Intelligence And Intelligence: An Introduction To Emotional Intelligence

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Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to monitor one's own and other people's emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behaviour. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of one’s daily life, such as the way one behaves and the way one interacts with others.
If one has high emotional intelligence one is able to recognize his/her own emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with people in a way that draws them to themselves. One can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life.
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Even so, can we change? Why do seemingly less intelligent people prosper in life, while the intelligent ones struggle? The answer is something called Emotional Intelligence (EI). Emotions were originally used to drive people in the face of danger. Emotions helped us react to external pressures and stimulus. IN the modern world, emotions often overrule conscious thought. The mind is of two parts: one that thinks and one that feels. The part that thinks is the seat of all rational thought by a person. But the emotional mind is impulsive and powerful. Usually, the two work in harmony, but intense feelings sometimes allow the emotional mind to dominate the rational mind. That being said, emotions must not be eradicated or suppressed. They must be…show more content…
Empathy involves the ability to: (a) understand a person’s situation, perspective, and feelings (and their attached meanings); (b) to communicate that understanding and check its accuracy; and (c) to act on that understanding with the person in a helpful (therapeutic) way, according to Mercer & Reynolds (2002). The more self-aware we are, the more skilled we become at reading the feelings of others. A good rapport with one’s peers and superiors comes from a high level of Empathy. Those who can read others’ feelings are better adjusted, more popular, outgoing and sensitive. Empathy begins in infancy, with attunement, when a parent can wordlessly mirror the child’s feelings. Attunement reassures an infant and makes it feel emotionally connected. This requires enough calm to be able to read subtle, non-verbal signals from the other person. People with high empathy are able to view any problem from the other person’s
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