John And Louise 's First Marriage

Even though he knew it was wrong it was up to him to admit that he had done it to stay honest to himself, keep his name clean, and live free from guilt. The act of confession by John also demonstrates his act of self preservation. If John had not confessed he would not have been physically hurt, but moreover mentally impacted. His act of self preservation was through relieving himself of the guilt he would have had to endure if he had not told his wife, Elizabeth, of his actions. Elizabeth demonstrates her act of self-preservation by tiptoeing around Johns feelings. “Quietly, fearing to anger him by prodding” (51) Due to Elizabeth’s social status, she is unable to speak out and say what she may truly feel. In a ways, Elizabeth said many of the things she said in a mild tone in fear of causing John to lose his temper.

They religion is so strict to the point of even controlling who the children date and have relationships with one example is Jenny when she was at the store waiting for her boyfriend to come and talk to him about the gun she found in Gary room, but when the father came to lock up the store he was angered he was forcing Jenny boyfriend out of the storing yelling at him “Stay away form my daughter you disgusting boy!” or something along those lines. There’s also the situation with jimmy due to there religion they want to make sure jimmy does good on grades and give the eldest the most attention and him being at college away from home whenever a issue comes up the parents go and rely on jimmy for support in talking to the younger children when really he wasn’t at college he went with his girlfriend and spent thanksgiving with them. Religion just comes to show that in can affect your environment in many ways, it can vary so much as to what you eat and what you do on a daily bases and it shows in this moving the religion can make situation like this

There was no clear understanding of each other. Each acted on their own perception and did not talk out to each other. John worked all day and Ann was feeling lonely in the marriage. She either did not talk to her husband. She goes on an adventure by sleeping with his neighbor on john family bed where he finds them.

Janie’s love life was not always the (Perfect Love Story) in all three of her marriages something was always missing. Zora Neale Hurston,Their Eyes Were Watching God Janie,Tea Cake,Killicks,Jody Starks In this novel Janie marries 3 different men and she faced many difficulties in each of her marriages she married Logan Killicks first then Janie’s first love Jody starks and her second love Tea Cake.In Zora Neale Hurston’s novel, Their Eyes Were Watching God Hurston uses symbolism to illustrate difficulties through Janie’s marriages.

Her husband labels her as crazy and restricts her to a single room and forbids her to do most activities. Her husband demeans and belittles his wife’s condition by dismissing the severity of her depression. The Narrator has no say or control in her relationship. She has no control over the activities she’s allowed to do while in her room so she takes control of the only thing she can, her mind. She soon begins to imagine images within her room and within her wallpaper. The Narrator says, “Life is very much more exciting now than it used to be” because every day she now looks forward to helping the women behind the wallpaper escape. Now that Louise has complete control over her mind, she is beginning to taste freedom, even if she is destroying herself. Because John thinks he’s superior to his wife, he misjudges her condition and ends up making her condition worse by repressing her even

A family of four came into counseling. Frank, 43, who works so much. Emily, 39, who is a mom that works from home part-time. Two daughters, Sarah (10 years old) and Whitney (6 years old). One night, Frank came home from work, and Emily called a family meeting. Sarah has decided that she would like to have a little brother because a friend of Sarah’s is going to have a little brother. Sarah spoke with Emily about how much she would love a little brother. After thinking about it, Emily decided to speak with her husband about having another baby. Frank did not seem like he wanted another baby at his age, and was thinking about doing a little traveling now that the kids are getting a little older. Frank has been leaving town a lot more, causing

John could have obtained council from someone less personally involved in her case, but the only help he sought was for the condition of the house and the baby. He obtained a nanny to watch over the children while he was away at work each day: "It is fortunate Mary is so good with the baby." He also had his sister Jennie take care of the house. "She is a perfect and enthusiastic housekeeper." There is one instance, however, when he does talk of taking her to an expert for assistance, "John says if I don 't pick up faster he shall send me to Weir Mitchell in the fall." Nevertheless she took that as a threat since Dr. Mitchell was even more domineering than her husband and his brother. Perhaps, if she had been allowed to come and go and do as she pleased her depression might have lifted, "I think sometimes that if I were only well enough to write a little it would relieve the press of ideas and rest me." It seems to her that just being able to tell someone how she really feels would have eased her depression, but her husband would not hear of it because of the embarrassing consequences it could bring to the family name. Thus, John has made her a prisoner in their marriage where her opinions are pushed aside, and her self-worthiness questioned.

