I Am Tired Of Competing With Other Women Summary

Competition between peers makes people strive to try and be better than their opponents, and can be healthy or unhealthy depending on the competitors and their responses to the competition.

Competition is prevalent in various aspects of life, including sports, school, and jobs. Everyone at some point in their lifetime will have to compete against others in order to achieve a goal or earn a prize. It’s how the world has worked for a long time; it’s survival of the fittest and this minor competition between everyone is how we have continuously gotten smarter, faster, and stronger. Competition is necessary to a certain degree, but how much is too much? It’s definitely not a bad thing, and as long as there’s a healthy amount, it can be beneficial because it fosters self-improvement, and it will push people to go all out and try their absolute best.

Alfie Kohn states that “competition by its very nature is always unhealthy” and has written an essay opposing the concept. There are various examples of competition in the world today, from sports that the world watches on television, to spelling bees children in elementary and middle school participate in. Competition is a part of our daily lives whether we’re aware of it or not; however, it does have its disadvantages that leads me to support Kohn’s opinion.

Our gender has an effect on every aspect of our lives, varying from how we view ourselves and other people to how we interact in social and civic life. It also impacts the way we set our goals in opportunity areas such as education, work, and recreation. Gender socialization starts at birth then manifests through family, education, peer groups, and mass media. Gender norms are automatically placed on us, where women should learn how to be nurturing, sensitive, emotional, passive, and always hold a man’s position higher than hers. On the other hand men should be overly confident, aggressive, dominant, and view women beneath them. This paper uses various readings to show how these gender norms are supported and challenged in today’s society.

There is something subtle about attitudes toward women, something that many people act in accordance to but are only subconsciously aware of. It is the constant judgment that women face, and it is also something Deborah Tannen noticed while sitting in an ordinary meeting one day. During that meeting, she found herself noticing only the females of the room, not the men. Tannen then realized that it was because “The men’s styles were unmarked” (Tannen 389). While there are standard hairstyles and clothing for men, there are none for women. Everything that a woman wears is a reflection of who she is. In her piece titled There Is No Unmarked Woman, she writes about her experience and concludes that women cannot escape judgment no matter what they do.

“Competition was the cause of many social problems, causing good people to behave badly.” Were the words of Walter Rauschenbusch. Therefore, without the individual thought and behaviors which are just as important as abiding by the societal expectations, we cannot be the best humans that we can be.

After reading Children Need to Play, Not Compete by Jessica Statsky I thought she brought up some very valid points. I do think that this is a topic that should be scrutinized. I have a different view of the subject. I think that competition can be physically, and psychologically harmful if left unchecked by "abusive/uncaring" adults. I do think that with the right, caring and team work fostering environment competition can fostered without harmful effects, and can lead to learning lifelong skills that can bring emotional joy.

People accuse me of being competitive, as if this is bad quality. While it is true, in the generic sense of the word, but to me the only competition that matters is my own performance compared to my past performance while on the line with outstanding shooters. Competition energizes me to improve.

In sports women aren't taken seriously because they are always getting criticized and it’s time for change. Men are always chastising women on how they can’t play sports or talk about them. In the essay “Sexism and Sports”, Molly Quinton persuades that women shouldn’t be blamed in sports. Quinton uses the rhetorical choice of narration in this text.

Fierce competition is a good idea because people will want to do better than one another. This is why people will always want to be competitive. America is a country where most people like to do better than one another. No matter who you are they will always be people to try to do better or get better things that others have. I am competitive when it comes to sports.

In “Girls Will Be Girls” Orenstein talks about the struggles women face “to behave both like and unlike a man without being penalized either way” (2). It is not uncommon for women to be criticized for acting to much like a man. In “Jingo Belle”, Tannenoct describes the American beauty as “sexy” and explains how she “drive[drives] men wild” (58). This shows how women are often sexualized and expected to please men. In “When Women Rule”, Kristof explains how “when women highlight their accomplishments, that’s[it’s] a turn-off” (26-27).

In her book “Can’t We Talk” Deborah Tannen compares the manner of which males and females react to each other in diverse circumstances. Early in the reading she states that men are raised in a world in which a conversation is a competition that they should never loose, and women are taught to listen, confirm and offer support to other people. She supports this with when she stated that she saw it in her own husband when they worked in two different cities and how he “approached the world in a way to achieve and maintain status” (Tannen). Also, stated in the article, Tannen was talking about how ways to avoid fighting with their significant others, people tend to give in to

In this Podcast, Peter Melanson interviews Diane Vives – director of Vives Training Systems in Austin, Texas, on training female athletes. Peter asks Diane a series of questions in regards to female athletes versus male athletes on how to train better, the differences between training, and the types of injuries caused from the training between men and women athletes. Diane answers with questions with research and studies that supports her theories and reasoning’s to her ways of training the female athlete.

Competition is a condition of existence that every athlete has heard hundreds of times. As an active participator in many sporting events with numerous coaches and teammates, I have experienced competition first hand. I remember myself, along with coaches and teammates always being driven to win. Whether a sporting event or in academics, humans strive to be better than the person beside them. Although competition is such an innate trait that goes beyond humans and into animals as well, competition has been around since the beginning of time. While animals may be competitive as they fight for survival, humans have more of a satisfaction competitiveness. When people accomplish a task, myself included, they feel good about themselves while

One thousand years go by and an abundant amount of people still view women in a stereotypical type of way. On the opposing view, if women did not overstretch the slightest of things, this wouldn’t be such an enormous issue. Women may be overreacting to what the media has to say about them. It is not affecting everybody but a vast majority of successful women from continuing to moving forward said Marianne Schnall. Important to realize, women are capable of doing jobs men can do. Such jobs as being an engineer, physician, mechanic, lawyer and even top notch business women! Up to the present time there is an ongoing public debate on women suffering from double standards. If it makes a female feel threatened or belittled than it may be