How My Parent Divorce Changed My Life

Not many things in life stay the say anymore. You can expect one thing to happen but then all of a sudden its turns out totally different. There is a quote that kind of speaks to me from a movie called forest Gump “life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you’re going to get”. It’s so true but we as humans, we adapt we take on these changes and we adapt to them. I’m going tell you about a big change for me about seven years ago the move that changed many things for me.

In my life I have had many changes in the past last year that have really been life altering. My main one is cutting my father out of my life. Some might say that is crazy and ridiculous but if you have been through what I have went through the past year with him you would do the same. He was alway harassing me on social media because i’m not calling him everyday. Which for a long time I just brushed it off my back but now that I have gotten older. I’m really just over it and i’m honestly more happier without him in my life. Another decision I

Even though situations seem averse they might become positive in the end. To me and probably most people in my situation would say that their parents being divorced would be a negative situation. Although at the time I was distraught, I learned that my parents divorce might have not been helpful at first, but later on it affected my life dramatically.

Six years ago, a summer afternoon, my dad hugged me and I said “I will be gone for three days, I have a job in Austin, but I promise that I will be back before your birthday. I promise.” Days, weeks, months almost two years passed by and I did not receive any phone call or text message from him. Throughout that time my dad was gone, my mom told me that she was getting the papers ready to divorce my dad. I was noticing that the last three-four years that I was living with both of my parents, their relationship was getting worse. It was not a healthy situation for anyone in the house. What I mean about not being healthy is that my mother and father were damaging one another, emotionally and verbally, which my brothers and I would watch everything. Every day was the same routine, we forgot how it was to have a peaceful home. Around that moment, I honestly never thought divorce was going to be their solution.

Looking back at my past, I recall my mother and father’s relationship as if it were yesterday. I am only four years old, small and curious; I tended to walk around my home aimlessly. I would climb book shelves like a mountain explorer venturing through the Himalayans, draw on walls to open windows to my own imagination, or run laps around the living room rug because to me I was an Olympic track star competing for her gold medal; however my parents did not enjoy my rambunctious imagination. My parents never punished me for it but would blame each other for horrible parenting skills; at the time I did not understand their fights, but instead was curious about why they would fight.

I've changed a lot through my life but nothing has changed me more than an obstacle that my family and I had to over come. My family and I were homeless for awhile, some can't bounce back to where we were. We didn't let that stop us to get to where we wanted to go. I've been through so many conflicts I feel I have grownup way too fast for my age, but there was one conflict that has helped me grown stronger, not just as a person but mentally too.

It was less than a second, maybe half a second, but it changed everything. It was late at night after a soccer game. I was laying down in my room, coloring in a picture book, when my parents called me downstairs. After my sister and I walked downstairs, we were told to sit on the couch. Apparently my parents had something important to tell us, i didnt really realize what was going to happen because I was younger, so I sat on the couch smiling widely.

Growing up in a home with divorced parents began my real-life experience as it related to the areas of law and criminal justice. My parent’s divorce was a very long process due to a contentious custody battle. It was very eye opening as to the relation between the law and these types of legal proceedings. The divorce lead to my parents living in separate homes; essentially causing us children to be essentially split between two people we loved. My parents were with very malicious people both abusive in their own ways. My father began a relationship with a woman who was verbally abusive. My mother began a relationship with an alcoholic who was physically abusive. He was also abusive in other ways, but my family never knew about that part. With both relationships, there were many times law enforcement was called. These law enforcement individuals were the ones that showed me as a young, innocent child that police officers did not merely hand out speeding tickets, but they were there to protect those who could not protect themselves. Every time the police were called they always asked if I was okay or if I was scared. One of the times I gathered the courage and told them how frightened I was. This lead to them taking my mother’s boyfriend to jail. The abuse I was subjected to by my mother’s boyfriend as a child is what lead me towards a goal of working in law to help those who may be in the same position I was as a child. I never shared the additional abuse I encountered as a

