Let Me Set A Scene For You

I have only talked to this person about two times since being here at college. It was a Tuesday morning, around 7:45 a.m. We were in the elevator, going from the fourth floor to the first. I was nervous getting on the elevator, knowing I was about to do it. I stood right by this person, since there were five others, all around the age of nineteen, with us. As I started to ask how their morning was, I leaned in to talk to them. This person actually pulled their head back away from mine as they started to talk. I noticed their eyes got wider and they were hesitant to answer me back. During our conversation, I felt embarrassed because I could tell I made them uncomfortable. After we got to the first floor, I walked fast to leave this person. I was that self-conscious, I wanted to leave immediately. Breaking a social norm with an acquaintance is an awkward situation for both people.

It is actually a great deal of fun to behave outside of the socially excepted norm when you are with people that are unwilling to follow suit. I was able to get away with my behavior because no one was willing to say anything for fear of “causing a scene.” There is great power in having no shame. I eventually explained the reason for my behavior and all is well with my new friend.  During my second trial, I made the same approach with a female subject. I treated her gesture with more contempt than in my first trial. I did not feel as embarrassed or out of place as I did with the young man. I credit this comfort level to the fact that I had practiced this behavior once before and with practice comes confidence. This particular young lady was clearly an extroverted personality type and did not take my offense as gracefully as had the young man. This may have been because my offense was bolder than the first trial. She showed her offense by looking me up and down and with one hand on her hip, stated, “Anyways…” She proceeded to ignore my presence and continued her conversation with our mutual friend. This experiment obviously had a specific angle and expected result. The typical result will be discomfort and even mild hostility. I really enjoyed watching people struggle in between responding how they “ought” to instead of how the instinctively wanted to. For me, the most valuable lesson learned is the advantage

As a white male from a rural town in the Northeast corner of Colorado that practically borders Nebraska, I usually have the same experiences as my peers in my graduating class. However, every year we tend to get new classmates that immigrated from South American countries in order to have a better life. Typically, besides from family experiences, this is the only time that my peers and I approach someone from a different background. There was a girl that moved into my hometown of Holyoke my freshmen year, and she was put into my freshman gym class. In order to save her privacy, I will refer to her as Angie for the rest of the essay. Angie spoke very broken English and was just starting to talk to us in gym class. I would talk to Angie every day during gym in order to get to

First I established rapport by greeting Ms. Early with a hi, how are you etc. Because I had a previous established relationship with her, approximately 10 years ago, and I knew that she was a friendly person I gave her a hug as well. She asked about my three children and how they were doing. We also talked about what has been going on in my life the past 10 years. Of course I did not go on and on about myself. I asked her about her promotion to the executive director position. SAFE also had a brand new building and I told her how nice it was. I explained to her the reason why I chose her for my project. At this point I felt very comfortable and I believed she did

In social settings, I display bravery by initiating conversation. Though this can often cause anxiety, I value meaningful relationships and good vibes so I have accepted that I must initiate in order to get what I want, and over time, I have become more confident in my social skills so it became easier. I am the girl with the bright smile who will greet someone with an enthusiastic “hello.” Through my experiences, I have realized that socializing makes for a great time, allowing people to laugh, smile and learn new things. So, as a Jock, I have found myself approaching people first upon expecting the best outcome of each encounter, rather than waiting around for something that may never happen, like a Puke. Sometimes it is good to live life on the edge.

Whilst entering a bar that your friend recommended, a shady looking guy brushes your shoulder and gives you a strange look, you immediately develop a sense of discomfort and question your friend’s taste in bars. What do you do? You decide to walk in anyway and ask for a drink, a stranger then sits next to you and starts to engage in conversation. You are immediately attracted to this person and develop a sense that they are cultured and educated. Do you respond? What do you say? As the night closes this person asks for your number and suggests meeting again soon. You trust their intentions but you just met them, do you give them your number?

