Love in Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

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Parenting is one of the greatest honors, commitments, and trials a person will go through. It will test resolve, health, and even sanity but it can also provide the greatest sense of love and accomplishment in a person’s life. Whether a parent’s style is strict, laissez-faire, or somewhere in between, the choices made by parents for their children will leave their marks on the character and development of their children long into their lives. Amy Chua knew this. She also knew how dangerous it would be to her children’s future to raise them in a style that would leave them open to falling short of the opportunities they would start with due to her own, and her parents’, successes and she resolved not to allow this to happen on her watch …show more content…
The eleventh chapter, “The Little White Donkey,” is Chua’s main point on the benefit of coercion tactics and persevering to accomplish what Amy was confident her daughter Lulu was capable of. In this case, Amy manifests confidence in a method atypical for Westerners: she believes Lulu proficient enough to master the piece and uses tactics of excoriation and threats on Lulu to motivate her to accept the premise and work from it. Even Jed, usually placid and supportive of Amy's parenting, gets criticism and is accused of not believing in Lulu when he tells her to let up on the haranguing (61). Beyond even Amy's own doubts, she continues in her diatribe and finds vindication in Lulu's sudden success and happiness in achieving the degree of mastery in the tricky technique needed to make the piece work. Lulu can play the piece correctly; and what’s more, she’s able to play “The Little White Donkey” as if it were her own. Although Chua’s methods upset not only her daughter but also her usually supportive husband, the key through all of this was that Amy believed her daughter could do it, bar-none, and by believing so hard and putting so much effort into making it real, Amy and Lulu accomplished their goal. The goal was often set high too, and kept being raised higher to continue the “virtuous circle” (Chua 29). Since Amy believed her daughters could do anything,…