Life can take plenty of weird twists and turns. I have an abundance of experience in encountering and adapting to change. Imagine being nine years old in an unexpected family meeting. My parents announce the news that we were moving across the country from Washington state to Georgia. I immediately was sent into turmoil and became scared. I had never been to Georgia before; therefore, I did not know what to expect. After we moved, I started fifth grade and realized it wasn’t that different from living in suburbs of Washington. Throughout my years there, I played club soccer and met amazing friends. I learned how to act polite and mannerly when expected, as well as generous and friendly when need be. My life was filled with happiness. There

My parents’ divorce has made the biggest influence in my life because it helped me determine and strengthen my identity. The experience forced me to grow up because of how close I was to the fire. When the divorce hit at age 17, I was not ready. My parents have always been my world. They always made sure that they upheld a stable environment for me. But my world came crashing down. I quickly began to learn things that I did not want to know and I started to slack off and hide away from social activities. After the first few months of the transitional process, I was being treated like a 35-year-old roommate more than an innocent child. I was given some independence. I was left alone more often while my parents spent time elsewhere. I had to

According to Carl Pickhardt Ph.D in Surviving Your Child’s Adolescence “divorce tends to intensify a child’s dependence and accelerates their phases of development, from been preschool children to adolescents.” As mentioned above, it is important to remember that children need their parent’s support during their lives for them to be able to surpass every trial that it encounters difficulty. In agreement with Focus On The Family, children of all ages are affected when divorce splits a family, but different age groups can react in different ways. So much is different and unknown that their lives become filled with scary questions such as “What is going to happen next?” “Who will take care of me”. With one parent moving out, I can lose the

In life many things may come at you at many different angles. December of my sophomore year my parents got a divorce which split our family apart. My sister went with my mother and I went with my father. This tore my sister and father apart and now my sister only gets the one side from my mother witch is the wrong side of information. Later that year I was getting recruited form many different colleges and my mail was being sent to my old house which my mother lives at. One day I went to get my mail, at my house. My sister was there and let me in because my mother hid the key from me. When I got inside i realized I was not going to find the letters and left. Later that day I got a call from the park city police department saying that my mother

Another negative personality complex divorce causes is anxiety. Forms of anxiety are more commonly found in children who?s parents are divorced than those who?s parents are still together. Anxiety can be a grim reality and can effect how children live their lives.

My parents went through an ugly divorce that my younger brother and I were subjected to. I had to give testimony and speak to the judge during the proceedings which left an impression in me. I became fascinated with the judicial system. I soon joined the Independence Youth Court, a diversion court in my city to help troubled minors rehabilitate into good citizens. My volunteering with Independence Youth Court has continued for three years and gave me immeasurable knowledge and experience arguing in a courtroom. I also joined the Mock Trial team at my school to practice researching and arguing a trial case in court. Overall, I look at my parents’ divorce as bittersweet; on the one hand, feelings were hurt and relationships were broken, but I

My mother and father got a divorce a few years back. Although I was 36 at the time of the divorce, I took it pretty hard. When couples split up, it takes it toll on the children. You really do feel like you have to pick a side. Another hard thing to have to deal with after a divorce is feeling the loss of friends and family. My father bad mouthed my mother to a lot of friends and she did the same to him. I noticed that their friends seemed to have taken a step back for a few years until the negative energy died down. My father also has no family in Texas, so all the family he had was my on my mother’s side, and he lost them all. I’m sure he felt alone for a while and maybe he still does. (who cares) The main thing that makes divorce difficult it the finances. My mother was a house wife her whole life, so now that she is in her late 60’s, she had no income. My older sister and bro-in law moved in with her to help her pay bills for about 3 years and now my little sister lives with my mother. I am thinking about redoing my guest bathroom to accommodate her when it’s my turn. Dealing with finances is one of the hardest things in my situation but in the beginning, I was very worried about my mom’s emotional health. Losing your first love to infidelity is so heartbreaking, I’m sure that depression and grief make divorce very