Implications Of Shame Resilience Theory

Profoundly interpersonal, the experience of shame is also therefore social and cultural. Shame is the result of feeling deficient, whether in relation to a parent, an admired friend, or a more powerful social group (39).

Unacknowledged Shame Theory is seen in a perspective that shame can cause a destructive emotion and can promote crime instead of preventing it if it is not managed positively. By using apology in return for forgiveness symbolises that reparation can commence (Braithwaite, 2004).

Esperanza’s situation is a reminder that shame can have a positive effect on people’s lives by being a source of motivation and inspiration.

According to Harris Perry, in Sister Citizen, there are three essential elements in the emotion of shame (104). The first element of shame is social; the fear of embarrassment or humiliation around others in our community. For Black women the social element of shame may cause all-encompassing feelings of guilt, especially when the possibility of public exposure by others to those who are family or close personally.

Shame is unspoken, it is the main secret behind different forms of broken behaviors. The aspiring researcher Brene Brown, in her earlier talk, “The Power of Vulnerability”, which became a viral hit and the most favored TED Talk video, explores what the possibilities are when people confront their shame. Along with her most recent video “Listening to Shame”, Brown speaks of both shame and vulnerability throughout the presentation. She digs into the uncomfortable, unacceptable, and human emotions that we keep deep within us and dares us to show our authentic selves. The presentation includes the rhetorical appeals of ethos, logos and pathos to build the fundamental objectives of the talk. In which throughout her talk, Brown portrays great credibility

Dr. Sandra D. Wilson (2001) asks, “Have you ever felt as if you were the only caterpillar in a butterfly world? Do you often feel as if you have to do twice as much to be half as good as other” (p. 16)? If you answered, yes, then that is what Wilson (2001) calls binding shame. “Shame is the soul-deep belief that something is horribly wrong with me that is not wrong with anyone else in the entire world. If I am bound by shame, I feel hopelessly, distinguishingly different and worthless (p. 16).

Shame is rarely—if ever—the presenting problem for clients entering therapy. It is, however, frequently a complication that occurs alongside the presenting problem. Because shame is almost never the only problem, it is important that therapists know how to work with it in the context of other problems; therapists need a way of dealing with their clients’ shame and addressing related disorders at the same time. They must be able to find ways to decrease the immediate negative reactions of shame during therapy. Such reactions of shame include wanting to run away, hide, or withdraw (Fable, 1999), which may defeat therapy before it begins.

“Shame” penned by entrepreneur “Dick” Gregory tells of a story that scarred him. A event that scarred him bad enough to haunt him until he was “twenty-one years old and married and making money.” He depicts the story of “Shame” using feelings such as love, isolation, and anger.

Shame is when one feels bad about an action they've done because it doesn't fit with the moral code of society or his own code. In each of these books, two types of isolation are explored: willed and forced. Within each type of isolation, there is always a willed choice to commit an action which induces shame. Shame makes the characters undergo isolation, whether one is forced into being alone, or one willingly

I love the power in this quote of comparing how we love and accept people when we are unashamed, versus when we are ashamed and feeling unworthy. The problem with living in a shame-based culture is it becomes increasingly normal, and therefore how shame affects our identity has gone unrecognized and undefined in most of our lives. This is how Brene explains shame, “Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging. Women often experience shame when they are entangled in a web of layered, conflicting and competing social-community expectations. Shame leaves women feeling trapped, powerless and isolated.”

Shame has been the difference between people reforming themselves and killing themselves. The effect that shame has on society today can make people commit suicide, lose jobs, or just flat out ruin lives. In The Scarlet Letter, Perry's article, and various ethnic news sources today can show, shame is very controlling and has a grip on everyone's lives. While reinforcement can help restrict the amount of harm that is given to someone through criticism, shame can still be used as an effective tool to influence someone to do good because of its prevalence in today's political and social systems, and its grip that it has on daily social media platforms.

Public shaming is not new. Shaming a person is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. Public shame ruins a person’s life over what they did wrong by being called names, being fired from a job, receiving death threats, and being known for what they did for the rest of their life. Public shame never goes away and is still used today to mock people. Thus, public shame can ruin a person’s life socially, mentally, and personally.

Brené Brown received her bachelors in Social Work in 1995 from the University of Texas in Austin. She went on to obtain her Master of Social Work from the University of Houston Graduate School of Social Work in 1996, and later her Doctor of Philosophy in Social Work from the University of Houston Graduate School of Social Work in 2002. Brené Brown is also a licensed social worker. She currently teaches and serves as Assistant Professor of Social Work Research at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She is impressive in her studies, her published works and her public speaking abilities. Brené Brown champions the research and conversation on vulnerability and shame and the cycles that affect human behavior.

Shame has affected women emotionally because women are lead to compare themselves with some other woman, but always ends it up feeling worthless and depressed. It is hard for women not take anything seriously when it comes to being commente to their images or aspects. society has created an idea of perfect woman, perfect body, perfect garment or perfect personality and is when most women has felt degraded or worthless and It is how shame has a big emotional impact on women, because women are susceptible to feel depressed and they don’t want anybody to see imperfections on them. Brown said “what makes women vulnerable to shame in these areas of feel judged are the unwanted identities” (73). Women are always hiding their imperfections because

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change”(Brené Brown). In The Scarlet Letter, by Nathaniel Hawthorne, a woman is publicly shamed for having a child with a man who is not her husband. Another example of public shame can be seen in modern day articles “Florida ‘Scarlet Letter’ Law is Repealed by Gov. Bush,” by Dana Canedy, and “Houston Couple Gets ‘The Scarlet Letter’ Treatment.” Both talk of public shame that people have had to endure in the present day. Public shaming is not an effective punishment because it is a cruel and unusual punishment, it does not deter crime, and it can emotionally traumatize the one being shamed.