Love : What Makes A Marriage Last?

As stated in our text, various factors can bind married couples together, such as economic interdependencies, legal, social and moral constraints, relationship, and amongst other things. In the recent years some of these factors have diminished their strengths. The modern generation sees marriage in a different perspective altogether. Individuals today feel they are stable independently, they do not need to rely on their spouse for emotional or financial support. Many are career driven and soar to conquer their dreams over settling down with a family. Such untraditional views have increased divorce rates.

“Will Your Marriage Last?”, by Aviva Patz, is a cohesive article about marriage and divorce. Aviva Patz is the executive editor of Psychology Today. Patz narrates the story of Ted Huston, a professor at the University of Texas, who followed the lives of 168 couples for 13 years after their wedding date. She was then able to draw conclusions about what makes a couple stay together or end up filing divorce papers. Although marriages and divorce are the themes of this article, it is really about society’s pressure on young people to be perfect.

The majority of people who join together with their significant other through the act of marriage hope and dream that marriage will surround them with infinite love and happiness; unfortunately that is not always the case. In fact, “according to data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s 2013 American Community Survey, 10 percent of Maine women and 11 percent of men in Maine are divorced.”1 Though 10 and 11 percent seem like fairly small percentages, 10 percent of Maine women is approximately 67,831 women, and 11 percent of Maine men is approximately 71,506 men, which truly are not small figures to take into consideration. Since marriages do not always have a happy ending

Variables such as abuse, illness, death, and financial issues all factor into crumbling marriages; “irreconcilable

In Aviva Patz’s “Will Your Marriage Last?” she proposes that marriages can be predicted to either succeed or end in divorce based on certain factors. Based off of a lecture she attended at the American Psychological Association convention in Boston, Patz presents the idea that a marriage’s success can be determined within the first two years and if the relationship shows disillusionment or the “enduring dynamics model.” Patz’s article does not effectively prove her stance on if a marriage can be predicted to last, but rather exemplifies doubt as to if she personally believes in the ideas she offers.

Prior to describing what a man will expect from a wife, Judy Brady establishes her credibility within the first couple sentences of her essay. Brady states “I belong to that classification of people known as wives. I am A Wife. And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother” (1). This quote is significant since Brady makes it clear in the beginning of her article that she has firsthand experience of being a wife and a mother. Her experience allows her to have a vast amount of knowledge on the

When people think of marriage they think of this happily ever after story but in reality marriage isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Marriage doesn’t always end like how it does in the movies. There is so much work that is put into a marriage as in being faithful, loyal, and honest.. Communication is key to any relationship or marriage. Marriage is not 50/20, one person can not put in all the effort into a marriage for it to be successful.

Marriage is a special thing in a person’s life. Usually people unite in marriage because of their love for one another and they see something meaningful in that person. There are some marriages, however, where people marry for fame and fortune. Usually these marriages end in disaster resulting in divorce.

Marriage is a union many Americans hope to enter in their life. While some marriages last a lifetime, some sadly end in divorce. I got the honor to interview a lovely couple who have been married twenty-five years and are still standing strong today.

The number one cause for disunion is greatly disagreed upon. During the first ten years of marriage. There are ten things to be careful of. That can lead to separation. The first cause is Getting married before twenty-five. Youth can cause many problems in life, and marriage. If one partner earns less than twenty-five thousand dollars per year. The other might want to leave for greener pastures. Statistically different race marriages end in divorce. It is still not socially accepted by everyone, everywhere. If he or she has been raped. It is harder to maintain a marriage. If they have no religion or different religion. Strife can be caused for married couples. Children can be the cause of disunion, for many reasons. When children grow up, and their parents are split. It is easier to think annulling marriage is ok. Having less than a college degree. One partner might think them to be too stupid. Being unemployed is a contributing factor to marital severance. No one wants to be married to a bum. Lack of communication, nagging, stonewalling, and escalating conflicts also cause dissolution. There are other causes too. Such as being abused, adultery, and the loss of a child. These things tend to cause strain on a marriage. They can even be hard to forgive. Eventually these things lead to marital

Multitudes of people live with the negative idea that half of marriages fail and end in divorce. In reality, the divorce rate has never even been close to such discouraging statistics. When young newlyweds are bombarded with these false statistics, they lose hope and use it as an excuse to give up when their marriage goes through a rough patch. In contrast, researchers should focus more on the positive aspects and give couples hope. Hope can produce a lasting impact on marriage and can help them thrive. A woman

Above all, these are the most important reason not to divorce”(Ten Reasons Not to Get a Divorce). Marriage is a commitment to stay together until death. In order to get through the highs and lows of being married you have to be willing to face all issues together and not give up. “There is no perfect marriage. There are no perfect families. Every marriage hits some potholes in the road, and for some, an occasional open manhole cover” (Owens). It is unrealistic to believe that anyone can live with another human being for any length of time without having relationship problems(Owens). A marriage should be based on unconditional love for one another” (Owens). In today’s society people lead busy and hectic lives and don’t want to take the time to work on their marriage. It is easier to quit and move on when things become hard or challenging. Men and women have to reflect on what brought them together in the first

The ingredients used to create a dream wedding, such as a white satin gown, or a three-tiered wedding cake, are not enough to form an everlasting marriage. Divorce rates have drastically increased over the past decade. This fluctuation of unhappiness among married couples may be due to a wide variety of issues. However, sociologist Medora Barnes has sought to pinpoint it down to one primary issue, the lack of a solid foundation in family structure.

There has been a myth for the past five years or so saying that the divorce rate in the United States has been around 50 percent. But, this statistic is completely false. What has been happening is the “divorce rates [have] increased [for couples married] in the 1970s and 1980s, but in the last 20 years they have dropped” (Miller 2014). This is great ‘news’ but the question is, why has it dropped so much when just a few years ago couples were divorcing like it was no big deal? A new study executed by Ronald Rogge, Ph.D., and Thomas Bradbury, Ph.D., shows that newly married couples can reduce their divorce rates by simply watching movies. There are a ton of romantic movies out there but, they never really show what happens after the main couple

A few relationships tend to be based solely on their partner’s level of attractiveness. We determine how attractive someone is, “ the prejudice of deciding what to do based solely on outward appearance could cost the pursuer the chance of a meaningful relationship” (Modern Day Adages). Although someone is “better” looking doesn’t mean anything when it comes to their character and personality. An “average” person can be more beautiful on the inside than a “better” looking person. As a society, we need to give others the opportunity to show themselves even if they’re “average.”