As the students and I toured the site, I noticed how similar each “neighborhood” was and that was to make them not feel lost, to make them feel as if they are in the right place. Something else I noticed was the beauty shop, boutique, ice cream shop where the serve ice cream at 2 o’clock every day and the fix it shop. These are great examples that the site has provided their residents to make them feel as comfortable as possible, where everything they need is right there in walking distance. As the orientation was over in 30 minutes, I wanted to go ahead and get paired with my conversation partner. I sat down with her while her husband was visiting for lunch time, I began to introduce myself as she was looking into the bird cage. I asked her if she like birds and she just looked at me, I complimented her on her pretty nails color and her pretty shirt. Throughout the rest of my 30 minutes there she didn’t say one word to me and for me that was hard because I am a very talkative person and my concerns began to come into play. How do I come about this? How do I get her to speak and come out of her

As we get older, we begin to develop an attraction for other people. This is normal in most of people's life. That is my current case. I have developed feelings for a girl and now I am feeling things I have not felt before. I stepped up to the challenge and asked the girl I am attracted to on a date. I got a yes for an answer as I expected but this only threw me into a nervous state of mind. This is a girl who has been my best friend for several years and we were romantically involved for some time but things fell apart as she moved to a different state for college. As spring break is upon us she is returning home for a short period of time. I intend to take this opportunity to just talk with her and orient my feelings to the proper place.

I had never really gotten to know her until I was about fifteen years old. We only had minor exchanges for a period of about a year until I was sixteen. Finally, at one point she asked me if I would be interested in joining her for her morning walks during the summertime. Initially when she asked me this, I was hesitant to say yes. I thought to myself: isn’t it a little strange for a 16 year old to be spending time with a seventy year old? At the time this seemed very strange to me as I had only spent time with people my own age or close to it; nevertheless, I agreed to her proposal and joined

I noticed a woman in the seafood department looking over the selection of first. I walked toward here and got within one foot of touching her and said, “Hello” even though she saw me approaching, she jumped back as if she was startled. I continued to try to get closer to her as I asked which fish her thought was good. She walked to the other side of the shopping cart and put it between us. While I tried to be courteous and cheerful and non-threating, I couldn’t help but feel as though this woman was a little bit scared. She didn’t know how to react to my actions of wanting closes and closer proximity for our conversation. I also tried this experiment at my apartment complex. I went outside to the courtyard this afternoon and walked by a line of par benches. An older lady, perhaps someone’s grandmother, was sitting and watching the kids play in the sand box. I purposely sat down right beside this woman, almost touching her leg with mine. She jumped up and let out a small scream. I had frightened her. I slide over and apologized for my action. I went on to comment on “What a gorgeous day it was and how cute the kids were. This was a hard experiment to perform. People naturally want to keep their “Me space.” I found it hard to violate this space on both

Samantha (Sam) Conte is a senior Art Education major at Ball State University. I met her at a Dance and Music Collaboration concert in Sursa Hall. She and I were there for the same reason-to watch friends in the concert. After the performance was over, I was speaking with one of my friends, and she came over to congratulate the same friend. We were introduced and ended up going to dinner all together at the end of the night. During our dinner conversation, I started to get to know Sam a little better, asking her questions about her major and classes. When she did the same, I told her that I had a field trip coming up and was stressed out over the work load ahead of me, including this paper. She said that if I had not already done a religious

Over the weekend I went to see Deadpool by myself, and I figured it’d be a great time to violate a social norm. It’s not every day that you sit next to a random person in a movie theatre and initiate a full blown conversation, but it’s what happened on Friday night. I sat next to a woman named Sara, and she was actually very delightful. She was also there by herself and was also a big Marvel fan, like myself.

On February 18, I attended a business launch party. During the event, I ran into someone who really made me nervous the first time I met her, and not because she was mean but because I thought she was so cool. Last November, I was introduced to Ania Jablonowski, who works for a Fortune 500 company in Chicago, and has the ultimate connection

Anthony had already gotten a date. Why did he push me to the side for her? He probably just met her too. The night was pretty boring considering that the person I planned to hang out with ditched me and everyone else either had a partner or was on their own. The guys offered me to hang out with them, and so did the girls, but I just wasn't feeling it. The most exciting thing that has happened this evening was me being able to get a free Corndog by guessing the age range of the female employees. Guessing the ages of female isn’t that hard, to be honest. I sat alone at one of the park benches closest to the food stand. That’s the place I’d rather spend the rest of my evening anyway. My phone happened to be my only form of entertainment. Scrolling

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