I Am The Second Of Four Children

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I am the second of four children in my family, and I have always speculated that many of our personality and temperament differences have to do with our birth orders. My brother is the oldest child and has always been known for being both independent and responsible. My youngest sister is tough, energetic, and more dependent than my siblings and I have been. I also have one more sister younger than me who exhibits what is typically referred to as “middle child characteristics”. She is quiet, reserved, and a peacemaker. I am in the middle of the family, yet the oldest of three girls, and I am typically looking out for my family and playing the role of peacemaker whenever there are disagreements. I believe there is sufficient evidence…show more content…
482). Could this be do to the fact that, naturally, parents hold higher expectations for their oldest children? The first-born child is often expected to perform at a higher level and seem to be older than they are and therefore able to do more. Also, the fact that they have their parents undivided attention for several years before they have any younger siblings means makes it quite possible that first-born children spend the rest of their childhood striving to win back the attention that they once held while they were only children. This supports the theory of Paulhus, Trapnell, and Chen (1999), that many first-borns use academics and responsibility to compete for their parents favor. My brother is five years older than me and this age gap lead to a lot of attention being placed on his sports and achievements. Much of this is due to the time my parents had with him before my sisters and I were born and the time and attention they had to devote solely to him. By the time I was in kindergarten, my brother was ten years old and already playing competitive sports. Consequently, my brother has always been responsible, conscientious, and a natural-born leader. I do believe that many of these qualities relate to the claims made by the researchers referenced earlier in this paper. Middle children are commonly considered by society to be the often overlooked children, stuck in the
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