Junot Diaz 's View On Young Adult And Dating

Junot Diaz’s “How to Date a Brown girl (Black Girl, White Girl, or Halfie)” is more than a mere story about handjobs. It is a satirical piece about a young dominican boy named Yunior explaining how to pick up girls. The He gives advice on how to change your style depending on the girls ethnicity and social class. It is told from a second person perspective as if the he was addressing the reader directly. Diaz uses setting, satire , and theme to highlight the cultural differences in the United States through the use of a boy trying to go on dates.

However, in the same way these stories are assimilated to each other, they also have their differences. These two stories differ in the perspective from where each story is told. One side tries to enforce rules and create barriers, whereas the other side is the reaction to the results of these rules and barriers, which later lead towards expectations of certain behaviors. The mother in “Girl” speaks as if she has been accustomed to living this way all her life and, according to her, its how her daughter should live also. Each family has different rules depending on their ethnicity. Most parents raise their daughters with the rules their own parents made them believe in, which in the end just creates stereotypes for others to use. In “How to date a brown girl”, the teenage boy uses this all through the story by speaking in a self-assured and experienced way, as if he knows these girls because of the existing stereotypes. While one story encourages a specific behavior on a girl, the other story takes advantage of this repeatedly seen behavior in order to get what he wants from the

Know on the main topic teen dating. I believe that parents should make rules on dating because we are still young, some of us might not know what to do. Parents should be allowed to make rules on dating but not the rules that are so strict that you can't go out with this person that has stolen your child’s heart. The rules that should be made should guide your child throughout Middle and High School. The dating rules should not restrict them because that is probably going to make your child a liar because we're still kids and we want what we want. So if you're restrict us by making rules that don't allow us to go out on dates that going to make us not care about the rules you made.

In “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid, we have a mother conveying important life advice to her daughter in order for her to adapt to cultural customs and most important to learn the rules of social behavior. Her mother's advice is not only intentionally told in order for her to become the proper antiguan woman she believes in raising, but is also told to criticize her actions and everyday doings. Her mother makes it very clear, in order to live a proper antiguan life, there are many rules that one must follow. With deeper interpretation of Kincaid’s work we come to the realization that her overall message suggests the idea that women as a whole should be domestic and should behave a certain way in our society in order to avoid being viewed as a promiscuous woman.

This world is now in the 21 century, teenage have a bigger mentality then parent. When it comes to sex teenage will find their way to be active even thought they are at an early age consider them immature, but some parent

Cultural dating techniques and sexual practices among youth has changed drastically over the decades. From a postmodernist perspective, this is largely due to society, the morals, values and lessons that are taught in our social institutions. Dating practices have become less formal which is now considered the new norm, “we have moved into a “late-modern society” that is increasing anomic (or less normed) in certain respects” (Cote & Allahar, 2006, p. 28). There is no more ‘traditional roles’ of dating or even clear guidelines. How girls are supposed to behave is constantly changing and reinforced by various authority figures, society and our educational institutions. Dating and sexual practices have gone from the relationship first then, sexual activity, to sexual activity and then commitment. Media and society are now telling females to explore their sexuality before settling down except continue to look down upon the females who do so. Males continue to be taught to have multiple sexual partners and look for a female partner whom has only had very few sexual partners if any. Not only has institutions and other influences taken away the standards from dating, they are sending mixed messages. Encouraging females to have the best of the

Parents should be able to limit their child’s dating life due to recent brain studies. According to the PBS documentary “Inside the Teenage Brain”, teenagers’ brains are still developing from puberty and are more likely to try riskier or more dangerous events, such as going out with more dangerous people. Parents need to keep an eye out on their children as they may have chosen the wrong person to go out with and could possibly end up getting hurt. The article also says that teenagers are afraid to ask their parents for help, entitling the adolescents to do whatever they think is correct. Teenagers don’t always know what is right and wrong, so they need their parents to guide them in times of need. In the article “Beautiful Brains” by David Dobbs, he states that when parents gently, but steadily, lead them through teenage years, adolescents do better as adults. If parents lead their children through the tough parts of their life, such as looking for a date, the teens will remember their parents’ advice for later in life. Therefore, adolescents should not be able to date a certain person without their parents’ consent.

