Loss and Grief Essay

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Loss and grief:

Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain.
It is a sorting process.
One by one you let go of things that are gone and you mourn for them.
One by one you take hold of the things that have become a part of who you are and build again.
—Rachael Naomi Remen. MD


In this essay I will outline the main theoretical models relating to loss and grief. I will show how these theories may support individuals within the counselling process.
To demonstrate the above I will draw upon my experience and learning from classroom triadic practice, my counselling placement practice and my personal and professional development to date.
During the process of which I will
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The major significance of the Kubler-Ross model is that it maps emotional responses of the individual’s journey through the changing landscape of the loss and grieving process. The counsellor can use this model as a guide to help navigate their client through the ‘roller coaster of change’ and the fluctuating emotional terrain of grief.

J. William Worden sets out the 'four tasks of mourning' (Worden 1991).

The four basic dynamic tasks are: • To accept the reality of the loss. • To work through the emotions associated with the loss. • To learn how to cope with practical tasks of living without the support of the deceased. • To find a new place in one’s emotional relationship with the deceased.

These tasks relate to the ideas of denial, anger and grief, learning to cope’ and' relocating the deceased in ones mental and emotional life'. Worden refers to the work of Klass 1996, which challenges the notion of breaking the bond in order to let go of a loved one and form new attachments. Klass suggested a successful process of grief through bereavement was one which created a ‘continuing bond, compatible with other, new and continuing relationships’ (Klass 1996, In Machin. P44. 2011).
Within all these theoretical standpoints, the theme and process of coming to terms with death and relationship could be regarded as the essence of an existential quest; one
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