Interracial Marriages In Gogol's Relationship In The Namesake

For starters, Ashoke and Gogol were different because they didn’t really have the same culture even though both of them are Indian. Ashoke was born and raised in India, unlike Gogol who was born and raised in America. Ashoke felt as if he was living in a foreign land because even though he had lived in America for many years, it was not a part of his culture. When they move back to Calcutta for eight months Ashoke felt alive and he felt like he could enjoy life because he wasn’t being judged by others. On the other hand, Gogol was born and raised in America and he had adopted the American culture. Gogol hated leaving The United States to move to Calcutta for eight months. In addition, he felt like an outsider because even though he was Indian he had never been around that culture so he didn’t really see the Indian culture as being a part of him. Gogol was more American than he was Indian, because he had been raised in America rather than India.

They have never been on a date in their lives and therefore they see no reason to encourage Gogol, certainly not at his age." Both of Gogol's parents grew up learning the Bengali culture. They know that living in another country may change some of their traditions, but they still want to withhold the culture as much as possible. Nevertheless, Gogol doesn't so much care for his Bengali culture because it is now affecting his life. Gogol's relationships have been affected by his cultural collision, "His relationship with her is one accomplishment in his life about which they are not in the least bit proud or pleased... He wishes his parents could simply accept her as her family accepts him, without pressure of any kind." Both Gogol and his parents have been brought up differently about things. Because they don't see eye to eye their relationship isn't like it used to be. Now that Gogol is growing up, his diverse traditions are affecting his life with his girlfriend and his family. All of Gogol's life is not being afflicted because Gogol has stopped continuing the Bengali culture. It is just grasping the American culture more than he did in the past.

Gogol is an Indian-American who striving to accept himself as one along with struggling against his desires in life. His conflicts are first brought upon himself when he struggles between his Bengali heritage and his own desire for an independent, American lifestyle. Gogol makes constant effort to assimilate into American society, but also does feel guilty betraying his roots. For example, while dining with the Ratliffs, his girlfriend’s very rich American family, Gogol becomes “conscious of the fact that his immersion in Maxine’s family is a betrayal of his own” (Lahiri 141). Despite spending his time engaging in activities that assimilate further

Gogol grapples with his name throughout the majority of the novel, yet this tension was in the makings even before his birth. Ashoke and Ashima being immigrants set Gogol up to live in two different cultures, American and Bengali. Many children of immigrants may feel like Gogol, having one foot in each world. Gogol framed his struggle with cultural identity through something tangible, his name. In Jhumpa Lahiri’s novel, The Namesake, Gogol’s struggle with cultural identity is exposed most greatly by the name others call him and his reaction to it.

Therefore, the characterization of Gogol listening to Maxine over Ashima characterizes Gogol as wanting to distance himself from his culture and family in order to try and embrace a new period of independence and Western culture- this is symbolized by Maxine. Furthermore, the fact that Gogol will move into Maxine’s house reinforces the idea that Gogol wants to create distance away from his family because he will completely immerse himself in a family that is not his own. Overall, Lahiri uses situational irony created by characterization of symbolism to illustrate that humans will try and distance themselves from their family in order to try and establish independence- this is shown through Gogol only listening to Maxine. Later on in the novel, Moushumi displays a similar characterization of Gogol in a different way. While Moushumi was still married to Gogol, she started an affair with her the boy to whom she lost her virginity- Dimitri. However, after these dates, she would go back home to Gogol as if nothing happened- hence dramatic irony. The narrator explains this routine, “They begin seeing each other...The meals are ambitious: poached fish; creamy potato gratins; puffed chickens roasted with whole lemons in their cavities. There is always a bottle of wine… drink coffee and cognac and smoke”(263) The narrator then goes into more details about their dates until it is revealed that

Yet Moushumi is the only one who is involved with his family and can fully understand Gogol. He looks for ways to escape the pieces in his life that he dislikes which makes him seem eccentric to the rest of the society he lives in. While Moushumis relationship is imperative with Gogol, Maxine gives him closure, the ability to experience the life he may actually have wanted to grow up in America, while it lasts, ”Quickly, he falls in love with Maxine, the house, and Gerald and Lydia's manner of living, for to know her and love her is to know and love all these things. He loves the mess that surrounds her Maxine, her hundreds of things always covering her floor and her bedside table, her habit when they are alone on the fifth floor, of not shutting the door when she goes to the bathroom. Her unkempt ways, a challenge to his increasingly minimalist taste, charm him”(137). The author utilizes an ample amount of detail in this passage to describe what he loves about his relationship and what lured him to Maxine even more; however, I feel Gogol admires this part about his relationship with Maxine because her lifestyle is not as strict as his or Moushumi’s. This girl had a great amount of freedom and he embraced what he didn’t and couldn’t like he does with her and her family have in his

As Gogol grows, he begins to hate his name as Gogol, and requests to change his name to Nikhil. ""What is the reason you want to change your name, Mr. Ganguli?" the judge asks. … "I hate the name Gogol," he says. "I always hated it."" (p.101-102) as Gogol brings up this topic to discuss during dinner befor he changes his name in the summer, Gogol claims that because he is an Indian with a Russian name in America, nobody is taking him seriously, thrust requesting to change his name into Nikhil, even if it makes a huge hassle to change his legal documents. With out the question of his rare name and confusion of the choice, Gogol accepts himself more easier and believes that he has become more Americanized. Gogol sees himself more Americanized as people do while he attends parties and other group activities in his social circle.

