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How To Get An Icepack

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During the Dryden deserves an icepack video, a couple of conflicts occur between Dryden and Ewan, first there is a conflict about getting an icepack, Dryden feels he needs an icepack for the mud that has been swiped onto his face accidently by Ewan. Ewan is hesitant to go inside to retrieve the ice pack and holds onto his shovel tightly, displaying an unwillingness to put his shovel down. The Educator reminds Ewan that we help friends when we have hurt someone even if it was an accident, and offers to hold the shovel while Ewan retrieves the icepack. Next the boys disagree about which shovels should be used during digging the hole. Dryden feels that his little shovel is the one that should be used and that
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Initial reaction could be to have the large shovel removed from the situation, and reprimanding Ewan for not being safe. Reprimanding can be emotionally stressful for a child and can have adverse effects on child-adult relationships (Porter, 2008, p.23). Then when asked to go and get an icepack, if the educator had the belief that children should always follow directions given by adults, Ewan could again receive punishment for his actions of disobeying. This type of controlling discipline could lead to Ewan feeling resentment towards Dryden and other peers. Porter (2008) describes that with the use of this type of controlling discipline, children can develop negative expectations of peers which effects their social interactions with their peers 9(p.22). Some may see Ewan as deliberately being disobedient, however Ewan was not intentionally trying to hurt Dryden or disobey the educators request he was simply being a child. Porter suggests that When children act thoughtlessly, the response should be to teach more skilful behaviour, rather than punish them for natural childhood mistakes, as that would amount to punishing them for being children (p.15). Both boys wanted to control the situation and wanted it their way, some may believe these boys are being stubborn and resistant to change and educators…show more content…
what should we do if we accidently hurt our friends? By asking questions and guiding Ewan to self-regulate, Ewan will become aware of peers needs and values along with being considerate of others and also to feel he has made the choice himself to get the icepack rather than being told to by educator. Porter (2014) defines that a Guidance approach does not want children to be compliant, but instead aim to teach to act considerately (p.16) it also helps them to think about the effects of their actions on other people (p.151). A guidance approach allows the educator to see Ewan had not deliberately tried to hurt or flick mud at Dryden, and this had simply been a natural childhood mistake. Porter (2008) suggests that when children act thoughtlessly, the response should be to teach more skilful behaviour, rather than punish them for natural childhood mistakes, as that would amount to punishing them for being children
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