Lecturing and Listening

919 WordsOct 5, 20074 Pages
Have you ever noticed the way men and women converse with each other? Is there a difference with how they communicate verbally and non-verbally? Studies and experiments by linguist have30 shown that differences in speech and body language are apparent between the male and female gender. First, men impose and lecture their side of the story when conversating while women on the other hand have a more open exchange of ideas. Second, men do not show any body signals indicating that they are listening but women on the other hand give signs that show their affirmation or opposal. Third, men generally dominate the conversation most of the time while women just listen passively. As Deborah Tannen describes in her essay, "I'll Explain it to you:…show more content…
They stated that women use "yeah", to mean, "I am with you, I follow", whereas men tend to say, "yeah", only because they agree. I personally do not agree because this type of listening technique can be used by both men and women in the same conversation at the same time. Last but not the least men and women have different roles in conversation because men must act a certain way with men and women must act, but in a different way, with women. At the cafe I work at a couple of old retired men come in regularly to chat with each other. They exchange ideas after the main speaker starts a conversation on a subject, "leading the way", I guess you could say, but the topic always swings toward different directions everytime the other man speaks. Whereas women can focus on the same subject all day. So men are used to trying to maintain the upper hand while women are passive listeners to each other. This is why I think men often dominate conversations over women. In conclusion, men and women have different methods of conversating ,such as men like to lecture while women are more open to exchanging ideas. Second, men do not show any gestures to signify they are listing as to women who give signs such as nodding. And lastly, men dominate the conversation most of the time while women listen passively. Despite the differences in they way they communicate, I believe that overall both are essential proponents in the conversation. Each has its own unique attribute that
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