When in the course of human events, it is a great travesty and woe when a time comes for a child to dissolve the family ties to his or her parents, the ones that have supported them in this world. However, it becomes a necessary action when parents begin to over-manipulate their children, or become controlling in a way which suffocates. It would be a disrespectful act to assume such things without facts and evidences demonstrative of the necessity of these children’s action of separating from the control their parents hold.

Soon enough Lucy wants more from John of being in there own house and living better. As John is away Lucy gets sick and eventually dies. John seems to think he need to find someone else to be with. He do not take any time of feeling sad about Lucy death. Even though the whole town is mad at him for being too quick about finding another wife he still does it. Show that John cannot be alone, he needs someone there with him as a guide. His new wife Hattie is just someone one he brought into his life, even though he knows she could never take Lucy place. John does whatever he wants, no matter what Hattie wants him to do or does not want him to do. John still has not matured because a responsible man and matured man do what they're supposed to do the right way. John seem to always want to be an a relationship but not really with someone he truly love. Hattie says “ Well if you do not want me you made lak yuh did.”(143). Showing he give signs that he need someone to be around him. Eventually John no longer want Hattie anymore and also hits her. He tries to be on his own for awhile to get his mind straight after all the drama and court dates with Hattie. John after a while goes right back to

Survival may be one of the natural instincts in human beings, but it can and sometimes will be overcome by other powerful emotions. John's initial struggle for survival is suppressed by his overwhelming love for his wife. He becomes involved when his wife's name is mentioned in court, and her life becomes endangered. John does a complete turn around on his perspective of the situation. He goes from being completely isolated, to attempting to take control of the situation. However, his initial failure to do the right thing from the start caused this plan to fail.

Finally, both authors also use a serious tone to portray the subject of family separation. In “A ‘Band-Aid’ For 800 Children”, Sandigo says that while every child is a blessing,

In the United States, child abuse is reported every ten seconds.All together,     that’s almost four million maltreatment referrals received per year. Abuse does not only have to be physical; it could be sexual, financial, emotional, or psychological. In this book, Kambilli, Jaja, and their mother experienced abuse at the hands of their own father. Eugene (father of Kambilli and Jaja)  was a very religious, very  well respected man. He gave back to his community,he is known as Omolara which means man who does for the community.He is a saint who takes his religion as a catholic very serious. Eugene raised his children to never sin or disobey the lord or they would receive a cruel punishment. The children were kept on a tight leash. They follow

seems that John is very controlling and doesn't pay true attention to his wife. The illnesses of both the

would just be different than you are(p.31). Both accused each other as a cause of their marriage problems. Both didn't know how to handle the circumstances going through in the relationship. Both didn't know how to communicate their concerns to each other and listen to each other, so they both couldn't calm down, think and express clearly. If one

She also believes that there is more than one way to solve a problem, and it doesn’t matter whose way is used, as long as the problem is solved. I take this piece of advice to heart, as I’ve been told that I am impatient and a bit of a control freak. John states that he tries his best to work out his own dilemmas because he knows that Cindy has a stressful full-time job, and she’s also a full-time mom to McKenna. Between her schedule and McKenna’s extra-curricular activities, John doesn’t like to add anything extra on her plate if he doesn’t need to. That, he says, is the reason he takes such a large role in McKenna’s activities. It brings a sense of peace to the home when he knows his wife and son’s needs are met.