He is bewildered as to why his father named him Gogol as it not Bengali nor a normal American name which leads him to struggle to understand himself and his identity. In Bengali families, "individual names are sacred, inviolable. They are not meant to be inherited or shared" (28). However, Gogol grows up living in America, where children are often ashamed of their differences from others. As a teenager, Gogol desires to blend in and to live unnoticed. This presents a struggle between two cultures. Ashima and Ashoke want to raise Gogol and his younger sister with Bengali culture and values. On the other hand Gogol grew wanting to belong by relating mostly to peers and the surrounding culture in America. It is only much later in their lives that they begin to truly value their Bengali heritage and that Gogol finds the importance in his name. During high school Gogol struggles to accept his name as he sees it has no real significance not him. When Gogol heads for college he rejects his identity completely and legally changes his name to Nikhil which allows him to somewhat feel a sense of belonging as this name relates to his Bengali roots, even though he had been ashamed of those exact roots in schooling. Gogol dreads having to go visit home and return to a life where he is "Gogol". To him, Gogol is not only his name; it bears all his discomfort and struggles to fit into two different cultures as he grew up. His life at college makes it easy for Gogol to live as

In light of Gogol’s parent’s cultural roots and norms it is difficult foreign born Americans to assimilate into a new society. Gogol’s sudden change in “normal” can be traumatic discouraging for him to conform into what is “normal” in America. “The New World offers professional opportunity and financial betterment but also insists on assimilation and acculturation, a rejection of old habits, traditions and conditioning, and a merging with the culture of the new context […] invited to experience the death of the self as he has known it. He is asked to despise home culture which is seen by the New World as inferior, as less

Born in 1968 to Ashoke, an engineering student, and Ashima, a young bride new to America and its cultural differences compared to hers. Gogol has an internal conflict with his identity, his name, his culture, and his life as he struggles to understand what he wants. Gogol crosses into an identity crisis; he reinvents himself by legally changing his name to Nikhil, and becomes a new person once he goes out to a party. Though, this is where the events begin, and fate takes its toll on Nikhil. This change begins to affect him positively, as he gains a great deal of confidence and suddenly finds himself well with women.

Maxine was very confused when she first saw Gogol, or as she knows him, Nick. There was a transition that was performed on Gogol after the death of his father which made him more connected and bonded back to his origins of life. Maxine was not able to comprehend the changes he went through and could not handle the social normalities of his own culture, compared to her own. In America, there are numerous television shows about dating and matchmaking, no one really questions these types of television shows. However, if someone of Indian origins were to see these television shows, they would be appalled by it and question the logistics of the operation.

He first clings to enchanting white women, hoping to adopt their identities so he can escape the perplexity of his own, but the cultural clashes pervade both relationships. While dating Maxine, a wealthy New Yorker, Gogol notes, “She has the gift of accepting her life…he realizes that she never wished she were anyone other than her herself…This, in his opinion, is the biggest difference between them,” highlighting his personal struggle with accepting his heritage (138). Gogol’s glamorous romance with Maxine is juxtaposed to the humiliation he feels for his family to stress his longing to cast-off his Bengali identity. Judith Ceaser observes, “[Gogol and Maxine’s relationship] is a lovely, expensive, comfortable identity, given to him as a love-token…to him it seems a rejection of [his parents] …He hasn’t yet realized that instead of being an identity imposed on him from outside, they are a part of the pattern of key relationships in his life through which he can define himself,” provoking the idea that Gogol’s stubborn naïveté is the source of his unhappiness (Ceasar). When Maxine’s unwillingness to adapt to Bengali culture drives them apart, Gogol searches for a more ordinary love. Moushimi, the daughter of Bengali family friends, should be mundane and comfortable to Gogol, yet their relationship is plagued by complexities. Both view each other as

Accordingly, the difference in settings contrasts the mindset of Ashoke and Gogol, at times creating differences in opinions and actions. Moreover, Ashoke feels a heavy burden on his shoulders because his children do not get to grow up in an environment surrounded by family like he did. Contrary to Ashoke’s childhood, Gogol shares most of his memories with his immediate family and other Indian-American families. This difference between the Indian and American culture is made even more apparent when Ashoke’s coworker shares her life and few visits to see her grandchildren, “a life Ashoke’s mother would find humiliating” (Lahiri 48).

Gogol Ganguli, in The Namesake, is the son of two Bengali parents. Throughout the novel, Gogol shows several acts of betrayal mainly to his family and their values. One such act is when Gogol changes his name out of irritation. He is constantly questioned its meaning and finding it out that it is not a Bengali name. He expresses his feelings to his parents, but they do not understand because they still have the Indian tradition/Culture in them and so he changes his name. Another act of betrayal is when Gogol lies to his mother about visiting their home when dating a woman. He does not prefer the Bengali way of life and makes excuses, he loves the life of the American way. These acts of betrayal affect Gogol and force him to make decisions that he eventually regrets, but it does play a vital role in the development of his life in the novel as a whole.

After Gogol leaves home, he meets Maxine who is American in every sense of the word. She is in the upper social class, and Gogol is attracted to her family because they are American. They call Gogol, Nick short for Nikhil. He distances himself from his parents by not returning phones calls, and upsets Ashima when he would rather visit Maxine’s parents than his own. Gogol does decide to stop at his parents on the way to visit Maxine’s, out of possible guilt for not keeping in touch. Gogol introduces Maxine, and she calls Ashima by her first name. It’s apparent that is not the respectful introduction Ashima would have preferred. Again, a clash in cultures, and what’s considered appropriate. Gogol and Maxine leave, and Maxine states she would’ve never guessed those were his parents. Gogol celebrates his birthday with Maxine’s family and his mother cannot get in