Interdependency

As a child, you become dependent on your parents. Dependence starts at birth, a newborn must be fed every few hours. The excessive diaper changes and constant burping, one must depend on their parents to take care of them. Oneself does not choose their caregiver nor if one wants to be dependent upon them but, it’s a need. Throughout this dependence one creates a special place in their heart for their caregiver. This special place leads to defense in their honor and creates feelings for one as a survival strategy.

We arrived at room 822 at 9:10 am. They were doing dependency cases all morning. At the professional table we had ChildNet, Drug dependency, Guardian Ad Litem, Guardian Ad Litem Lawyer and on the side we had Linda the foster parent. To me, this also went really fast with the new terminologies that they were using. They were going through the case plans and giving the Judge a summary on the parents’ progress. They used the term UA’s negative and positives which meant urine analysis. They used that to determine if they had been using any illegal substances. For this particular case I learned that social workers are very overwhelmed. The client was telling the Judge how her therapist from Susan B. Anthony quit without notice and she had to start her treatment again with another therapist. I also learned that both the mom and dad of the child are going to Alcoholic Anonymous (AA) as part of the treatment. The lawyers requested them to get unsupervised visitations 3 times a week for up to 4 hours. The Judge confirmed approval with the foster parent first, and she seemed willing. At that point I sympathized with the parents only being able to see their child 3 times a week. But at the same time they did it to themselves.

Soon, I discovered a method to avoid the potential of feeling insubstantial, if only for a few more hours or days. Thus, allow me to introduce you to an old friend, procrastination. My way of thinking soon became, “If I’m not going to get an A, then why even put the effort in?” and consequently, innumerable assignments were put off until five in the morning where it would be due in two hours or it would never reach my teacher’s hands at all. I’m sure most teachers believed the cause to be laziness or a lack of ambition, however I strongly believe that if they’d known the constant stress, self-doubt, and exhaustion that I

Procrastination is a common tendency that we all give in to and all of us have at least a little experience with.

Through my high school career I have struggled in a lot of areas. This is evident in my transcripts. When I would struggle I would lose interest and eventually stop trying. This is my fault and I take full responsibility for my actions and have taken the steps to repair my mistakes. I have retaken both the classes I failed in and am currently trying to make better study and concentration tactics a new habit. I now seek help when I am struggling from my teachers and peers in order to achieve better grades.

My GPA is not a 3.0 or greater, much of the reason for that is because I was battling depression that started during my senior year in high school. My first few years in college it was very hard for me to focus on school because I did not even want to wake up in the morning. I was very unhappy with my life and eventually went to see the school psychiatrist. I was even admitted to a hospital for suicidal tendencies. My overnight stay there, seeing others battling depression, was enough for me to realize I was wrong for my suicidal thoughts. Even so I was not in the right mind set to be in school and my grades were suffering because of it. I decided to drop out and take time off.

First off procrastination has really played a huge part of why my grades have not been what they could of. I know that if I had truly done things right when I got them and not put it off till the last possible second,

Even though I may be a procrastinator, procrastinating is an effective tool. During school you get assigned a lot of assignments, some may be over fall break or even Christmas break. The best thing to do is to do your assignments as soon as you can and then the rest of your break is free time. When I get assigned something, I always tell myself, I am going to get it done before I do anything else, if not I will forget and have to do all my work on a Sunday before we go back to school. Not only can you be a procrastinator in school, but also when you have dentist and doctor appointments. “You even procrastinate when it comes to dieting, saving money, and sending important emails.

Make a plan for working on each assignment and avoid procrastination. Procrastination is one of the biggest challenges for any student. It is easy to put off an assignment until the last minute only to turn in work that is not to the best of your ability because you were rushed.

In the past, i've been very bad at procrastinating. I hope not to do that as much. It seems that it's easier to have a set goal, and schedule when working on something. When waiting last minute, it causes chaos and doesn't get the job done to its fullest. If I learn to not procrastinate, maybe my grades will increase.

Procrastination is defined by Merriam Webster Dictionary as putting off intentionally or habitually the doing of something that should be done. Procrastination is known as the most common source of motivational failures among most to all of the population. Academic procrastination is defined as a student who, lacking poor time management skills and feeling stress, chooses to put off work or studying that needs done, and the purposive delay of academic tasks that must be completed. Procrastination, or the intentional delay of due tasks, is a widespread phenomenon in college settings. Because procrastination can negatively impact learning, achievement, academic self-efficacy, and quality of life, research by Bin-Bin Chen’ and Wen Hen from the

I will be writing Assignment one for professor Burrows, who is teaching Chemical Engineering Lab One. This assignment is required in order to be successful not only in the class, but also for future publications I might want to pursue. I plan on completing the all tasks required at least a couple days before the deadline in order to avoid any difficulties, as well as revisions. I personally, have a tendency to procrastinate on most assignments, because I have always been able to meet deadlines. The reason I am taking such a proactive approach in this class is because I have been warned by many former students to avoid procrastinating at all cost if I desire to do well. While this terrible weakness will play a large role throughout the semester, I also have plenty of strengths, which I will utilize. One such strength is my determination. If I learned anything from my time in the military, it was to be mentally tough until the mission was complete. I find that simply having this mentality is priceless in many different situations as an engineering student.

When someone says the word family, what comes to your mind? Personally, I would imagine running in a lake where lived varies of birds, fish and algae. In fact, I grow up in such a traditional Chinese family as an interdependent aquatic ecosystem. But in a dilemma, some independent thoughts I learn elsewhere also attract and affect me. Usually, independent minds urge me act at my own will; on the contrary, interdependent minds remind me to pay attention on others. Hence, I may feel tired when facing traditional family affairs, just as running in the water. The water seems soft but actually constrains me. In my opinion, how to tactfully exist in an interdependent context is really a kind of art for a double-faced person like me.

At the end of my first year of college, I received my first C. Frustrated and close to giving up, I tried to figure out what had gone wrong, but I couldn’t. I had invested hours in the library creating flashcards, reading long chapters, highlighting vocabulary words and still I had failed. It wasn’t after taking this course that I realized I was a failure avoider student whose goals were focused on performance. A failure avoider student is one whose desire to avoid failure outweighs the anticipation of success. Performance goals are goals that focus on outperforming others. Being so focused on the idea of not failing caused me to be anxious and focus on rote learning strategies instead of complex learning strategies. By not engaging in any critical thinking or problem solving caused me to not learn the material and receive my first C.

Regarding all the knowledge I’ve learned about writing a superior paper, I also improved my habits when it comes to procrastination and deadlines. When taking a college level class, I was overwhelmed by the amount of work that is needed to get an acceptable grade but I was determined to push through. In the past, I would very rarely start my essay when assaigend, I would