Language: A Core and Critical Component in Interpersonal Relationships

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Language is a core and critical component in interpersonal relationships. Therefore, it makes sense that research is starting to reveal the specific ways individuals communicate can have a great impact in how well two people get along, how well two people like each other, and how similar those two people are in other ways. The Bower (n.d.) article shows that specific words, such as pronouns, can be the key to determining conversational alignment. The pronouns people use when speaking or writing indicate how much the person is other-centered versus self-centered. The so-called "function words" are important because they "tap into verbal coordination between two people because these words are independent of conversation topics and require shared knowledge to be used effectively," (Bower 2). It is for this reason that people from two completely different ethnic backgrounds, or people with entirely different careers or political views can share lives and get along. Although the research in the area of language-style matching is promising for its application to business as well as social science, the online language-matching tool is not highly effective. I entered several samples of text from my partner and my communications. I tried both emails and texts, as well as essays we wrote for school. On all of the samples entered, the language style matching score was below 70 and described as "below average." Yet the Website also claims, "LSM is higher in ongoing conversations such
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