The book has a section entitled, “Marriage is traditional” and in that particular section it mentioned about how “marriage has changed over time.” When examined current day marriage trends show that people are looking for partnership or soul mates, not for the most traditional reasons of the past. The idea that one person is supposed to be with one person for the rest of their life is no longer relevant. It is possible to have many happy years with one person, but that does not mean that these people will die together. People can have a falling out. Situations change—people do grow. If people stayed stagnant their whole lives, where would society be? With the way
The idea of women being the ‘nurturers’ and the men being the ‘providers’ has been around for ages. Both articles suggest that this idea no longer fits in with the modern ideas of marriage because marriage is now seen as an equally shared experience. The concept that the work in a marriage and raising children should be shared equally between partners has become an expectation. Each article points out expectations their partners have and how these assumptions lead to angry
The divorce rate in the United States is higher than fifty percent today. The divorce rate continues to increase in America due to many reasons, one of them being that society today is a disposable society. Back in the day, when someone had a broken shoe he or she would fix it, and if there was a problem with a couple’s marriage, the two would work through it. But today, it is easier to ignore the problem, throw away what we do not like anymore and move on to the next, which is not the right way to live. In Lorrie Moore’s “A Kid’s Guide to Divorce”, Moore writes about a child and his or her mother. The two are sitting in their living room watching TV as they
As understandable as it may be, his work schedule, there needs to be a balance between work schedule and family time, quality time. This directly ties to the second question of constructive family socialization. To me it is not enough to take the family out to eat when the time allows it and not have this type of socialization. Nowhere in the study was this mentioned. It seems as if both John and Julia try to distract from the work routine and spend some time with their children, which are a good thing, but there is no constructiveness in addressing possible changes that could benefit the family better itself. For example, John being the one out of the home the most can be discussing a possible job change or decreasing the amount of time he is out to be there more for his children and wife. This is what betters a family in my opinion even though it is difficult habit to adapt to it is totally worth trying.
In his article, The Strategies of Finding a Mate, David M. Buss discusses the act of finding a mate and the characteristics that people are drawn to in a mate. He begins the article with a brief look at the history of mating and the theories that have previously been proposed. In particular he addressed Charles Darwin’s theory of sexual evolution and belief in preferential mate choice. Buss proposes that there are three components to human mating. He states that “human mating is inherently strategic… mating strategies are context-dependent… [and that] men and women have faced different mating problems over the course of human evolution and, as a consequence, have evolved different strategies” (Buss, 1994, p. 241). He uses this theory to propose nine different hypotheses to prove that despite humans being varied and different from each other, all humans look for similar characteristics when trying to find a mate (Buss, 1994).
In Dan Moller An argument against marriage he makes the claim that marriage seems not to persevere through the hardships and falls fault to time. I believe with this statement because once again I can relate to this particular topic to my own life in the fact that I grew up with divorced parents. According to Moller, most marriages tend to fall through as backlash of ongoing time with each other’s and this in fact is the reason my parents signed their divorce papers. I also believe an abundant amount of people in society concurs with this statement considering most people know of a friend, colleague, family member, etc. that knows of a divorced couple due to no longer enjoying each other’s time. To avoid the marriage ordeal all together some couples opt out of getting married to begin with, in fact the National Center
When the duchess of Windsor once said “A woman cannot be too rich or too thin.” No this does not apply to man. Men hold a different standard then woman are, it is okay for man to date woman with a lot of money and nothing is ever said about the man except that he must really love her. But if we flip it the other way around and a woman mad the statement that a man could never be to rich or too thin, then we have a whole new ball game. Woman would be ridiculed for making such a statement. People would say she is only dating him for his money, she is nothing but a gold digger, she does not love him she only loves the things he can buy her, or the places he can take her, she is just looking for someone to take care of her. They way society looks down on woman is not fair. It is discrimination to say that a woman cannot be happy with a man because he makes good money and is educated without people judging her. They always assume that there is an underling reason that she is with a wealthy older or younger man, and it can never be simply because she truly loves him.
Lastly, when the author states that she wishes for a understanding wife that lets her replace her if the author pleases to, I became irritated. Of course I believe anyone should have the freedom to get out of a relationship yet I personally will make my marriage work to the best of my ability. Brady advocates that women should be able to leave to leave a marriage for whatever reason, which I do agree with. I believe everyone should be able to make their own
In addition, their responsibilities may interfere with family relationships. The man has to support their family with everything. I remember that since my mom and dad got married. Dad has been working and gave us everything we wanted. We used to give all to me and my sister. But we didn’t spend so much quality time with our dad because he was always working. It will cause that dad and daughter or son feel disappointed because they hardly spend time and good moments together. The passage makes it clear why sometimes men can't share so much time with the family because they have to be worrying about supporting of their Family. The article states that children who don't spend quality time with their dad tend to be emotional effect. Finally, man who doesn't share time with the family they tend to be upset with
Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.
Love is a unique aspect of the human condition that does not seem to exist in any other lifeform. In spite of this, like many other traits that stem from evolution, it is likely that love is a product of that process as well. Regardless of whether it is subconscious or not, romantic and familial love seem to go hand in hand as people tend to seek qualities that may benefit a future family. It can be argued that the sensation felt by a large majority of the population, love, can be attributed to the selfish genes that inhabit the body. For the sake of argument, love can be described as the relationship between people and their concern for each other. Dawkins introduces processes like kin selection, mating strategies, and reciprocal altruism which may play a role in both romantic and familial love. To summarize these processes: kin selection is when an organism risks their own well-being for a relative to increase the likelihood of gene replication, mating strategies describe the methods in which an organism uses to attract a mate, and reciprocal altruism is acting in a manner that temporarily reduces one’s well-being with the assumption that the apparent act of altruism will be reciprocated.
In the article “For Better, For Worse: Marriage Means Something Different Now,” Author Stephanie Coontz talks about “marriage is no longer the main way in which societies regulate sexuality and parenting or organize the division of labor between men and women”. Likewise, people have no longer traditional value, and Now they need love, mutual understanding and faithful person to live with. So, if a couple is not able to get all these requirements then a couple don’t stay in a relationship. Additionally, if a couple is married, but they don’t love each other threat they take divorce. Apparently, marriage is not all about love between a couple, but it is about connecting loved once and children both. However, there are different situations such
A few relationships tend to be based solely on their partner’s level of attractiveness. We determine how attractive someone is, “ the prejudice of deciding what to do based solely on outward appearance could cost the pursuer the chance of a meaningful relationship” (Modern Day Adages). Although someone is “better” looking doesn’t mean anything when it comes to their character and personality. An “average” person can be more beautiful on the inside than a “better” looking person. As a society, we need to give others the opportunity to show themselves even if they’re “average.”