Interdependence Book Report

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

Parenting plays a role in a person’s identity through the example that a parent sets and through the love, acceptance, and encouragement they give to a child. When a child is neglected in parenting they will grow up

Codependency is a passionate, mental, and behavioral condition to alcohol, drugs or some kinds of betting. Codependency describes behaviors, thoughts and feelings that go beyond normal kinds of self-sacrifice or caretaking. Codependence was first observed in the wives of alcoholic men. Co-addicted people might believe that, at some level, getting a partner or family member to become drug-free or alcohol-free might seem like the one goal which, if achieved, would bring them success in their life and happiness. But on another level, they might realize they are behaving in a way that enables the addict with whom they live to maintain their addictions.

Ever wondered why we act the way we do and how we become who we are? Well it all dates back to when we were just infants. As we grow older we constantly learn from what we see and feel. As babies, we connect with our caregivers in a way we sense what they sense that can shape us as we develop.

A child should have the ability to have secure and nurturing attachments that offer emotional warmth and security from a care giver. This will offer security and safety to the young person. As well as secure attachments, the young person will benefit from having positive relationships with wider family and friends, these relationships can have a huge impact on the young person’s self-esteem. The young person should live in an environment that is

When babies and young children feel valued, secure and trust the people around them, they are more likely to thrive and achieve their developmental goals. Certain areas of development are linked to the strength of attachment that children have with those around them, especially emotional and language development. We also know that children learn from those they have a strong bond with and so cognitive development can also be linked to strong relationships. This is of course equally true with their primary carer, for example their parents, as well as with their key person in their setting.

Golding and Orringer have proven through the stories of Lord of the Flies and “Pilgrims” that if a child must grow up without a parent in their life, this will cause them to mature much faster because they must take on the responsibilities of the parent. However, the child’s innocence can return if an adult figure returns in their lives. In the world today, the influence parents have in their children’s lives is overlooked everyday and only when their presence is gone is when their importance is realized, therefore, their significance must be acknowledged before it is too

Finally she is left no choice and decides she “would endure a hundred punishments to be free of [the brothel home]” (McCormick 260). She says “[she] will be with all the men... any man, every man” if it means she can pay off her debt to Mumtaz and leave (McCormick 227). Lakshmi does this in order to “send [her] wages home” so her family “will have money enough for rice and curds, milk and sugar” (McCormick 49). In this novel, I learn from Lakshmi that unthinkable things will be done in an effort to provide for loved ones.

The majority of developmental theories say that children must develop a secure primary attachment in order to develop in a healthy manner. A secure and strong attachment is clearly essential for healthy future relationships. John Bowlby’s studies in childhood development led him to the conclusion that a strong attachment to a caregiver provides a necessary sense of security and foundation. Without such a relationship in place, Bowlby found that a great deal of developmental energy is expended in the search for stability and security. In general, those without such attachments are fearful and are less willing to seek out and learn from new

Lakshmi’s stepfather used Ama for his own pleasure and did not consider valuing her for being the strong women she was. He orders the family to do things he wants while sacrificing their own well being for his own needs and wants. He takes all the crops, which is the food for the family and gambles it away. His relationships with others add to the reason why Lakshmi was sold into prostitution. He left the family’s money in shambles and needed a way out. He believed only way out was selling his daughter into slavery. From this, his depiction of the family was based on his belief that everyone was forced to adhere to

the child who become dependent and crying by the parent rejection only to keep proximity and

Myths that Lakshmi believes true allow her to be kept in Happiness House. For example, when she heard that Americans make you walk naked through the street, it made her think differently of them. So, when an American man told Lasmini that he could help her, she believed he was lying to her. In addition, her friends tell her that when the police comes in they have to run and hide. If not they will taken away. Not only is this untrue,but Americans are trying to help the girls but they don't think they can trust them.

Because of the love and affection they receive, they learn to rely on the caregiver (mother) and to trust her. As they grow they learn by watching and imitating her, as well as by getting instructions and guidance from her. When they manage to do something, their learning is reinforced by her praise and approval. This is a normal scenario. This is the ideal environment for a child to develop his potential to the maximum. Moreover, studies have shown that infants who are abandoned and separated from their mothers become unhappy and depressed, sometimes to the point of panic. After long periods of separation and isolation, they show symptoms of apathy and withdrawal or restlessness, hyperactivity, inability to concentrate, and craving for affection.”

When a child is securely attached, they show signs of courage to explore new experiences while their attached person is around, they go to their attached person when they are injured, they easily agree to what is asked of them, and they do not try to take control over their attached person (Appleyard and Berlin). A caregiver’s

When someone says the word family, what comes to your mind? Personally, I would imagine running in a lake where lived varies of birds, fish and algae. In fact, I grow up in such a traditional Chinese family as an interdependent aquatic ecosystem. But in a dilemma, some independent thoughts I learn elsewhere also attract and affect me. Usually, independent minds urge me act at my own will; on the contrary, interdependent minds remind me to pay attention on others. Hence, I may feel tired when facing traditional family affairs, just as running in the water. The water seems soft but actually constrains me. In my opinion, how to tactfully exist in an interdependent context is really a kind of art for a double-faced person like me.