Is Love a Key Element When Choosing a Marriage Partner?

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A famous quote by John Lennon saying that "love is the answer and only you know that for sure" was not entirely truthful the fact not realised was that, for the many people in today 's contemporary "dating" grouping, truly knowing what the answer actually is in regards to dating is often easier said than done. Therefore, the answer certainly is not love. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary (1974), love is defined as a "strong affection, a warm attachment, attraction based on sexual desire, cherish, to feel passion, devotion or tenderness for ~, caress and to take pleasure in ~ " (p.417). In the modern-day world where the preferences and choices of human mate selection has become a topic of broad exploration, it is highly…show more content…
Being set up by a family member or friends with someone whom they think would be a good match for has become nothing out of the ordinary. You are set up on blind dates by family and friends, there are dating services available universally anywhere you go from newspaper ads to telephone personals and the Internet. Males are continuously seeking females and females are continuously seeking males. The dating game never ends and the thought of accidentally bumping into a complete stranger while running about you everyday life tasks and falling instantly in love has become unfashionable, out of date and just plain boring. People are devoting more time to the actual encountering and according to Doosje et al. (1999), "with regard to the importance of physical attractiveness in the preferred partner, the results of our study show that men value physical attractiveness more than women do" (p.57) and therefore less time is being devoted to the actual dating or courtship of the potential marriage partner. It is beyond doubt that not enough time is devoted into deciding just what it is an individual is actually looking for in a their marriage partner. In contemporary societies, modern mate selection processes do not seem to be working favourably. There are so many different ways to meet people and Nock (1995) believes that it is "the marriage
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