How Different Styles Of Parenting Affect Children

The parent allows the child to regulate his or herself as much as possible and if expectations are not met punishments rarely follow. Also the little rules and regulation as well as everything else is thoroughly explained and discussed with the child. Overall if the child disagrees, he/she is often accommodated and given what they want (Dewar, 2014). Located roughly in the middle of these two styles lies authoritative parenting. Authoritative parenting is an even balance of authoritarian and permissive. Authoritative styles have many rules and regulations and overall expectations of the child. Typically, the rules are discussed with the child and if believed to be fair, are negotiable. If expectations have not been met, the child will be spoken to and have the situation explained on how to improve for future events (Gwen Dewar, 2014). Punishments do exist in this style but rather than making the child fear them, they are given punishments to “remember and learn”. As opposed to authoritarians’ the child will be allowed to state his opinion and is given the opportunity to question things.

In this day in age there are various approaches to raising children. Each parent(s) must decide for them selves which style best fits their beliefs and abilities. Many parents come to the conclusion that they will try their best and just hope that their children learn right from wrong and the abilities they need to succeed in life. However, what most parents do not always realize is that the style of parenting they are using may have a bigger impact on their child than they are aware of. For the sake of these parents and their sanity, as well as the children’s, I have classified these styles of parenting into categories.

The parenting style in the home will result in differences in the children’s behavior. For example, an authoritarian parent is controlling, punitive and strict. Their rules are not flexible and do not tolerate expressions of disagreement. These

The authoritarian parenting style is a style in which the parent has the only say. This parenting style “is based on obedience and the expectation of a child obeying without an explanation required” (McMillian). Authoritarian parents are more likely to discipline their children. Children of authoritarian parents don’t often get

When disciplining your child remember that the strongest influence on your parenting style is how your parents raised you (Brimhall, 2015). The three parenting styles that Barumrind discovered includes authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. These patterns parents display when raising their child can positively or negatively impact your child’s development. Parents who demonstrate authoritative parenting style are firm control on the child’s behaviors, but allow the child to develop autonomy. Unlike authoritative parenting style, authoritarian parenting style does not promote independency. Lastly, permissive parenting style is over indulgent with no

Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).

Authoritative parents know what they want their children to do, but they also treat them with respect and warmth. Children raised with this parenting style are independent, self-reliant, competent, and tend to do well in school. Authoritarian parents have strict guidelines, are very demanding, and do not respect or communicate well with their children. Their treatment of their children is cold and rejecting. This parenting style tends to cause hostility and resentment in children. The children are less confident, do not do as well academically or socially, and are often anxious and irritable. Permissive-indulgent parents are easy going and have low attempts to control their children. The children are treated with warmth and support. Children raised by permissive parents tend to be resourceful and have high self-esteem. However, research supports the idea that these children have less self-discipline and are less responsible than children from authoritative families. (Permissive Parenting) Rejecting-neglecting parenting involves having low demands for behavior and low attempts to control their children. “The children of neglectful parents are the least competent, responsible, and mature.” (Rathus, pg. 167)

Authoritarian is only one of three parenting styles that Baumrind details. The other two styles include authoritative and permissive. These two variations in parenting styles were seen in the way my relatives and friends’ parents approached parenting. I observed how the parents of my close friend handled parenting. They maintained control over aspects in my friend’s life like school and chores but allowed the freedom to make decisions in areas of social activities. The most striking difference between my parents and my friend’s is the use of reasoning and the expression of warmth. Her parents provided justification behind their commands and or punishments while maintaining a sense of love and affection. The bond and love that is evident between my friend and her parents is not as strong in the relationship between my parents and me. The style that her parents exhibit is known as authoritative because of their focus on some parental control, use of reasoning and warmth. While on the other hand, my cousins raised their children in a completely different manor using a permissive parenting style. While they provide obvious love and affection towards their children, they fail to exert control and regulations. They did not have any real sense of rules in their household. Their children tend to act and do whatever they wanted with little to no repercussions.

