over and bumps his head, I always think people are looking at me as if to say "It's because you're a teenager." (Rush 3). This shows that teen moms are trying their best and love their kids too. Schools are helping teenage single parents. Take the case of Jamie, after she gave birth to her son, she went to an alternative school with a built in daycare (Rush 1). This tells you that there is help for teens out there, but it's not always available to everyone. Socially speaking, one of the primary causes of single parents is because of one of the parent's death. Through research, we have found that the primary cause of single-parent households was because of parental death (Chamie 1). This proves that not all single-parent homes is because of teen pregnancies. As a result, there are many single parents struggling with being judged, or because of significant other's death. But there are schools, helping
“That mouth is going to get you in trouble!” In those days, I could never comprehend how my actions warranted my removal. I was raised by a successful Black single mother who taught me at an early age what it meant to be a Black woman in today’s American society. The daughter of sharecroppers from Mississippi, education was always important to my mother. My grandparents worked hard to make sure she could receive the education they could not and in turn, my mother stopped at nothing to make sure my brother and I had the best educational experiences possible. She always encouraged me to use my voice, to ask questions and to stand up for myself. The middle school I went to was majority minority, mostly Black and Latino, but my Gifted and Talented classes were nearly all White. Having experienced microaggressions and in some cases blatant racism throughout her career, my mother quickly figured out she had to work that much harder being Black and female. She would constantly tell me to “be quicker, be slicker, be smarter”—essentially meaning to stay on your toes and two steps ahead of
Being raised just by my Mom for a while had a major effect on the person I came to be today. When you think about a Mom, you tend to think loving and caring. With my mom raising me, she taught me just that. Growing up she taught me the values of being respectable to my elders, how to have proper manners, how to treat a girl correctly, etc… Most people would think that because of this, their son may come out to be “girly”. Since a father figure is not present. Although, I knew growing up that I had to act as the “man” of the house. So when my
I do not like to share details about my life if I do not have to. This is not because I have things to hide; but honestly, because I do not think my life is as exciting or as remarkable as other people’s lives. I am the daughter of a hard-working Puerto Rican mother and a Dominican father that unfortunately is not part of my life. For some people, being the child of a single parent is rough. For me, it has been one of my greatest blessings. This experience has taught me about the real value of family, love, respect and acceptance. My mother has been my rock, my counselor, my greatest cheerleader and above all my best friend. The connection that we have is envied by my boyfriend and even some of my friends. Some people can think, that I hide my resentments with the relationship I have with my mother or that I simply do not have any, I do. Contrary to the majority of the people in my situation, I do not have the need to vocalize them and concentrate in the negativity that such feelings bring. I am not devout, but I did grow up in a Christian household and one of the many things that I was educated on, is that God works in mysterious ways. Perhaps, God’s enigmatic plan was for me to learn how to value my blessings in a different way than the kid that is raised in a two-parent
To ensure the success of a child in a single-parent home, the child must have a strong relationship with his mother. According to a study on the effect of resilient single mothers of successful black men from absent-father homes, men who were successfully raised by single mothers have had the luxury of benefitting from “their mother 's hard work and efforts to raise them during their younger years,” which in turn strengthened their relationship (Wilson, Henriksen Jr and Bustamante). The author’s mother was always present in his life and was his support system. She
At this point the author is referring to the different connections that mothers and fathers have with each child. Mothers may have a better understanding with their daughters than sons, and vice versa. Not saying that single mothers are not worthy of rising a young man in a man, but there is a disconnect between the two. Usually that is why young African American males go out to the streets, because they receive a different type of love or affection from people out in the streets that they are not getting at home. Men and women have different thought patterns that coincide with parenting style. There is some stuff that only your mom can teach you and other stuff only your dad can. So once there is a continuation of this disconnect then it continue to be a generational things that can be displayed in the African American still to this day. This will have a long term effect whether that be conscious or unconscious it will carry him through his life.
Growing up with only one single parent is one of the most significant challenges that I have ever had to face. I have not only grown up without a proper father figure, but the struggles that my mother and family have had to overcome were challenging in itself. Single mothers, especially those that must provide for more than one child, are hard working individuals. Single mothers always put their family before themselves in order to support their families. I myself have witnessed the selfless deeds that my own mother has done. She works very hard to make sure that me, and my other two siblings, are not in need of anything. My mother makes sure that she had the ability to provide for her family no matter the conflict. As for myself, I have concluded that single mothers do not have to be dependent on someone else, they are capable of many things that break many patriarchal idea and thoughts.
In the late 1990s and early 2000s, I was a single mom raising two young children. At the same time, I was starting on a new career path and was not certain I would be successful. Making sure my children had a roof over their heads and food
Becoming Mom Two pink lines. I gasped! I remember feeling overwhelmed, my body shaking from the excitement. It finally happened! My husband and I had tried unsuccessfully for a year, and finally, two pink lines. When I told him, he asked me over and over if I was sure. I was not sure how to react, since we had wanted it for so long. I knew being a mom was going to be hard, but I had no idea exactly how difficult it would be. I never realized how much life would change when I became mom.
My parents divorced when I was five, so I was raised in a single parent home by my mother. My aunt and mother both instilled in me what it means to be a strong, independent, God fearing woman. From the time I was born I attended church regularly, praise dancing and singing in the choir. Being able to touch someone while ministering the word of God is one of the greatest privliges I’ve had.
Summary: Singles mother hurt themselves and children by trying to show society that they are strong and that they can survive by their own. This source show us how kids can be affected in a bad way because of their mother status. When those women decide to bring to the family a new integrant, kids get hurt with their emotional and in their academy life as shown in this quote “ The more “transitions” experienced by a child — the arrival of a stepparent, a parental boyfriend or girlfriend, or a step- or half sibling — the more children are likely to have either emotional or academic problems, or both.” (Hymowitz, 2014)
I grew up in a single parent household, and was a part of one until recently when my mom decided to remarry my now step dad. Growing up in this type of household has affected me in more ways than one would like to believe. It has affected the way my family is seen by others, how we speak to one another, and has had a large impact on my education. It has also given me a bigger stressor than simply living and growing in a single parent household with my mom; it gave me separation anxiety because of how we ended up in this