Johari Window Research Paper

Competence in interpersonal communication can be assessed both through general interpersonal interactions and non-verbal communication. Both general competence and non-verbal competence are very important to the way that we communicate and have great influence on the message that we relay to those with whom we communicate. After watching the conversation recorded between Matt and I, I have realized that although there are some areas in which I am a competent communicator, there are areas where I could benefit to improve.

Chapter eleven presented several skills that can be used to start, build, and maintain interpersonal relationships with people from our daily, professional, and personal lives. I thought that all of the listed skills could be very useful and helpful in an interpersonal relationships but felt that there were a few that aren't really necessary when communicating. In my opinion, social decentering, providing support, and listening actively in order to respond effectively strike me as the most important relationship strategies. I believe that the most valuable skill to have is social decentering because it gives you a better understanding of how others will feel and think. This skill is needed to appropriately adjust you're behavior so that you can effectively communicate with others based on you're knowledge of that specific person. This will allow you to predict that person's behavior and reaction to certain situations.

Furthermore, when I communicate, I feel as if I don’t consider “face” as much as other people. I have always emphasized facts and the truth, even at the cost of losing face. As a result, I am more straightforward in my choice of words. For example, If I feel someone is not contributing to some sort of group project, I will tell that person that they are not doing their part for the team. Of course, through my experiences, I have come to realize the importance of how a message is conveyed – it doesn’t matter how true and important a

Interpersonal Communication Competence is defined as constantly communicating in a way that is effective, appropriate, and ethical (McCornack, 2016). When a person is communicating competently, they are following social norms, are able to accomplish their goals, and treating persons in an unbiased manner. In my paper I will be discussing my own interpersonal communication competence and the evaluations that I, and my close companions, have made about my ability to communicate proficiently. I will begin my essay by explaining what effective and appropriate communication consists of, and follow up with my argument on how effective and appropriate I am in my interpersonal relationships. As I continue I will examine my empathy and why I am strong in this aspect of communication, followed by my deliberation of my conversation management and why I am weak in this category and how I could possibly improve. As I near the conclusion of my paper I will focus on my interpersonal communication motivation, knowledge, and skills. After reporting my scores in each category I will reflect on my skills, my lowest score, and explore why I am poorest at this quality and how I can grow in my capabilities. Overall I am a competent communicator, but enhancements can be made in my conversation management, effectiveness and skills in order to build up my competence.

Have you ever spied on your neighbors? Of course you have! Everyone is guilty of this at one point or another in their lives. This is the case in Alfred Hitchcock’s 1954 film, Rear Window. The main character, L.B. Jeffries, had broken his leg and has become immobile and has nothing to do but watch his neighbors. Everything is normal until he suspects his neighbor, Mr. Lars Thorwald, has murdered his wife, Mrs. Anna Thorwald. Jeffries is the real hero in the film because he is the person who first notices Thorwald acting strangely, he convinces everyone Thorwald is a murderer, and he never gives up the thought of Thorwald being a murderer.

From an early age, one learns how to communicate with others by engaging in his or her own personal development. These interpersonal styles become valuable to an individual. For instance, one learns from his or her parents how to exercise manners. Over the years, I have acquired interpersonal skills from my family, education, and employment that has proven to be quite beneficial. However, as a human, being perfect is quite difficult. Despite, the strengths that one may possess, weaknesses are also present.

Interpersonal Skills: Carol has established a good rapport with others. She accepts constructive feedback in a professional manner.

By paying attention to body language, facial expressions and speech tones and being aware of our own feelings we are able to examine our own communication and behaviours and reflect on how we can improve ourselves. This will give us confidence and to be assertive in creating important and meaningful interactions and paying attention to our own behaviour (Raphael-Grimm 2014).

Non-verbals play an important role in rapport building too. Duchan (2011) found that affect attunement between therapist and client was critical to rapport building. Similarly, Duggan & Parrott (2006) revealed that physicians’ use of facial reinforcers, like nodding, was positively related with patient’s disclosures. In the video, other nonverbal aspects of rapport building like smiling, eye contact and mirroring are also observed. Non-verbals create a welcoming atmosphere for conversation and are crucial in monitoring the quality of communication. Incongruent verbal and nonverbal messages should be addressed by the physician (Barnett, 2001) and it becomes especially important to rapport building when communicating with young children (Fourie, et al., 2011) who may not articulate their ideas clearly; people from other cultures who might face a language barrier and the elderly who might be easily confused and forgetful.

Chris’ first top strength is “woo.” My first reaction was “is that even a word?” The dictionary definition of woo is to seek the favor, affection, win, and persuade. Woo also stands for winning others over, this can apply to a new friend or a teacher. However, Chris said he does not necessarily try to “win” others over, unless there is a certain group that he is particularly drawn to. Once he has made a friend, to the point they are considered “an old friend”, the book states that people with this strength usually wrap up and old friendship and move on. This is not true

In the Nonverbal immediacy scale self-assessment, the score I receive put me in the approachable and likable group, which I concur. It reminds me how I could be with a group of friends and stranger will engage in conversion with me or just to say hello. My friend would say most of time “Did you know that person or you are so darn approachable.” Even when speaking with my patients I making sure I have their complete attention by making eye-contact and using vocal expressiveness. As Hackman and Johnson (2013) suggested “An expressive voice conveys emotion and interest with being harsh” (p.285). Therefore, on the flip side I have received nonverbal immediacy with other individuals who have communicated to me through continuing education classes

While reading and researching about interpersonal skills I came to conclusion that I possess a lot of those skills although in different level of expertise. My skill set contain of high ability in coaching, problem solving, questioning, tact, supervising people, counseling, interviewing.

By working on some of the attributes that were negative, I believe I will begin to see a change in not only myself, but the way that I interact with people. One of the main attributes that I could see affecting other people is being withdrawn. Changing the way, I present myself to people could have a major impact on how the people I am interacting with perceive what I am saying. By taking an active interest and being more outgoing, it could make colleagues and patients alike feel more comfortable with the conversation that we are having. One of my goals that I am setting for myself is to not only work on some of the negative attributes that other people said related to me, but also the negative ones that I picked for myself. There are two in particular that are related, one from the blind section, and one from the hidden section. These two attributes were introverted, and distant. I think of all the attributes that were stated these two are the most worth working on because they will help my carrier as a pharmacist the

There are two broad categories that relationship skills can be divided into: the Being and the Doing (Mehr & Kanwischer, 2011) The Being skills are Warmth, Empathy and Genuineness. Empathy is one of my top 5 personal strengths according to StrengthsQuest and personally I hope that others find me warm and genuine (Clifton, Anderson, & Schreiner, 2006). I feel warmth towards others, with nonjudgmental acceptance and feelings of caring and concern for others. The empathic feeling is a strong personality characteristic resulting in trying to understand the points of view and feelings of each that crosses my path. Starting out strong with the identification step, paying attention, getting all the details then usually moving into the incorporation phase, feeling as if I am experiencing the same results as the person who is sharing their story. The process of reverberation and detachment are not nearly as easy to accomplish. When this point is reached and I should be stepping back detaching from the situation, allowing for a more logical response, I instead still find myself absorbed and internalizing the experience.

As a communicator, I acknowledge that I have strengths and weaknesses. I was raised in a small country town and had an ethnocentric view on other cultures. After learning from lectures, I have become aware of this barrier and realised I needed to learn to understand other cultures. Now, I reflect on my behaviours and interactions. I acknowledge biases and plan to improve on difficult situations. I request feedback from my friends, family on my communication. This is now a strength, and has influenced my above average Meta-Cognition score of 5.5.