In my recent psychology class we studied parenting styles. They are grouped into three different categories; authoritarian, authoritative, and overly permissive. This gave me insight into a couple of different programs I’ve watched on television.Authoritarian parents are parents that set strict rules to keep order and they usually do this without much expression of warmth and affection. “They demand obedience to authority.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2010, p. 91) When the child questions the parent, "Because I said so," is often the response. Parents tend to focus on bad behavior, and not positive behavior, and children are scolded or punished for not after the rules. Authoritative parents help their children learn to be responsible for

What affects parenting styles? Was it our own parents or education or experiences growing up? There are four types of parenting styles, Authoritative, Authoritarian Permissive, Uninvolved/Neglectful. Which of these four was used on me and what are the effects?

96% of authoritative parents love their children unconditionally, while permissive parents are at 89% and authoritarians are at 31%. Parenting styles have a enormous say in how your children will grow up. How you prefer to raise your children basically boils down to three major groups. Those are the authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive. Although there are five styles of parenting, those are the most commonly adopted. Authoritarian parents tend to have the “I have complete dominance over you” thinking. Permissive parents are, the more laid back parents who do not long to upset their children. The parents who have high standards, but provide their children with the resources they need to succeed are the authoritative parents.

Many parents feel confident that their child will grow and master new abilities independently. However there is extensive research linking healthy child development to effective parenting. Children excel when parents provide not only communication, but also affection and listening. Even though parenting style plays a crucial role in the development of a child, almost 70% of parents do not have a sense of awareness when it comes to their own style and how it affects their children. In the UK, with the introduction of the Crime and Disorder Act 1998 and Anti-Social Behavior Act 2003, it is evident that children and youths are getting increasingly out of hand. Many parents say that as they get increasingly distanced from their children, they feel a sense of loss (Donnellan & Firth, 2010). Hence this essay aims to prove how different parenting style affects the upbringing of a child, with the authoritative style being the most successful. This essay will first present an overview of the 3 most common parenting styles in the UK, followed by a detailed analysis on how parenting styles affect the development of a child. This will be done by providing a comparison parenting styles on a wide range of youth outcomes, including well-being and self-esteem, the probability of anti-social behaviour, as well as school results and employment.

They may act fearful or extremely shy around others, along with having low self-esteem and have difficulties communicating in social settings. Mr. and Mrs. Harsh-Heart’s children might show more aggression when they’re not home, because their home is an overly strict environment. There will be a restriction on the child’s ability to think freely and anytime a parent doesn’t listen to the child then adds on to the child’s mental stress. In the child’s mind they are experiencing mental turmoil and this will lead to them feeling guilty, lacking self-worth and self-confidence whenever they are punished. Overall, children raised in an authoritarian household are obedient, but there’s a large possibility that they will lack self-discipline. Most psychologists agree that it is important for children to follow rules, but the authoritarian parenting style is too penal and lacks the nurture and unconditional love that children need to blossom.

The authoritative parenting style is the “In between,” of both the authoritarian and permissive parenting styles, and has a “Give and take approach.” Authoritative parents are very involved in their children’s lives: children help around the home and in decision-making processes, and homework is supervised. This approach to parenting raises children who are responsible, well behaved in school, have a high self-esteem, and good problem solving skills along with decision making skills. The authoritative approach to parenting has very positive effects on children’s lives presently, and in the future. (Marsiglia, C.,Walczyk, J., Buboltz, W., Ross, D. 2007).

A parents parenting style has a direct effect on children at a young age. The primitive age for development in a child is between the ages of 3-7. This also happens to be when parenting styles are developed. External factors, like parenting styles, can have a direct and sometimes negative effect on children. The child with an authoritarian parent is often associated with low academic performance because of the pressure to do well. This child also may have a low self esteem, poor social skills, possible mental illness and could be into drugs or addicted to drugs (Milevsky et al., 2007). These children are often thought of as delinquents due to too much attention from the parent and overwhelming sense of wrong doing with their parent hanging over their back. This child may act out in school or to other higher authority figures. These children may have poor social skills and are less independent compared to others their age. Children with permissive parents usually do not follow the rules; have worse self-control because they were never taught at home. As well as, encountering more problems in relationships and social interactions. Children that have neglectful parents are impulsive and do not self regulate their emotions. These children often encounter more delinquency and addiction problems as well as have mental issues. These children are among the rates of committing or attempting suicide (Milevsky et al., 2007). Finally, children with authoritative parents are often the