Liking Is for Cowards Essay

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Jonathan Franzen wrote the article, “Liking is for Cowards. Go for what Hurts.” This article caused extreme interest and controversy by the topic of his argument. The purpose of Franzen writing the article was to challenge us to get back to the true meaning of love and not being so terrified of rejection. He feels that we had become too comfortable just liking what people expect us to and have lost the real understanding of the word love. Franzen stated, “If you dedicate your existence to being likable, however, and if you adopt whatever cool persona is necessary to make it happen, it suggests that you’ve despaired of being loved for who you really are (Franzen, “Liking is for Cowards. Go for what Hurts.”). Franzen even admitted throughout…show more content…
He wants people to step away from their technology and go out into the real world and have real world experiences. He wants people to take risks, but most of our world is afraid of that, because of the fear of rejection. Franzen states, “The prospect of pain generally, the pain of loss, of breakup, of death, is what makes it so tempting to avoid love and stay safely in the world of liking.” He’s admitting that love is hard and it comes with its own risks, but in the end, it is definitely worth it. Franzen discusses his relationship to the environment to try to expand on the ethos of his writing. He wrote how in college he developed a strong liking for the environment and the world around us. He began to be frustrated and discouraged by all of the negatives that the world faces every single day, such as rising global temperatures and the accumulation of garbage in the ecosystem. Eventually, he made a conscious decision to back away from the environment, but then he found a fascination with birds. He felt a sense of love for the birds, and ironically, this made him even more concerned about the environment because that was the home of the birds that he had such a passion for. “And here’s where a curious paradox emerged. My anger and pain and despair about the planet were only increased by my concern for wild birds, and yet, as I
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