Incredible Parents Vs. Divorced Parents

The effects of anxious and avoidant insecure attachment styles in relation to the different qualities of romantic relationships based off of cognitive, behavioral, and emotional indicators. Previous research led them to hypothesize that anxiety and avoidance are positively associated with negative indicators of relationship quality; anxiety correlating higher than avoidance (Li et al., 2012, p. 409).

As an adult people with dismissive avoidant attachment have the tendency to emotionally distance themselves from their partner. They deny the importance of loved ones and detach easily from them. They can shut down emotionally and are able to turn off their feelings.

7th grade was the year I woke up. My mom called me into her bedroom late one afternoon and was still sitting on her bed, wearing her pajamas. The bright and cheerful sunshine that lit up the room gave a false ambiance of the tension that clouded the air. I already knew what she was going to say, but I did not want to believe it as the truth. I had noticed that my mom and dad's relationship with one another was growing apart just by the way they acted around each other. The conversations between them became shorter and their affection for one another began to fade. My dad spent his nights falling asleep watching TV on the couch, while my mom slowly disappeared back into her bedroom, alone. This had been happening for a while now, so I do not know why I was even surprised when my mom said to me that, “Your dad and I are getting a divorce”. I should have seen it coming. The clues were all in front of me, but I was too afraid to put them together. I was scared because, for the first time in my life, the image of my "perfect" family was crumbling before me. I knew inside that my family was falling apart, but I was desperately holding onto the fibers that I thought were keeping us together. It is hard to believe that one encounter can change the course of one's life forever. In this instance, I was awoken from the dream that I had been living in for so long.

Family History and Current Relationships: Mr. Thomas has been married for ten years. He and his wife have two sons aged 8 and 6 years. His mother is very religious and wishes he would see religion as the way out of his problems. His father was an alcoholic and was physically and verbally abusive to him, his siblings, and his mother, whether he was drunk or sober. His father died as a result of a fight that occurred in traffic when he was drunk. He is one of four siblings. He has two brothers and a sister. His siblings live in other communities and they rarely get together; therefore, Mr. Thomas reports that he is not close to his family. His social circle consists of a few guys from the factory where he works.

(a) I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others, and I find it difficult to trust them completely. It is difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often love partners want to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.

Even though situations seem averse they might become positive in the end. To me and probably most people in my situation would say that their parents being divorced would be a negative situation. Although at the time I was distraught, I learned that my parents divorce might have not been helpful at first, but later on it affected my life dramatically.

The relationship is between two college age students where the Beca, has an avoidant style of attachment. Her parents divorced early in her life attributing to the cause of her avoidant attachment style, and this also led to the disconnect with her father. Because of this she is having difficulty in letting a romantic partner, Jesse, come too close to her. Her nonverbal

This paper discusses the correlation of children with divorced parents and their ability or inability to have intimate relationships in their futures. In most cases, it depends on the age of the child at the time of the divorce. Studies showed that marital problems, including but not limited to divorce, was associated with negative social, emotional, and physical affects in the children’s lives. Most articles included have different types of specific details, but all generally have the same outcome, being that children with divorced parents love differently than those that have parents happily married. Similar studies surveyed college students and discovered that children with fathers, who divorced and remarried, did not have a close relationship, which made these children more likely to avoid relationships. This literature review discusses the impact that divorce has on children who have or do not have relationships because of what happened to their parents’ relationships.

My parents divorced when I was about seven years old, and my mom became the custodial parent. As my younger sister and brother, and I could adapt to always going back and forth between our parent’s. The challenging thing about having divorced parents is meeting their new significant other, which I have met multiple of them. Another thing is meeting my parent’s significant other’s children. Each person I met was nice, and if I was meeting a toddler, they were energetic. Although, each time I did meet these people, I was usually very distant and dramatic.

Looking back at my past, I recall my mother and father’s relationship as if it were yesterday. I am only four years old, small and curious; I tended to walk around my home aimlessly. I would climb book shelves like a mountain explorer venturing through the Himalayans, draw on walls to open windows to my own imagination, or run laps around the living room rug because to me I was an Olympic track star competing for her gold medal; however my parents did not enjoy my rambunctious imagination. My parents never punished me for it but would blame each other for horrible parenting skills; at the time I did not understand their fights, but instead was curious about why they would fight.

A subgroup of men with an avoidant attachment style suffers from a condition known as the Madonna-whore complex ((Brogaard 2015). The avoidant attachment style is characterized by an inability to form long-term committed relationships. It is premised on fear of intimacy, rejection and abandonment that arose in early childhood as explained by Brogaard (2015). Brogaard analyzed that the complex occurs as a result of maltreatment by the mother and fear of incest as interpreted by Freud. “When a mother abandons, neglects, verbally, emotionally or physically abuses or is emotionally distant from her infant or young child, the child feels so hurt that he will eventually repress many of the memories associated with the mother’s behavior.”(Brogaard 2015).

They also were exposed to role-reversing experiences from their mothers during childhood. The participants said they faced difficulty with their relationships with others. This was demonstrated by Participant #6, “I rather just go with somebody just for one time instead of having a relationship”. They find hardships with interpersonal relationships, and difficulty forming healthy intimate relationships. Prolonged parental separation and feelings of neglect during childhood contribute to the patients' later fears of abandonment. They feel misunderstood, an outcast, different and disconnected from their

Growing up with divorced parents is something I would not wish on anyone. Having to live in fear is not something a child should ever have to do. Worrying if you are going to get berated for everything you do does not make for an easy childhood. Counting down the days you have in hell is not something I will ever have to do again.

Irrational to see the children who are being raised with only one parent since it has become more frequent. On this day, whether the children had one or two parents to show them the obstacle in their life but they can grown up with emotionally stable and successful. The main problem comes when there is an issue between children raised by single parents and both a mother and a

Have you ever done anything courageous before? Well,I haven't really done anything extremely courageous, but I have been courageous through certain things. Like when my parents first got divorced, I was scared to do a lot of things, but I could still keep myself together.Some things that could be hard for kids that have divorced parents is keeping everything together, having to accept whoever your parents’ get with next, and still maintaining other parts of your life while still trying to be in both of your parents lives.