From the moment we are put into our parents’ arms, they begin to shape our identity. Our appearance, thoughts and actions are developed from them and what they believe is “right” and “wrong.” However unfair as it may seem at times, everything done is based on their past experiences, the culture we are born into and ultimately done for our own well-being.
“Never change who you are to please people”, “There is nothing you can’t do” and “We are proud of you no matter what” are three very common phrases used within a family. Parents especially use these (among many others) to teach their children to be comfortable with who they are so that it is easier for them to find their place in the world. Even when we are merely a thought, our…show more content…
Although this may be true to an extent, our culture moulds us into respectable and responsible human beings. Traditions link us to the past generations of our family and give us a better understanding of our culture in general. As easy as it seems at times, to ignore where you come from and change who you are, it takes a proud person to be proud of their culture and therefore find their place.
The novel “Looking for Alibrandi” by Melina Marchetta is a perfect representation of how our family and culture play an integral part in our journey to discover who we are and what our purpose in this life is. Seventeen year old Josephine Alibrandi is on a journey to discover who she is and how her past and present somehow intertwine. Coming from a traditional Italian background, Josie tries to escape her culture and avoid her family in the process. She desperately wants to become ‘emancipated’ and break free from the things and people she believes are holding her back. Due to this perception, she is holding herself back and restricting her mental and emotional development. Towards the end of the novel, Josie realises that her family and culture is a huge part of her and if she lets that go, she is saying goodbye to herself; her identity.
To conclude, we must all cherish our family because no matter how bad or good a situation may be, they will