I Am Part Of The Statistics Of Fatherless Children

Fatherless homes in the black community is at 57.6% (NCF, 2017). One of many issues of a fatherless home is children have less structure and lack of discipline; i.e. Chicago. The children suffer the most. I believe children need both parents in the household to be complete (“not all”). I believe if women have father’s in their lives (a positive male figure at minimum) it could help their decision in choosing the right mate will help this issue.

There was a crucial period in my life when I felt dependent on my parents: preschool. At that time, my mom quit her job to become a full time mom and my dad

“Fifteen million American children, one quarter of the population under 18, are growing up today without fathers” (Davidson). Fifteen million American children are deprived the opportunity of having a father. Little do these deprived children know, they each will grow up with issues that challenge them every single day - issues that are impossible to control. Children do not deserve to be abandoned by someone who holds a part of them, but men all over the world leave their child fatherless. As one of those affected children, I entirely understand the feeling. Fatherless children become susceptible to a life full of hardships. Depression, low self-esteem, aggression, drug usage, and poor grades are common issues among fatherless children.

My father left my mother as a young immigrant, he left me at a young age, I only had my mother and my little sister. I couldn’t imagine the world without them, so when I discovered I could potentially lose my mother, I almost fell apart.

I come from single parent home and I have seen my mother struggle all her life to give me the life she never had. She immigrated to the United states, with my grandma, and her two siblings when she was nine and attended

In the essay, “Only Daughter” by Sandra Cisneros, she explains that she has six brothers and she is the only daughter. This relates to me because I am also in a Mexican family, however, I am not the only daughter. Cisneros argues that her father wanted her to get married because that is what daughters were meant to do; that although he agreed on her going to college, it was because he was sure she was going to find a husband. Many Mexican fathers today have this mentality that because they were not able to study, their children are not going to be able to study either and they are going to have to work. However, there are other fathers that because of the fact that they did not obtain the education they desired, the only hope they have is in their children; for the children to be better than them, succeed and become a professional in any area they choose. Cisneros spends a lot of time alone and writes her experience as an only daughter in a family full of sons, which is difficult because her father constantly degrades her and doesn’t value her as a writer. Support and encouragement from a parent is very important because that can help shape a child’s life from a very young age.

Being the oldest of three children to a single mother brought forth plenty of hurdles. Growing up I yearned for a father figure, sadly that void remained for years. The lack of a father figure hindered my academic progress and personal life. The sense of abandonment cast me on an island all by myself, contributing to a lot of my troubles at home and school. I honestly didn’t believe anyone would ever be able to relate to me, but I was soon proven

were things my parents rarely showed up at. I didn’t feel like I was really that much of a priority to them. Giving your child shelter, feeding them, and caring for their well being are traits of a responsible parent. I just never felt that true “mom/dad and daughter” connection that I saw with my classmates and their parents. My situation brought my self-esteem pretty low knowing not even my own parents truly supported me, but I turned it around for myself. I tried extra hard to excel in school and sports for one person, myself. That’s all you really need in life, right? At the end of the day, the only one there for yourself is

Watching my mother live from pay check to pay check when I was young was difficult. It was always hard for my mom to keep up with other parents but, she still somehow managed to get me everything I wanted, and more. Even though I was too young to understand, I could feel the stress, and the struggles my mom faced every day. She was only 20 years old when I was born and, because of that she had no choice but to grow up fast. At such a young age, I saw the effects of being a single parent, and the ways it changed my mom. She not only had to be a young mother but, she had to find a way to replace the void of a father, or a father figure in my life. My mom was strong, independent and courageous. Growing up watching her live her dreams under all the circumstances she faced, made me want to strive for a better life for myself. Seeing how hard is was to live and to have enough

I began to help my mom around the house. I had to learn how to cook a proper meal when I was seven years old, do laundry among other things to give my mom some relief. One day, when I was nine years old, my grandmother shared the news of my father’s departure to the U.S and that he did so to give me a better chance. It was heavy news for me, and as an emotional child I cried with my grandma and felt sad that from now on I was not going to get the occasional visit from him. As a teenager in the process of growing into a man, you think you need a father figure, a man perspective, advice on things that life throw at you, it was clear that I didn’t have that anymore. I was fortunate to have my mother and my grandmother to teach me right and wrong; the rest was pretty much up to me.

Growing up with a father that was never around and a father figure that also left was hard, but it taught me that I don’t need a father to rely on. I have myself and my mom, and as long as I don’t forget who I am I

Growing up without a father or strong male role model in the United States is extremely difficult. Fatherless children are disadvantaged in American society and face a greater struggle to become successful in their personal, educational, and professional lives. The decline of fatherhood in one of the most unexpected and extraordinary trends of our time. Its dimensions can be captured in a single statistic: In just three decades, between 1960 and 1990, the percentage of children living apart from their

“I am a fatherless daughter that survived your failure. I’m moving forward, my life is better than yours. I’m better than you, and you are missing out on something spectacular.”(unknown). An experience that has shaped my identity is when my dad had left and signed his parental rights. While my mom and dad were married, he was abusive and wouldn’t treat her right. My mom would leave me with my grandma so that I wouldn’t see the stuff my dad would do to my mom. My mom decided to leave my dad, so then my dad took my mom to court.

I grew up in a single parent household, and was a part of one until recently when my mom decided to remarry my now step dad. Growing up in this type of household has affected me in more ways than one would like to believe. It has affected the way my family is seen by others, how we speak to one another, and has had a large impact on my education. It has also given me a bigger stressor than simply living and growing in a single parent household with my mom; it gave me separation anxiety because of how we ended up in this

In my case, I was blessed to go home to a dad every night, even though I can’t tell you anything about my father for the simple fact that he never gave me a hug, kiss, told me he loved me, spent any time with me or said anything positive. He always talked to my mom and me like we were nothing, and even beat my mom. When I would try to tell the family about it, they just looked at me like