How Does My Objectification Affect Our Society?

I got up today trying to figure it out what to write on the journal, as I was thinking about it I look at the book and then it hit me “imperfection” that is my key word. I took this word out of the book The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown because I believed that imperfection is the perfect world for me. Even though I try to do everything perfect in my eyes nothing is good enough. I am one of those person that cannot giver herself credit for nothing. One example is that I work as a cashier at the Dollar General. Last week they offered me the opportunity to become a floor leader. I was in shock, I thought why me if I am just a simple cashier. Well, my supervisor to me all the good things this position came with it, but I was not putting

Perfectionism is conceptualized as a multidimensional construct (Ayerst, Flett, & Hewitt, 2012). As cited in Ayerst, Flett and Hewitt (2012), Frost, Marten, Lahart and Rosenblate {I am working on getting access to this source} view perfectionism as a cognitive construct focused on concerns about making mistakes, posessing high standards, and doubting one’s actions. Additionally, Frost and colleagues also understood perfectionism as involving two

Do you push yourself to be the best? Do you get mad at yourself for not doing the best? Do you delay assignments till the last possible limit because of fear of rejection? Do you feel horrible when work isn’t done to your best ability of when minor failures seem like catastrophic ones? These are all signs of what is known as perfectionism (Pacht 1984). If you seem to agree with most of these things then you might be a perfectionist. According to Webster’s dictionary, it states that perfectionism is "a disposition which regards anything less than perfect, unacceptable." Many people in the world suffer from perfectionism. So is that case of Mike Bellah. His perfectionism lead him to a lifestyle where he lost

I have always assumed that being a perfectionist was a good thing. From an early age I became enchanted with the “Charlie Sheen mentality;” I had to be “winning,” or at least convince myself that I was. An internal voice encouraged me to be the best that I could be, and failure, quite simply, was not in my vocabulary. However, as I prepared to enter high school, my innate desire to be a perfectionist truly acted as the anchor that slowly weighed me down. I learned that perfection was undeniably unattainable in my life; my devotion to “perfectionism” led me astray on a long, twisting path of deceit. I occupied my time with unchallenging schoolwork and “cheated the system” by electing to compete in the baseball league designed for kids a full year younger than me. As it turns out, trying to be a big fish in a little pond was the way I insulated myself from failure, the way I falsely convinced myself that I was “winning.” I was afraid to try, or rather I was afraid of the possibility that I might try and fail. Attempting something difficult carried the risk of not succeeding, and with it the implication that

Society has become addicted to achieving perfection. Its precedence can be seen in every aspect of life from sports to appearance. The illusion of human perfection motivates great feats yet it can also be the cause of infamous failures. Famous coach and commonly quoted motivator John Wooden once said “Perfection is impossibility but striving for perfect is not. Do the best you can. That is what counts.” Working for an idea or belief that is unreachable or in some cases may not even exist seems futile, but the success of the attempt does not outweigh the presence of the effort. The idea of perfection is unachievable because everything has flaws, but the path to perfection is walkable. In his

Perfection is a tricky beast. A bubbling, illuminating, effervescent creature, always flitting in front of my eyes and heart, simply begging to be chased, excellence has always held a special, unquenchable place in my heart. Perfect grades. Perfect looks. Perfect performance. Perfect persona. Perfection. With a capital P. Perfection, with all of its glimmer and promise, is my raw, ragged, ravenous Achilles heel.

In order for you to be spectacular at what you want to be in life you have to practice. No matter how great you are you can improve on anything. Not one person in this world is a perfectionist. Anyone and everyone are replaceable. Don’t have a big head just because you,are on point at the moment.

I am still in the process of figuring out where I fit, I am not consistent in school, or in my focus on a career; I know that tendency is probably within most of us at this stage of our educational career. This is confession time for me, part of my perfectionism struggle comes at times when I feel inadequate, or when I know I am struggling. I think I pull the tasks back in, because I have something to prove to myself as well. I know this would not be a healthy or helpful manager, but experiencing this personal struggle may help me see it within my employees, and be an opportunity for me to share how this limits me, and how I have had to learn to let go and trust as

Comparison will steal your joy. Right now, I see many traits in you that I see in myself. Perfectionism is something I see in both of us. I used to think these traits could be a great tool when you work, but then I read The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown and she stated, “Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal” (pg. 57). Bug-a-boo, I know this isn’t something that you want to hear, but she is right. There is no such thing as being perfect. As I see you struggle as a nine-year-old to perfectly read that chapter book or make all of the kids like you at school, I just want to hug you and tell you that you are and always have been enough. I once heard in a song, “You’ll always measure up if you compare yourself to you”. You are the only person you need to focus on. I don’t mean the ideal “perfect daughter, sister, friend, student” portrait you try to paint yourself to be. I’m talking about the beautiful girl who loves to dance down the hallway, the girl who leaves her school work scattered around the house, the girl who struggles, the girl who is human. Additionally, keep in mind, comparing yourself to others robs you of the potential YOU were given. And trust me, that potential is

I have come to the realization that the harder you try at being perfect the more

Perfectionism is defined by Kerr (1990) as a complex of characteristics and behaviors, including compulsiveness with regard to work habits, over-concern for details, unrealistically high standards for self and others, indiscriminate acquiescence to external evaluation, and rigid routines. Lightcap (1985) defining perfectionism as ‘dark side of giftedness’. Many theorists explain perfectionism with two different ways; positively and negatively. Hamachek (1978) described perfectionism as a positive characteristic: The student is intrinsically motivated, earns high grades, and performs well on tasks. It can lead to achievement, self-confirmation, high self-esteem and responsibility. On the other hand, Parker (2000) stated that feelings of

“The fastest way to break the cycle of perfectionism is to give up the idea of doing it perfectly - indeed to embrace uncertainty and imperfection.” - Arianna Huffington

Many people associate perfectionism as something good without realizing that it is not always good. The character ‘flaw’ that I would never give up is that I am a perfectionist.

According to Noble, Ashby, and Gnilka (2014), adaptive perfectionists set realistic standards, were ready for a challenge and accepted their mistakes. The authors indicate that students with moderate perfectionism gained satisfaction after achieving imposed expectations and had positive self-esteem. Those students had significantly lower level of depressions compared to maladaptive perfectionists (Noble et al., 2014). Thus, the adaptive dimension of perfectionism implies a relatively lower level of stress among college

Nonetheless, I have learned from these trials of trying and trying harder. I no longer strive for the people around me, I try for me. Through most of my life I have spent more time focusing on approval from my parents and others that the happiness of myself, but I know now that the happiness and contentment with myself has nothing to do with those “perfect people” around me. I believe you will never meet expectations of those who think the most of you, you must only meet your