John Gerstein's Article On Intimacy

People’s relationships with one another and their beneficial element is the base of a society. In the essays, “Take the Data Out of Dating” by Alexis Madrigal and “Head Hunting in Cyberspace” by Lisa Nakamura discuss how the digital revolution is changing people’s relationship with one another by changing the way we live overall. Technology is changing people’s relationships with each other through its transition from a useful tool to becoming a way of life, allowing individuals to create a nonexistent virtual identity, and by creating an excuse to eliminate social interactions as a whole. The relationship between the digital revolution and people’s relationships are demonstrated through…………………………………………….

Social media is described as “the collective of online communications channels dedicated to community-based input, interaction, content-sharing and collaboration”(Margaret Rouse), With social media apps like facebook, twitter, and snapchat, there is many ways to communicate with loved ones. Family members can see your posts and vice versa, we can share pictures and videos and also send them birthday wishes or for holiday greetings. Expression of yourself in social media is a common way people interact with your from all over the world. You Make new friends in the process by simply expressing yourself also get to find people with similar interest. these friendships made online can be the the same as being a “real” friend because you create a long-term friend who is just as trusting, and meaningful.Creations of dating websites like tinder, creates to have a long distance relationship be more effective way of communication as well. With the continous growth of technology the way we communicate with each other will change as well, since social media is a fairly new concept, because in previous decades it was never introduced. various social media platforms have made it so that man people from various different cultures and ways of

Technology has reshaped society and relationships over the course of the last few decades and, according to Sherry Turkle, it’s only the beginning of “a perfect storm” (Turkle 17). She views the cyber age as a harmful impact to society and the growth of it because of our increasing dependency on it for intimacy—that we no longer establish it with physical and emotional factors. I qualify with her claim because although we are starting to rely on electronics for our social needs, rather than harming connections, it’s strengthening them.

How does 'sexuality' come into being, and what connections does it have with the changes that have affected personal life on a more general plane? In answering these questions, Anthony Giddens disputes many of the interpretations of the role of sexuality in our culture. The emergence of what he calls plastic sexuality, which is sexuality freed from its original relation of reproduction, is analyzed in terms of the long-term development of the modern social order and social influences of the last few decades. Giddens argues that the transformation of intimacy, in which women have played the major part, holds out the possibility of a society that is very traditional. "This book

With the digital revolution, people’s relationships are changing. Today, people are no longer required to leave their house to form a new relationship with someone else. “Texting and Writing” by Michaela Cullington describes the impact that text messaging has on the communication skills of people today. Alexis Madrigal in his article “Take the Data Out of Dating” portrays the methods of online date matching. With modern technology and the use of online matching, relationships no longer require face-to-face communication, lack personal emotions, and create a convenient relationship environment.

The first article I chose to evaluate is Retreat from Intimacy, written by Levine and Jeanette Cureton. This article discusses numerous examples of fears and hurts that students have experienced, that may divide and isolation them (Mayberry, 2009, p. 237). There are many examples presented in this article I will primarily focus on the fear of falling victim to random acts of violence. Each example is used to support the claim backed by citing, in efforts to sway the reader to agree. The writer’s augment is that students are coming to college overwhelmed and more damaged than those of previous years (Mayberry, 2009, p. 237). These fears have lead students to intimacy issues and feeling of isolation.

Over the past decade, a visible social movement has been induced by the uprising of media and websites. However, it has undoubtedly peaked during the last couple of years. With the steady establishment of new social networks, there are varying viewpoints regarding the time the majority of people spend fixed to a screen. This is certainly food for thought. Is society isolating itself from face-to-face contact and resorting to online relationships? Possibly. But are such actions always critical and destructive? Opinions range on the subject. Through the analyzation of the argument, using examples such as an article by Barry Cooper, "Infatuation with Facebook friends knows no limits," the common myth of Echo and Narcissus, and a personal perspective,

