Love for Marriage and Love for Convenience

3074 Words Jun 17th, 2008 13 Pages
“I can sacrifice myself for my daughter but probably not for my wife.” This was what my college professor said the other day jokingly. He was obviously highlighting the fact that he loves his daughter very much, though, to me, it was an instant shock. I always believed that marital love is eternal and perfect. Doesn’t a marriage start by promising eternal love? Isn’t it even considered as a sin if you break the vow? I have come to think recently that my view on marriage is just an idealised imagination. I always refused to face reality. Looking at our society very carefully, it seems that not all marriage partners share a strong passionate bonding of love, especially those who have grown old together. To be even precise, I cannot even see …show more content…
this desire formed modern marriage of convenience. Wit or irony encompasses the inherent instability of romance, fine-tuned to its late modern peculiarities. Love and marriage clearly were always ironic. This is, marriage constructed for reasons other than the reasons of love. Such marriage is orchestrated for personal gain or some other sort of strategic purpose. A couple may wed for reasons of citizenship or right of abode, for example, immigration.

I started to think that it is not a bad idea to wed for convenience. Historically, marriages in Japan were often arranged between families, called omiai, in order to protect status wealth, title, inheritance, or similar issues of property. Such marriages went forward with little or no consideration of love between the people to be married and this is happening everywhere. A more moderate and flexible procedure known as a modern arranged marriage is gaining in popularity. Parents choose several possible candidates or employ matrimonial sites. The parents will then arrange a meeting with the family of the prospective mate, confining their role to responsible facilitators and well-wishers. Less pressure to agree to the match is exerted by the parents in comparison to a traditional arranged marriage. In some cases, a prospective partner may be selected by the son or daughter instead of by the parents or by a matchmaker. That way, the parents will either disapprove of the match and forbid the marriage

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