Ageism can affect both the youth and the elderly, but in today’s times it is mainly focused on the elderly. The elderly are constantly harassed, judged, and stereotyped for their age. The elderly are viewed as disabled, has-beens, and basically serve no propose, instead of being viewed as wise, bold, experienced, and valuable. In the article “Putting The

Does the maxim, “never trust anyone over 30” ring a bell? In American culture at least, a chasm between the generations has always existed to one degree or another. What is frustrating is the apparent disconnect that adults have in light of this paradigm – a cultural anomaly that has been in existence for hundreds

People are denied their sense of agency on many levels in regards to decision-making, freedom, and independence. The youth, as well as the elderly are either seen as incompetent because lack of knowledge or expertise. Youth especially minors are given less acknowledgment due to being such a young age, especially when it comes to medical practices. Youth are discriminated by older people, usually those who are established. For instance, youth and crime, all youth that have had a criminal record are labeled as being bad, and a lot are stereotyped into this system because they have the same attributes as others who have caused crime. The elderly gets discriminated by because they are not as able, physically and mentally, and professionals and younger people talk down to them because they think/ know that they no longer don’t know what may be the best situation for them. The elderly people get taken advantage of sometimes because of this because they are so unknowing of the continuous changes around them.

The Dark Matter of Love is an interesting study about child development across the lifespan. In this documentary, the Diaz family consisted of the father, mother, and one child (Cami) before the adoption. This family decides to adopt three Russian children all at once. It is important to mention that none of these children had experience love in their lives and they all had very different personalities.

In an article “Teen Dating Guidelines”, written by Jessica Childs, on November 6, 2014, she claims that parents should enforce rules on dating for their children. In which I agree with her statement, parents should put rules on their children to ensure their happiness and safety. Even though I agree with parents enforcing rules on their children’s dating, they shouldn’t be so strict though. Not only would setting rules for your children benefit them to prevent from bad situations, but it also teaches them how to listen and understand your thoughts.

Junot Diaz, the author of “A Cheaters Guide to Love” writes his short story with many different references to anti-feminism. He writes about women in different ways to show them as powerless, and un-superior to the main character in the short story. From this short story, Diaz conveys the main characters ways when he shows the him talking about, the girl he calls to have sex with, the women at the yoga class, and the files read at the end of the story that show the fifty girls he cheated on his fiancé with. Diaz creates his main character and puts him in the second person to relate to the reader, but show his anti-feministic signs.

Adults, or at the very least somebody a few years older than us, has life experience to assist us on our own pathway and therefore we should listen to what they have to say. Although some people say "age is just a number" while I hear the intention of that statement it fails to grasp an even grander idea, with age comes experience. Young one always think that they know better when in reality it is their elders that do because of their worldly knowledge. Children should attempt to understand this for their own benefit. This may not be an easy thing to comprehend or accept but if they do they may be better off.

What is considered a proper way for a woman to act in general society and who has the correct answer? Jamaica Kincaid’s story “Girl” is fundamentally an instructional writing where a mother is primarily caring for her daughter’s future. The story is performed in fiction where the child needs to get prepared to confront the world as a woman. Most of the commands the mother gave to her daughter are ambiguous; there is not enough content, however, it can be assumed that the mother is helping the girl evade any major consequences from not being properly prepared for society. The mother, with several recommendations, tried to make her daughter understand her gender and how her behavior and appearance should be seen through other people’s eyes. Most of the mother’s instructions are related to moral conduct and social relationships that follow an old fashion model of womanhood. “This is how you behave” and “This is how you bully a man” (Kincaid) are some of the pointers that the mother provided to the daughter in hopes of guiding her actions. The piece offers serious coming-of-age advice from a narrator who has much experience to give (Smith, 152). The mother’s main goal is to cement her daughter’s place in society as a respectable woman. Throughout every stage, the mother clearly shows how the girl was growing fast and how she needs to be prepared to confront life.