Identity Nd Belonging Essay

1987 Words Oct 1st, 2011 8 Pages
Our sense of identity can never be constant
Identity and belonging are inter-related; they go like peas in a pod. The groups we choose to belong to and the ways we connect with others help to form our own identity. Together, these issues go to the heart of who we are and how we present ourselves to the world. One human quality that we all share, despite our individual identities, is the need to belong. It is a paradox that we long to be free, to be who we truly are and yet we yearn to belong to some kind of community. There is no real obligation to belong to one group, you can belong to many, that is, an individual is not bound or obliged to belong to one group, they can belong to many which can create multiple identities for the
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Belonging to a group often carriers with it a sense of exclusivity or privilege. It fosters the feeling that we are accepted and loved. Belonging to more than one group can also create multiple identities for an individual. The way most us behave within our families will differ to the way we behave within our social group, which creates multiple identities that we choose to portray in different groups and situations, therefore our identities is inconsistent. Belonging is often contradictory in nature. Sometimes in our efforts to belong, we may compromise our values and beliefs, lie to ourselves and do anything we can to be accepted. Belonging, to something, can make us feel better about ourselves, if only for a while. It can also make us feel trapped. Sometimes being a member of a group means security, other times it can mean pressure. Most of the time belonging to a group can define us; however it can also be where we lose ourselves. In an effort to find ourselves we actually become a clone of others. It is only through belonging that we can break out of the shell of individualism and self-centeredness that both protects and isolates us. Changing circumstances can precipitate a change in our identity. Moving to a new school, town or country means that we may lose our sense of belonging to the people and places we left behind. We need to adapt to a new environment and make connections with new people, thus