Today, many relationships are built and maintained exclusively online, and, while Baym et al. (2007) found that online interactions were of relatively high quality, online relationships can be problematic. Cornwell and Lundgren (2001) found that “involvement - particularly commitment and seriousness - tended to be lower in cyberspace… and misrepresentation - specifically of age and physical attributes - tended to be higher in cyberspace.” But what about relationships that exist in both cyberspace and real space? In addition to being reflective of narcissistic tendencies, the creation of the ideal self through selfies and social media can created an altered perception of self that conflicts with their partner’s perception of the individual (Halpern et al., 2016). These differing perceptions are troublesome as the partner is “supposedly the person who knows the other best,” and may feel conflicted by these differences (Halpern et al., 2016). If a relationship exists exclusively in cyberspace, catfishing is a concern. If a relationship exists in real space, with a cyber presence, we see conflict resulting from jealousy and dissonance. For purposes of this study, we will focus on relations that exist in real space and in cyberspace to better understand how social media use is associated with relationship

This is represented Gerstein's discussion of the observer and the one who experiences intimacy (Gerstein, 77). This is even evident in philosophical discourse as far back as Aristotle’s (1995) distinction between polis and oikos. It is based on a descriptive division between the “common” and the “household” in Athens that establishes necessary boundary between the intimate and the communal. He argued that one cannot “lose” oneself in an intimate relationship if one is constantly worried about being overheard or put under surveillance (Gerstein, 78). This idea is limited, as it does not take into consideration, changing perceptions of intimacy.

that it became a platform for the creation of insincere relationships that lacked personal connection. When discussing the harmful effects of the Internet on the actions of those who participate in online relations, Merkle and Richardson state, “For example, the global presence of the Internet diminishes the need for spatial proximity . . . Internet communication allows for anonymity; and candid self-disclosure becomes significant as the only means for two users to know one another.” The introduction of the Internet in American society eliminated the need for people to directly engage in discussions with their peers, which took away the emotional value in their relationships

First of all, Wygant and Kelmer mention the same idea about communication in a romantic relationship. Wygant points out that it getting hard for people to communicate in everyday life. According to him for find a future partner we need to forget about social media and look around. He mentions an example about the girl who missed opportunity to meet with handsome guy because she checked her Facebook status. Equally, Kelmer states that Facebook and social media changed romantic relationships at all. Concurring with her, tradition steps that would-be couples expect do not survive no longer, so these operations are unclear and old- fashioned in a relationship. She contends that Facebook has replaced traditional courtships with new ways to communicate

Virtual spaces like blogging websites such as LiveJournal and Tumblr, networking places like Twitter and Facebook have become invaluable to humanity. They open up new ways to communicate and can bring the world into your bedroom, which can be a life changing experience as it was for me when I was a teenager. While there will always be criticism and cynical attitudes towards relationships built online it’s often lost in the noise that while society is shaped by advances in technology humanity shapes how it’s used for good or for

Wortham first begins her essay by introducing how her boyfriend and her interact through various apps such as G-Chat, Facebook Messenger, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and the one she was talking about You & Me. Worthman then proceeds to talk about the increasing popularity of these applications among couples and those seeking a partner or to make friends. But after providing her experience she then began to move into the purpose to why she wrote this article. Wortham first proceed to address the they sayers. Wortham claimed that some seem to believe that these dating, social apps can makes us “forget other ways to communicate” and that we “forget what face to face interaction can do”(Wortham 395, 396). After, acknowledge these claims she then

There are even television commercials centered around promoting technology, even if that means demoting relationships (Drago). These ads are promoting how easy technology is making our lives and showing us all of the new and exciting things that our devices are capable of. The public also has easy access to celebrity marriage scandals brought about, in part, by technology (Thomas). With this change is the realization that people tend to look up to celebrities and that just further enforces the idea that technology has changed over time, because people can now easily observe the details of someone else's life. Finally, one of the more intriguing changes is the research being placed on this topic. Professionals have gotten interested in the debate and have started looking into the way technology is affecting the relationships of college students (Thomas). This is because these changes in technology are affecting them the

“James Rachels, for example, argues that privacy is an essential prerequisite for forming relationships. The degree of intimacy in a relationship is determined in part by how much personal information is revealed.” There are things that we share with our friends that wouldn’t be shared with an employer. This is true to our when it comes to sharing information on a more functional level. We share things with a therapist or a doctor in privacy based on the assumption of trust. These bonds couldn't be possible without the assurance of trust. If we were always under observation we would’t be able to share openly. Without priacy relationships like marriage, friendships and doctor to patient wouldn’t exist. This is more clear when it comes to the topic of