It was near the end of winter 2005, when my grand-aunt suddenly fell ill. In a short period of time her illness worsened and the doctors informed my family, my grand-aunt only had a couple of months to live. The news was devastating to my family as we watched a vivacious, independent, and outspoken woman, who enjoyed shopping, reading mystery novels and spending time with family become very weak and confined to her bed. Instead of placing my grand-aunt in a hospice facility, my family and I, with the assistance of a hospice nurse cared for my grand-aunt in her home until her passing.
My grandma was a mother of three. She had my Aunt heather, Aunt Angie, and my mother. She raised my mother and Heather while going to college, which is a fight on its own, but to make it more difficult, she had hodgkins and had spent over an entire year fighting it in Iowa’s childrens hospital and held victory her senior year.. The chances of surviving hodgkins in the 60’s was around 75% and wasn’t the end for my Grandma, she lived to fight another day. Moving on in her life,She spent most of her time studying, she graduated high school on the top of her class, then going to college of hamilton for business. During that time, she had my mom and my Aunt Heather on the way.
Great-Grandma is indispensably loving towards her family. She used to come to the great grandkids birthday parties but, when you are 95, you can’t always get out to go places. Great-Grandma appreciates family inviting her and Great-Grandpa to meals at the grandkids house. Also, she loves her husband Clayton James. They have been married 75 years this past December. Great-Grandma has been going to church her whole life. She grew up in a christian family with parents and grandparents who were strong believers.
I couldn’t tell at the time because she was always checking on me that it seemed annoying that she felt like she had to do everything for me but I now know she was just trying to help and I couldn’t be more blessed because of that. I am very thankful for my grandmother and wouldn’t have gotten through a lot of things without her. She cares for everyone and doesn’t realize how much just her company alone means to me. She has helped me since I was a little kid and has been a big part of who I am today. I will always look at my grandmother as the great person she is and most importantly my
Auntie Carolina has experienced many planned (and unexpected) events in her life. For instance, she was born in and lived in Argentina, helped my mom with her store in Wisconsin, and travels all around the world for her job as an import export saleswoman. Auntie Carolina has a strong connection with our family, and she can easily connect with others. Her gentle and good-natured personality makes her easy to talk to about anything, and she can easily turn a bad situation into a positive one. Every time I see her, Auntie Carolina teaches me about her experiences and how they have affected her as a person.
One thing she practically has worked hard for, is keeping the family together. My brother and I, had not had as much contact with our cousins, if we hadn’t had our grandmother. She invites our two families to Sunday dinners, and brings her grandkids to the cinema or theater. Every seventeenth of May, our family stops by her apartment to eat her traditional cake and mixed eggs with sugar. She has brought me to many trips to the mountains, and taught me table manners and to be polite. Even though I don’t see her that much, I appreciate what she has done for me and the
First of all my mamaw has always been there for me she is always there when I need her. Every time I want to go to her house she always comes and get me even though she probably has something important to do. When I ask her to help with my homework she always does and I know I can depend on her. She has only told me no to eating too much ice cream or too much sweets. The point is I care about my grandma just like she cares about me.
The relationship my grandfather and I have is a very precious gift to me. He has been one of the few of my family members to always support my decision to become a teacher, and he and grandmother were the ones who took care of me when I was younger. Their values and way of life have greatly affected me in who I am today. They taught me the values of hard work, focusing on education, and caring for others. Now that my grandpa is no longer able as independent as he used to be, my dad and I take shifts doing what we can between our schedules to prepare food, upkeep his apartment, and assist with other daily tasks so that my grandpa can stay where he lived with my grandma. My dad has always been a gifted caregiver in his past careers, and this definitely a trait I share with him. Now we both use this skill to return the favor to my grandfather. This is a humbling task that we would not entrust to anyone else.
One summer, when I was 11, I lived with my grandma. I was a very adventurous child and my grandma lives in the very south side of Laredo, so whenever I would go outside, she would make my older cousin would go with me. To keep me from going toward street, she would tell me that there was a 1,700 year old creature called “The Ripper” that would take small children, rip them of their skin, and eat their remains. Supposedly, it was snake like with faded blue and green scales, arms and legs with six claws each, full blazing yellow eyes, and a long tail with three rows of four sharp spikes. As you can tell, my grandma was really graphic and dramatic. In a way, her graphicness worked and kept me away from the street. She would tell my that if I had ever went to the street and it took me, she would never be able to get over the anguish she would feel. I was always so curious on where the creature lived; a house, on the streets, in the drains. My mission was to find out where it lived, and defeat it. I was really intimidated by it, but I knew that with my strength and confidence, I could do great things. Such as, defeat the old creature.
Ever since she was young, Esther has always been a working woman, and has never slowed down. She has been very active and mobile her whole life and does not let her age or diabetes stop her from doing what she loves. After everything my grandmother has went through growing up she still has plans for the future even at age 71, whether it is taking care of her family or traveling to new cities or countries.
The relationship between my grandmother and I was great in the beginning, but one day something happened that made it take a turn for the worse. Not too long ago, my grandma came to live with us. At the time, my mother was pregnant with my little brother, so it would be two new additions to our family. When she came, we had a great bond and got to know each other. But then an argument we had changed everything and our bond wasn’t the same after that day.
I have gained a great deal of personal insight throughout the many obstacles of my life. I was the kind of person who did everything for everyone else. I put everyone before myself time after time again soon to realize it was destroying me. I was working so hard to please everyone else I forgot about myself and what I needed to survive. If it wasn’t for my grandmother I do not know if I would have ever been the same. She made sure I was still focusing on my grades because she told me it was the most important thing I can do to better myself. My grandmother is one of the greatest people in the world there is just something about her that amazing and I know I wouldn’t be here without her. I started to think I was doing everything wrong and I caused everything to go bad and everyone to hate me. She reminded me that I was just trying to make others happy and they did not deserve it they walked all over me and hurt me. I realized how strong I was how much I had been dealing with and how far I was going to go.
I never met her in my life before and only heard her voices through the phone. I knew how important she was to my family because after all she's my grandma; however, I couldn't connect with her. She lived 7,739 miles across the world in the province in Fuzhou,China from me. I knew nothing about Fuzhou, China besides the fact that it was located in the southeast. On Tuesday, June 25th 2013, I made the journey to finally join her and experiences a completely different lifestyle. There I end up learning a valuable lesson that still strongly influences my identity today.
My grandparents are servant leaders. They want me to learn all of the knowledge they have acquired plus more with me attending college. They help everyone without being asked. They are baby boomers which means they are work alcoholics. My grandpa has his own business so every day after my grandma gets home from working at an elementary school she goes out into the shop and helps my grandpa until 11pm at night. They transformed the double garage into a shop when they moved to Sellersburg. They moved to Sellersburg because that’s where their kids and grandkids lived. They love spending time with them and helping them. My parents’ house flooded when I was in elementary and they took us in without us asking. My uncles’ house in Henryville got hit by the tornado a few years ago and they drove up there to help by providing a generator, etc.